Let me make this very clear.
When you ask, “How do I show a guy that I like him?” my answer will come from me thinking about how I would want a woman to show me.
Feel absolutely free to change every “me” below to “guys” in general because well, I’m a guy. 😀
Here’s what I’m thinking about…
I want you to pay random attention to me.
Sporadic nice reminders.
The occasional glance.
Don’t ever tell me you like me for your own personal reasons.
Don’t tell me you like me just because it’s something you feel you have to get off your chest.
The urges become too great and if we don’t let them out, we’ll go crazy. But what does it do to attraction? Does it help? What to focus on instead. When You Just Can’t Wait To Tell Your Crush How Much You Like Them
Don’t do it unless you know (within reason of course) that I am attracted to you and have given you every available reason to believe it.
How do you talk to me to show me?
Ask questions which mean something to ME.
Throw in a little how we both might be connected to those answers.
Don’t just talk AT me explaining your life history or the sordid details of your daily life. That’s someone I used to do a little too much and since it creates little tension or fun, we can save all that for later.
The social norms don’t change just because we’re attracted to each other although the details of the conversation might such as flirting and using well placed innuendos.
Most guys take flirting and innuendos as a sign you’re into us and since I’m sure lots of women have accidentally attracted a guy because of doing that with him, it’s safe to say if you are actually attracted to a guy, use it wisely just don’t over do it.
How would you ask me if I have a girlfriend which shows me you like me?
Assume I DO. 😀
Assume if you’re attracted to me then there must be another woman who does too and that I just might be having sex with her. 😉
Guys will tell you one way or another if they’re attached to another person. If they won’t or don’t and you find out later, then we have a another problem. He either likes you THAT much or he’s a cheater or he’s not really invested in his current relationship.
The odds are, if we’re interested in you physically and/or emotionally the last thing we want to tell you is if we’re single or not.
This is a very hazy subject and can be confusing.
Another reason just to assume it because that just makes guys feel better anyways.
Let’s face it.
You’re going to find out one way or another soon enough, right?
Showing me you like me might be nothing more than being attentive and responsive to OUR unique connection.
If you bring it up, badger a man for attention, or demand it, you know as well as I do it rarely works and when it does it’s not done for the right reasons. How To Get His Attention Without Looking Desperate or Scaring Him Away
Any more might complicate things.
Any more might come of as needy or worse yet desperate.
Any less and I might assume it’s not happening. I’ll grow distant and eventually give up trying or caring. Not a great combination.
The key words above are OUR CONNECTION.
We like to know you’re thinking of US. Maybe it was something we did or a topic we talked about or even a shared sensual moment where a kiss “almost” happened.
You see, if your focus is all on me or if your focus is all on you we tend to get the wrong picture.
We either think you’re not into us, a little too self-involved, or that you’re into us way too much for the time being.
However, mostly focusing on the OUR connection creates a relaxing bond but with an unmentioned space and can cause us to feel like the decisions to move forward or not is not one persons to decide.
We feel less chased and more challenged because we’re not always trying to get you to like us more. We can be ourselves and therefore open up even more.
The challenge created becomes, “How far can WE take this thing” and not “What do I have to do to please her so he’ll like me back.”
And, so it be said, IF we’re only mildly attracted to you and it feels like we’re being chased, we can either use that to our advantage by possibly using you for sex, or running because your interest in us supersedes the interest in us.
Showing a guy you like him and talking to men tend to work together. Which is why they’re included together today.
How you speak to us shows us or clues us in on the fact you’re feeling something beyond a friendship. Which includes a little flirting and fun topics.
What we talk about gives us all the information we need to connect with you on a deeper level. Connecting with you on that level creates the US or OUR part which I believe you’ll find most men really get into.
Granted it’s not ALL about connecting.
This article can not possibly cover everything and anything about talking to men and showing them you like them BUT I do feel that if you have followed along from the beginning, paid close attention to how NOT to show guys you like them…
Plus you have understood the “being attentive and responsive to OUR unique connection” (which I understand can be a terribly hard concept to gather) then you’ll hopefully have a much clear image of what to do the next time you start liking a guy and are looking for a way to tell him.
I’m going to tell you blatantly… don’t just say it unless you know without a doubt he feels the same way and is much too dense to figure it all out on his own. Don’t ruin the surprise. 🙂
SHOW him you like him.
Use some or more of what I shared with you today and of course if you have any questions at all today, make sure you leave them below.