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Why Do Guys Seem Mean To Girls For No Reason? Why He Is Teasing You

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Guys enjoy teasing women when there’s a hint of flirting involved in it.

Hello Kadiatou,

There are actually many reasons why guys can be a little mean to girls.

Let’s assume we’re talking about younger guys so as they get older you might notice they can get a little nicer but it’s not always the case. A debatable percentage of men never grow up with regards to how they communicate or commit to women.

It’s called teasing.

“He’s out to stir your emotions not unlike the good “ribbing” he may give his friends. Except he’s doing it a little differently with you. At least I hope he is. 🙂 Mostly he’s looking to have some fun with you.”

Why Do Men Continue to Do Something When They Know it Bothers You.

Sometimes it’s the ONLY way they know how to flirt.

If it’s not obvious that the guy is being a rude prick then you can guess he is attracted to you.

Why it happens and where it begins is a little more complicated.

My “manly” gut tells me it’s about using the old stupid trick against what some might call a woman’s greatest weaknesses with men…

Wanting what they (think) they can’t have AND having a perceived low self-esteem.

Teasing her negatively (or being mean) might be his way of lowering your self-esteem below his and by doing so, also makes him seem more attractive and less attainable.

If you find a guy “hard to get” or believe he would never be attracted to you, it has a strange effect of driving up your attraction for him.

Another effect of being somewhat mean to women is definitely being taught to lots of guys in every attraction book written.

It triggers an emotional response which for bad, better, or worse, definitely triggers attraction of some sort.

If he can’t make you feel something “nice” for him, why not make you feel something bad for him…. right?

Encouraging your anger, confusion, or self-doubt will tend to bring you closer to feeling attracted to him than a guy just being way too nice and kissing your ass all the time.

Lastly, if there ever was a lastly when we’re talking about us guys, it’s a very strange and weird way of a dude displaying indifferent confidence.

“When there’s no real challenge to prove we are, attraction fails. Why you like those who don’t want you and not like the guys who do want you.”

Why The Guys You Like Don’t Want You But You Don’t Want The Ones Who Do.

What guy who doesn’t have the balls would dare tease a woman or be slightly mean or rude to her, right?

So, in a way he’s displaying indifference because he showing you he doesn’t care how you see him or what you think of him.

He’s displaying confidence by not being afraid to say or do what’s on his mind.

All too nice guys struggle with this and it’s a big reason why they don’t attract lots of women.

They’re niceness is not trusted or believed or seems real when they’re so deathly afraid of saying what’s on their mind… around a woman that is. At home or with their buddies, the truth ALWAYS comes out.

Guys are mostly ONLY mean to girls they’re attracted to whether or not they care to admit their feelings.

Let’s not rule out the pricks who just get off on making others feel like shit by boosting their own ego, so it’s not always attraction.

However, generally speaking, a crush is usually involved.

Sometimes you’ll have to decide whether or not the guy has a severe character flaw or is just teasing you by being mean.

The easiest way to tell is, if he’s “trying” to laugh with you then he is “teasing” you!

Over all, in case you’re wondering…

YES! Some guys DO enjoy teasing a woman while being a little rude to her IF there’s a raised level of flirting because of it.

Flirting is a mostly human connection on a level which transcends society, age, and circumstance. Why Do Men (and women) Flirt? Does it Have Anything To Do With Love?


Peter White. Just some guy every woman should get to know because, well I “think” like a guy. 🙂 Stay in touchnewsletter, Why Do Guys Facebook – Twitter @peterwhite125Thanks for stopping by and be good, be bad, just BE something.

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36 comments… add one
  • Madelyn

    I go to school with a guy named Cole and to be honest I kinda like him, but he is so rude to me all the time and I dont know why, today he asked if I still had a boyfriend and I said no and he told me he probably broke up with me cuz he seen how ugly I was, I dont know why he would say that but it was really rude. Please help me.

  • Crystal

    There’s a guy I only just met a few weeks ago whose personality – his random funny comments and his overall dedication and passion toward the major he’s studying – I find extremely compelling, and I definitely agree about that sort of blatant indifference mistaken as confidence playing a huge role in my growing attraction.

    Luckily I don’t think the only factor is “hard to get” when it comes to him (although you’re also partly right since I have zero interest in the guys who are too obvious). I’ve noticed that I feel a lot less emotionally safe around him when he teases me, even when I know he’s just joking with me. I much prefer his normal spontaneous personality, the way he tries to understand my thoughts and feelings toward things, and the slightly inappropriate jokes combined with his sweet offhand remarks of “don’t die or I’m going to miss you” or random invitations out. Because the other day I asked him why he was throwing away something he just made, and he replied “it belongs in the garbage…like youuu” and we kept joking around after I whacked him and told him how mean that was, but my extremely sensitive meter had alarm bells going off. So I suspect that my interest is actually based on the idea that he’s into me, not his lack of attraction, because if I didn’t associate teasing with having a crush, I’d probably just find him annoying and mean-spirited (kind of reminds me of my friend’s boyfriend, who made the similar nasty comments but in a way that suggested he didn’t like me very much).

    In any case, I’m glad you reminded me about having to gauge his character, because I’ll probably be observing him a lot more carefully. The last guy I dated who would make these kind of small and humorous put-downs turned out to have a huge temper, and due to his incredibly caring and honest nature, I’m still not sure if I actually had shitty qualities for a friend or if he was overreacting.

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