Men always look at me too and I’m not talking about just gay guys. 🙂 It doesn’t have to mean more than just taking in the situation. Although it can so make sure you read on…
It could be just something I’ll call, “Protecting Our Environment.”
You see some guys are scared of their surroundings. They need to feel like they have a handle on the unpredictable. They’re in “protection” mode.
Let me put it this way: If you feared for your life in one way or another and you walked into a room full of strangers, some of them were men who not only could beat the shit out of you, but are entirely better with women than you are – you’d find a way to protect yourself from getting hurt. Physically and/or emotionally.
You might do certain things to protect your little bubble. You create a safety area. You scope out the scene without making too much eye contact – because in nature when a male stares down another male there are usually only two results – Fight or Flee.
This also means you’re going to make certain eye contact just to assure it’s “all good.”
When you take in your surroundings and the places guys are staring, you must first realize the environment and a man’s self-conscious thoughts do play a role. Keep it all in context.
After that, when you’re convinced there’s definitely more going on…
If men are always looking at you it simply means you ARE attractive. You are triggering his physical attraction towards you.
Whether they’re trying to check out your ass, are blinded “nicely” by your cleavage, admiring your legs, just watching the way you move, or whatever their preference is – if guys are always looking at you, I would take it a very good sign that you are in fact a highly attractive woman to that certain type of man.
Hence the term – attractive. 😀
Women catch my eye all the time.
I NEVER stare at women who I don’t find attractive. First of all it’s to protect me and her from a weird approach. Yes. I don’t want to lead her on. And yes, this is typically a bar or pub thing.
Secondly it’s because there’s something about a woman I find attractive which captures my attention. On one level I can control what I stare at but there’s always a weak part of me which kind of finds it impossible to avoid.
Sometimes I just don’t care if I get caught. Sometimes I do.
Oddly enough most men like me don’t want to get caught by the women we are the most attracted too because we feel that would ruin our chances of something else happening. (As far fetched as that sounds.)
We’re less likely to care if we get caught if we’re in a relationship because we’re just simply checking you out. When there’s little chance of something happening we may be more inclined to enjoy the attractive urges fully.
That’s because feeling attractive to a woman feels good and staring at her or checking her out – or taking in her every move is a pleasurable experience every man enjoys whether he admits it or not or whether he does it or not.
When we engage our physical attraction to a woman by noticing her and acknowledging the attraction is there to ourselves or our friends – for that fraction of a moment we feel masculine and good at being a guy. (Sort of 😀 )
After that what a guy feels or how he responds involves much more of his character, confidence and his beliefs. Which we’ll leave for another “guy answers” post.
While all of us guys have our own specific preferences and our attraction is triggered by different “parts” of a woman – when we’re looking, staring, or just catching your eyes we’ve already realized within a fraction of a second… we are in fact, attracted to you.