If a guy has ever bothered you, annoyed you, continued to do something even though you asked him not to… then the answer to your question, “WHY?!!!” is finally coming.
I once got advice from a guy who knew women. Trust me, he’s no slouch. He has the experience and knowledge well above the “average” guy. This is taken out of context but you’ll be amazed by what he suggested to me…
“When she is getting annoyed by something you are doing… don’t stop doing it – turn it up!”
I’ve seen it, used it often and yes – it has amazing results on most women.
The idea is to create friction. It was meant for guys who do little to create attraction because they’re always way too accommodating. Doing the opposite in their case yes, definitely pisses off a few women but the concept is – at least she’s feeling something.
This was also meant for the small things. Like playing music you don’t like. Wearing something you might find stupid. Never giving you a direct answer. Avoiding a topic you want to talk about.
And it is to be done with one important element – Humor.
When it’s laughable, when it’s not a big deal, when she presents false anger, fake pouty faces, slaps on the arm, it works that much better and the guy uses that as proof it’s working on you. He also has a way of determining how you handle the small things. (I’ve known some women to get way too upset over the smallest things. Let’s just say I moved on quickly.)
Remember that the next time a guy is beginning to annoy you over something AND he’s half-smiling about it. As much as it might be pissing you off, it means number one – he’s interested in you enough to do it and two – you have an incredibly easy way to amp up the flirting. In other words something is definitely going on between the two of you. There’s a definite chemistry and he’s trying to “raise the stakes.”
Yes – this does include all type of teasing from the everyday stuff to the confides of your bedroom.
Yes – it is traced back many years and it all starts when you’re very young. As you both grow older the technique just becomes more refined and advanced deepening on the guy’s maturity level.
Like many of the questions I get this is also somewhat of a character based question.
You can be assured a man’s actions are typically a combination of who he is, what’s he’s experienced (rejections included), and the level of his maturity.
Men who are typically mature – who are confident in themselves – posses security in their manhood – who are not players, Well their goal is not about using a tactic to get you in bed quicker. It’s more about having and keeping the flirty dance moving along.
Although we must admit some guys have experienced pissing off women and have actually had a very select few like them despite it. If a man grows up and what he’s doing is working, good or bad, unless something drastic changes he will continue it with lots of women until he “gets a bite” so to speak.
I’ve found, for those of you in a relationship with a guy who is very into bothering you, or continuing with bad habits which annoy you, it becomes more of a tool. A grudge match. A stubbornness and a breakdown in communication. Passive but aggressive ways as a battle over superiority. A more than often lame attempt to prove who’s in charge and an attempt to make light of certain habits.
Like when a guy doesn’t feel the need to wash every dish and dry them the exactly way you would want. In others words the more controlling you are about things that don’t seem to be a big deal to him may cause more than just the average guy to “act out” with this technique.
My personal experience in “bothering women” became a major shift in how I relate to you.
I was way too accommodating. I was literally scared to upset a woman I liked because well, obviously I wanted her to like me back. 😀 I know sounds like something from school but our social development tends to stay with us through adulthood.
It all seems nice on the surface but it never really worked. It made me feel weak, not in control, and I was so scared of sexual friction I would avoid it all cost. I can not count how many “friend zones” my ways landed me in because there’s way too may to list.
One fateful day I decided to start turning it up. Mind you I didn’t set out to bother women in general. That just became a wonderful side-effect. Haha!
The moral of it all is – sometimes he’s out to tease you, without it you probably wouldn’t feel very much for him anyways.
He’s out to stir your emotions not unlike the good “ribbing” he may give his friends. Except he’s doing it a little differently with you. (At least I hope he is. 🙂 )
Mostly he’s looking to have some fun with you.
Other times you’ll meet guys who do it way too much or don’t know how to do it right and then you have every reason to not play back.
But if it’s all in fun (and it’s not a relationship power struggle) why not give it right back and tease him.
You just never know when that guy who seems to enjoy bothering you way too much – might turn out to be the one guy who really gets you.