The “natural” view is actually quite simple. Men, being built to procreate many times and “spread their seed” are actually designed to sleep with many women in their lifetime.
Now I understand in this modern social world men have a choice. They can choose to sleep with a few, or commit forever to one girl.
He can choose to stare temptation in the face and deny any woman who is willing to have sex with him. ( Granted being human we ALL have the option to step out of our traditional roles and do something different. )
Some of you might even assign a level of strength to him.
The stronger man can resist his instinctual sexual drive.
The weaker man gives in even though he knows it could emotional hurt her.
Yet the stronger man has more temptation and the weaker man doesn’t. So it’s not really a fair assessment.
What about this?
Very few women I have known will have sex with a guy who does not have the option to sleep around.
You want the best mate for you and typically he will be highly sought out by other women too. Thus the man you want the most has a greater probability of cheating on you too.
Kind of sucks but it’s true.
Some argue in the modern world we live in these rules, for lack of a better word, don’t apply.
They throw around the word “love” and expect if a man loves a woman he should never stray. She should be all he ever needs.
Doesn’t work that way though – does it?
Especially when so many men struggle with the definition of love.
Especially when there’s guys who will obsess over a woman until he’s had sex with her and the “thrill” wears off.
The male sex drive can be powerful and sometimes dominating.
It can take control over us and send us into the arms or bed of any woman willing or when properly directed can drive us to succeed in more areas than just sexual conquest.
Based on my experience there’s a certain relevance to the male orgasm and our instinctual drive to sleep around.
There have been so many nights where after I release my male potency alone ( so as not to confuse the feelings when a woman’s involved ) and not ten seconds later I felt let down. Like it wasn’t good enough.
Even after having delayed gratification for several hours it felt like, “That was it?!!!”
The longer we wait, within reason, the more we produce.
But after, depending on the circumstance we might even feel a little guilty.
Thirsty and hungry and sometimes apathetic, sometimes contempt and tired.
Whatever the after affects happen to be…
When the drive is temporarily removed, the primal urge to reproduce no longer connected to us, there’s a strange feeling of loss.
Like we’re missing something.
In the arms of our proclaimed love this can easily be overcame with a hug, a shared story, or anything emotional connection. Thus equating love to the experience and to the person we’re with.
In the arms of an affair, a one night stand, a situation where we can not connect love to the persona we’re with, this loss does not go away until the next time.
Keeping us in forever search of the perfect lay.
You would think the first experience would keep us happy. Stop us from straying or at least be enough reason to only ever want to be with the one we love but…
What if we don’t feel that connection or we don’t know how to open up, or what if the women we’re with doesn’t allow it to happen, or doesn’t know how to respond to a man after, or what if she isn’t allowing his sex drive to be completely brought out.
Or even worse yet what if he feels like she has not been completely satisfied and after the moment, while the drive has left, he no longer feels powerful but weak and unable to perform.
My point is the male orgasm is a sudden release of all that makes us male but has little to do with makes us a responsible adult according to social standards.
Depending on our lifestyle, willpower, ability to succeed, our health, or anything related in the few moments we’re about to release is when we feel the pure power and strength of ourselves.
Some of us may not find the “emotion” anywhere in our lives and since it is short and followed by the removal of a part of our masculinity, we’re driven to search for it again and again and again…
Thus satisfying nature’s gift to us to procreate almost unconditionally as many times as physically possible.
While the build up is there nothing else matters – we’ll move mountains to achieve those few seconds before.
For so many men the desire to sleep around has nothing to do with women but more to do with his control and ability to tap into his masculine male role in nature.
Some men achieve this through different outlets, some do it by bedding lots of different women, some learn it from experience, some take her advances as being the same…
Why Do Men Sleep Around With Lots Of Different Women?
It’s not our role as provider, it’s probably not even nature granting us the ability to do so, a lot of times it’s to…
Experience a moment where we can truly enjoy a surge of our primal masculine self.
Choices, selection, ability, or personal situation aside, feeling like a man who belongs in the world and is an actual contributor by doing exactly what we’re designed to do appears to be reason enough.
What all this means is of course open to interpretation, speculation, and reasoning.
If you’re a guy tell me – Why do you sleep around?
But if you’re a woman tell me this…
What is the one moment in your life (which can happen many times) where you absolutely felt like you’re the definition of femininity and nothing else seemed to matter but that one moment? AND you find yourself constantly searching for it again by any means possible?
If you can find that answer and believe it to be true – then you can certainly imagine why men do in fact sleep with so many different women regardless of the situation or the affect of his actions.