In each man there is a trigger which when switched on, causes him to feel attraction. This switch is stock issued to us from birth and there’s absolutely nothing we can do about it.
A beautiful women – when representing a match to procreate successfully can bring about hormonal changes in our bodies.
Theses chemicals causes a reaction better known as attraction.
Whether it’s the shape of her body, the youthful look of her skin, or the mesmerizing lure of the way she moves it represents to us guys the best chance for our genes to stay alive by bearing strong offspring.
It’s typically and generally called, “Survival of the Fittest.” Do some research and you’ll find it backed up by years of study, trials, and proven tests. Since this is not a medical journal I won’t be going there.
What most of the journals fail to take into account is what I feel the most important part of attracting men which has little to do with how she looks.
It’s the one “secret” to getting any guy on the planet to literally follow you around like some love-starved puppy begging for your approval. (If that’s what you want.)
You see there’s one thing which supersedes beauty in a man’s world.
A piece of him NO ONE can ever physically touch by beauty or a sexy body alone.
You have one too and if you know how to “tap” into that secret power you will be given a choice – use it for good or bad. How you use it depends on who you are, how nice you are, and what you’re willing to do to get what you want regardless of those around you.
Dare I reveal this secret? 😉
Sure, why not. But I warn you it’s easier said than done. There are “tactics” which can help you and there are lots of great people who can show you exactly what to do. I suggest you look into one of them if you really want to know the how and not just the why.
The secret to get a man to overcome this “attraction” to beauty is in his Ego. (So to speak. He will always feel attracted to his preference of looks and/or body.)
If you can make him feel good about himself in a way not many women can, you can slowly increase what I call “your glow.” Meaning over time, even if you don’t match his preferences, you will become more physically attracted to him.
You can even change his “preferences” this way.
If you can also make him feel safe enough to open up to you, he will begin to feel a deeper emotional connection with you.
Remove the fear he has between being able to show emotion and still feel like a man, you give him the safety to feel and the comfort to share it with you. (In the very least when you’re alone together.)
This is what some call appealing to his Ego.
Granted I’ve taken a somewhat complicated notion and given it to you as lightly as I could.
But it works.
My theory is the “Instant Attraction” men feel is more about “Gene Matching” and the other one is “Nurturer Matching.”
In a perfect world both have a certain weight and a perfect blend but I fail to see perfection on a social or relationship level. Too many variables including social upbringing and self-esteem.
Now… Are Guys Only Attracted to How A Woman Looks? Are they only into you for your body?
As far as I’m concerned – NO.
Okay some men will fight you the entire way. For more reasons I know some men go for mostly exterior Genes, or the way you look. But they are probably the last men to commit to any woman. It’s a past self-esteem issue. Thus the complications I mentioned above.
Some men will only allow themselves to be seen with attractive women because of the “Ego” thing. It’s like you’re making them look better thus they feel better about themselves.
On the other side some men actually look at physical beauty as an inability to nurture. They might check “hotter” women out but they will always find themselves with a woman who makes him feel safe, comfortable, and who can be a perfect match to the mother he either grew up with, or didn’t.
All those are the extreme cases.
The most common scenario is a blend of attractive appeal, (which even if you’re not the perfect hourglass the way you move and present yourself to him can engage or trigger that instant attraction) your ability to make him feel safe, and probably most important…
How you make him feel about himself.
Try to guess which end of the spectrum I fall in based on my writing alone and not my good-looks. 😉
Do I go for mostly looks and a sexy body? Do I go for the nurturer and slowly fall for women? Or do I fall somewhere in the middle?
(Keep in mind your ability to answer this question and get it right without knowing too much about me just might mean show your ability to attract lots of men – not just like me either.)