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What Does a Guy Mean When He Says He Is Thinking About You?

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The many reasons why a guy would say he's thinking about you may not be so obvious to you so let's clear up ANY confusion you might be having today.

FIRST.. and this will put your question about a man in complete and TOTAL perspective.

As a guy, I would NEVER, ever, ever call up another guy (or woman) friend,  text him, or even dare mention to him,

"I was thinking about you and just decided to tell you."

With that said...

When he says he is thinking about you - it means he wants to see you again...  among other things.

Something reminded him of you in a good or sometimes sexual way.

He's thinking if he tells you, you'll see it as a lovely romantic gesture.

He's trying to tell and show you that he's interested in you.

HOW or In WHAT way he's interested in with you remains to be seen because a guy will say it just as easily if he's looking for sex, that night, or somewhere down the road. In other words - It's not all or always a love or romantic reason behind the gesture.

Another reason a guy might tell you that he is thinking about you is because he's fishing for a response from you that reveals how you feel about him from which you can generally assume he's attracted or interested in you.

They generally come from type two guys which can read all about by signing in below or loosely right here on my homepage.

Here are some examples to help you decide the full extent to what he means.

When a guy wakes up thinking about you he's feeling more than just attraction.

If you tells you, "Just woke up and was thinking about you." It can certainly be a very BIG sign he wants you to wake up with him sometime soon.

When a guy texts you that something he saw just reminded him of you and messages, "Just saw (... insert whatever...) and it made me think about you." - that's normally his way of connecting with you.

A guy will sometimes tell you he's thinking about you because he believes it will up your attraction to him. It's a technique used to get you to think about him which, when done right can increase your feelings towards AND if you haven't guessed it by now also means he's feeling attracted to you.

Otherwise he wouldn't bother.

When a guy you're dating is out of town or far away and he tells you he's thinking about you - it's a good sign that he's trying to form a deeper connection with you.

He's thinking about you more because you're not around and therefore misses you AND by feeling the need to tell you he wants to be assured you're waiting for him, he's on your mind, plus he wants to make sure you don't just forget about what you have together.

When a guy lets you know just at bedtime that he is thinking about you - it's also a good sign he's looking for something more and wants you in his head at bedtime which again - means sooner or later he wants you there with him.

Okay...

When a guy says he's just thinking about you it can be one or all of the following:

  • A romantic gesture towards you.
  • A genuine interest in wanting something more with you.
  • A way to form a deeper connection.
  • An attempt to see how you feel about him.
  • A technique to increase your attraction and/or interest in him.
  • A prelude to start a sexting session or a real sexual one.

It's ALWAYS done with purpose - It's ALWAYS a sign of some level of interest or attraction.

As stated above - guys don't say things like this to their man-friends unless of course they're gay which adds the dynamic level of attraction to the meaning of the words anyways.

In very rare circumstances a guy might say it to a dear "woman" friend because they tend to treat their female friends differently than their male ones.However, if you have any romantic connection with a guy - it's going to mean one of those listed above practically every time.

All this means you are in his mind which may also mean you're in his heart too.

This all comes with a warning today:

A statement like this - whether it's verbal, texted, or messaged is obviously a very powerful and meaningful emotion to convey to a woman. Some men know it. Some don't.

To support myself and the reasoning behind how powerful it is and how good it is at detecting another one's feelings towards another, I've suggested a two text routine that contains these exact words:

SEND THIS: I was just thinking about you. 🙂

If you get no response within five minutes…

SEND THIS: HA! And now you have the pleasure of thinking about me. 😉

DO NOT send another text until you hear back from him.

Reveal How He Feels With Two Quick Text Messages

AND If it wasn't so powerful you would not have searched behind the meaning of it just for the sake of knowing it.

I believe you were looking for something supportive to tell you what you already felt like it meant BUT you were not fully convinced because you got it from a guy who has been hot and cold - here and there - distant and close numerous times with you and this statement confused you.

See how easily it can drive up your interest and attraction to a guy - especially when he hasn't been too clear or upfront about how he feels with you in the past.

The warning is: Some guys WILL use it to speed things up with you sexually If you're not there yet.

Which means you need to formulate a response which is consistent with your relationship with him so you're not led down a hurtful path.

Granted - the warning is only there because it happens and I felt you should be aware of it. Understand it's VERY RARE and you can (mostly and safely) assume unless you're not sure hind is about who he is that the meaning behind it is GENUINE and REAL.

Now I get to ask you... based on all this:

HOW are you going to respond when a man tells you he was just thinking about you?

Do you know what to say back and how AND how long you should wait to do it?

Do you know what to say that will do achieve what you want - as in send him away, bring him closer, show him you care as much, or let it go for a while because you're not sure how you feel about him yet.

As I stated above - getting this from a guy means something IMPORTANT to him and unless you have no problems in this area - I wouldn't suggest you guess your way through your answer to him.

I'd love to give you a quick answer but I feel there are too many circumstances to consider and finding one solution or words you can use will fir them all. There are many other variables to consider as in how well you know each other, your past history, are you his ex, how long you've been dating, how much you message or talk to each and so many more.

 

My suggestions however...  are EASY to follow:

FIRST: The Why Do Guys free newsletter is a great place to start understanding men better especially because I try to keep it simple. Sign in below - read the ebook I give you that breaks men down into two types and you'll spend less time searching for answers as I send what I can to you.I had a great time writing it for you and I believe you'll find it informative and useful. In the very least a healthy and educational distraction from wondering anymore about why he told you he was thinking about you.

SECOND: You "probably" should stay away from "text his desire to you" products because they won't offer a real long-term results UNLESS this is not a huge problem for you and you're just looking for some quick things to send along to so-called "capture him" and whatever  they're also promising to sweeten the deal and make it worth your money. .The only one I've seen that comes close to today's problem post is called Text/CHEMISTRY by Amy North. You can either watch the video Every Man Is Dying To Read This Text Message OR go here to read the offer and get all the details you need like price, availability, etc..

Amy hasn't written any real articles on all this texting stuff but she has allowed me to post some of her advice for another product she sells.  If you're interested in reading her words first, I posted them up at my "dating advice repository" site I call meet and attract him.

Here's her page: Amy North – The Devotion System – Tips, Advice, and A Review With Info

Again, text/CHEMISTRY is not there... yet. So you'd have to come back here for the link or search for it yourself BUT you will be opting out of my commission when you do so. Hey, it's not a big problem but I'd certainly appreciate it if it helps you out.

THIRD: This is really cool! It's called Love Scripts For Dating and I've had no problem and no reservations about suggesting this to any woman. Probably because I love Rori's advice but also to any woman who wants know what to do and say in so many different situations (including this thinking about you one) this one fits PERFECTLY.

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Written by Rori Raye - you can sign up for her free Have The Relationship You Want Newsletter or as in the case above, I set up a page dedicated with lots of her great advice for free, so you can really see for yourself just hod good she is what she does. It's right here: Rori Raye Rules! Love Yourself, Attract Men, Relationship & Connections.

All I can say is "think about it" (little joke there) but I believe it will guarantee to get you through the problems I asked earlier:

Know exactly how to respond when a guy says he's thinking about you.

Know exactly how long you should wait or not wait.

Know exactly what to say that brings him closer and allows you to connect with him.

AND you'll also know exactly what to do when the next "what do I say or do" problem may come along with him or any other guy in your future.

The EXACT Words He NEEDS To Hear To Want To Listen To You, Please You, And Make You His Forever

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  • Mwll

    My boyfriend of 2 months, ended abruptly using the excuse that I deserve better than him and what he can offer then 2 days later he text at midnight and says I think about you all the time. How do I respond to this how do I take his last text into context

    • What you have is the “poor poor me” guy. His self-esteem is low. He doesn’t feel “worthy” or capable of love. Worst scenario, he cheated on you.

      Yes, it hurts. Yes it’s not a fun situation to be in, and I feel your pain. I understand how much it sucks.

      Unfortunately I would NEVER advise a woman to get involved with a guy like this until he fixes himself. He will in all likelihood cause you more pain as he tries to figure himself out and why he believes he’s unworthy of your love.

      Sure – rarely or occasionally you’ll find a guy who feels great about things but has a few hard times and snaps quickly by breaking it off. It “could” be a temporary thing IF it’s not in his character to act this way. BUT normally it’s not.

      You must figure these things out before you proceed. If it is his character “low self-esteem, feeling useless, down on himself a lot, play the poor poor me routine, constantly seeking approval, etc…” THEN it’s up to HIM to find himself. No one would ever advise a guy who feels that way to enter a relationship UNTIL such time as he feels better and stronger.

      Not many would also advise you to enter a relationship with him at this point in time either.

      He texted he because he still has feelings for you. As far as I can tell he didn’t break up with you because he wasn’t feeling something for you – he broke up with you for the exact reason he told you.

      I can not tell you how to respond exactly especially after all I shared with you in the comment so far. BUT… if you must, please refrain from trying to build him up – you’ll only give him a false sense of confidence that won’t last.

      Speak to him honestly with what I’ve given you today. Let him know you understand how he feels about himself. Ask him if he’s working on it. Ask him why he feels this way. Let him tell you why he feels unworthy or incapable BUT do NOT use the conversation to rekindle the relationship.

      Again – entering or continuing a relationship under these terms rarely of ever leads to something good, happy, or fulfilling.

      Here’s the article where I explain a guy like this:

      What Was His Excuse To Not Commit To You? Real Fears or Bullshit?

      It should shed some light on your guy.

      All the best to you. Hope this has helped and you’re pain doesn’t last too long and you manage to move on,
      Pete

      UPDATE: I also wrote this extensive article on the POOR POOR ME guy for those of you who want to explore it:

      What Was His Excuse For Not Committing To You? Are They Real or Lies?

  • Seasaw

    Hello, I’ve been intimate with a married man and he states he thinks of me often. Other times, he reminds me I’m not a permanent thing but his actions indicates he cares. I’ll never understand men but the seesaw effect is driving me looney. I think it’s safe to assume I’m disposable in this whirlwind and needing confirmation. By the way, I think it’s great you give us insight to a male’s mind.

    • Thank you. I’m sure you know what’s best for you and that when you’re involved with a married men – most rules don’t apply, you’re more likely to get hurt, it’s always best to get out before you get too deeply involved.

      I’m positive you can do it and find a great single man for you who’d be perfect.

  • Laura

    I have had men who have GF’s but aren’t saying that outright say they are thinking of me. I think it is used to keep women on the hook and is more phony than real interest.

    • Thanks Laura. It’s certainly something that does happen and it’s good you’ve spotted it and are aware of it.

  • J

    So met this guy while traveling and we talked briefly. He seemed nice so we exchanged numbers. He is texting and calling several times a day. He requests I send pics and says ” Can’t stop thinking about you. I want to see you very soon”. I am not sure if I should be flattered or worried considering we only met like 9 days ago.

    • I would be slightly flattered but more concerned or worried about a guy acting like this. Here’s something quick and easy to use with any guy:

      Too much – too quick – too soon… too early.

      ALL are bad signs from a guy who will most likely turn out to be very needy, just looking for sex, no overly in control of himself and sometimes life, AND will tend to fade away or disappear just as quickly and randomly as he start it all.

      Be flattered but be cautious.

      Best to you,
      Pete

  • Hannah Smith

    I have known this guy several for several years. We met on the job and became friends. He resigned from the company a few years after but we remained in contact off and on over the years. About a year and a half ago, we started messaging each regularly….most of the time sexting. He was going through marital problems and I am unhappily married. We were there for each other. He’s now divorced and I’m still married. He’s dated a few women and he tried to do the right thing by his girlfriend (s) but he always get back to sexting me. Here is the problem I think I’m in love with him but I can’t seem to be able to read whether he feels something for me. He’ll say things like he thinks about me more than I know or he’s flattered on how much I like him. He doesn’t want a sexual relationship because I’m still married. A few weeks ago he tried to end the sexting because he wanted to do right by current girlfriend but a week later he contact me to let me know he misses me. He said maybe we can see each other sometimes. Hard for me to tell if he wants more or just the same.

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