Love is a deeply treasured word in a man’s world. It’s often reserved for extreme emotional connections and is rarely spoken lightly.
Which is why I’m assuming when a woman wrote this question she was looking for other clues to assure herself his commitment is or was, real.
But I’m not sure if there are certain words a man uses when he’s in love with a woman because men tend to be more about action.
What they do and how they do it are much clearer ways to tell if he’s in love with you.
For example – he may not say how much he enjoys being with you but he’ll give up sleep just to spend time with you.
I’ll tell you a secret about understanding men to help you decipher his words a little better next time. That way instead of having to narrow down his speech by his actual words you’ll be able to see the real meaning. Knowing fully whether he is actually “in love” with you or is just saying it.
“Words without fear, action, conviction and commitment never represent our deeper self and are often a desire to validate or vocalize something else.”
A true commitment requires action which often puts trust in the future. Since the future is unknown it can easily represent a personal fear.
So as a man if I were to use words without committing to them by DOING something AND there’s no real RISK involved then quite honestly they mean barely nothing.
If your man says he wants to bring the world to you then you might assume he loves you. But if he makes no effort in any way possible to realize this promise, and his plans never include tomorrow, AND there’s no real risk to say them…
Then ask yourself honestly – “Does this guy really love me or is he just flirting and discovering the connection between us?”
You know as well as I do words are too easily masked. That’s why our “social tests” are so important. How else would we find something closer to the truth.
So it’s not what he says or the phrase he uses or even if he claims to “love you” …
I believe it’s the risk he takes to say them, the commitment to back them up with action, and his conviction to secure a future.
It may not always represent true love (we can reserve that for another question) but you’ll find one or two sentences may suddenly mean a lot more to him and you, then a guy who “never stops talking” about how much he is in love with you. (He may not even know what love feels like.)
Try it out. Grab a few sentences and keep them in your head. When you find yourself wondering if he really does love you think about my quote above and match it up to his actions.
I think you’ll find the answer will be much clearer than before.
The words a man uses when he loves you may not be what you expect and until you step back to see the whole picture you could easily drive yourself crazy trying to figure it all out.
As a guy I can tell you there’s a ot of men who just don’t know how to express themselves in words. We won’t get into all those details but if you’re basing how he feels on what he’s saying, then you could easily confuse yourself so much more.
This question is NOT closed so please, go ahead and leave some examples below. Tell us about your experiences with how men express themselves, what words you believed he used – when you realized his love for you was genuine.