Has anyone ever told you women were like cats? How if you try to pet them they’ll run away. Ignore them and minutes later they’re on your lap purring, begging for attention.
It’s true. Some teenage guys, at least the ones who are better getting girls, will tell a good friend just “ignore her” and she’ll eventually come to you.
But in the adult world – okay yes it probably happens to men in the twenties too. The circumstances are little different though. Those details are not important.
Now if you’re asking – does it work and why? You have every right to know.
I can honestly tell you I’ve ignored plenty of women who were one, happy to have me go away, and two, didn’t even notice I was ignoring them.
That’s because this type of advice is like everything else, when it’s taken out of context it rarely works. And just like so much dating and attraction advice, there are way too many factors and circumstances which come into play – and generalized advice is mostly useless.
You see when one guy tells one of his friends this, he means well, but he’s failing to understand what is really going on and why when done in context, “ignoring” a woman can actually get her to act like that cat I mentioned above.
He also fails to take into account his friends ability with women and his neediness.
Let’s assume a guy has a needy problem. That is when he meets a woman he wants to constantly see her. Almost like he’s worried some other dude will snatch her up quickly. He’s one of those guys who you might like at first until you realize he’s going to smother you which sends you running for the hills.
Telling him to “ignore” you might work because without having to solve his insecurity he could unknowingly give you the right amount of space and time. Of course sooner or later depending on how the relationship progresses, his true self will probably ruin it.
That’s just one circumstance.
My old problem, where I would ignore her and it would get me nowhere, had me believing giving her space or “ignoring” didn’t work. Well that was because our first interaction didn’t really spark any attraction at all.
So for any guy reading this – when you fail to create attraction first, ignoring her will do absolutely nothing because you won’t be even on her radar.
Quickly now – are women really like cats?
Well they do say “You want what you can’t have” but that again is a generalized statement without any real backing.
The truth is “You want a challenge!”
And what’s more of a challenge than a guy who seems to ignore you at just the right time?
Like he could take you or leave you. How he has a life outside chasing women. How relaxed and laid back he is which opens you up to first want to know more, and secondly makes the bold statement of confidence and security.
Which we all know any guy who exudes real confidence and security are considered highly attractive.
Let’s also not forget about how any guy who amps up your attraction and pushes you away slightly, like the cat, plays on even the smallest amount of insecurity you might be feeling about yourself.
Yes… Without a doubt guys will tell their friend to ignore a woman he wants and finds her highly attractive.
BUT… I’ve also found most men don’t give real advice in context AND honestly, most guys don’t give their friends advice on attractive women.
One because he might want her too, and two because well we’re men, We just don’t talk about that kind of stuff. What you see in the movies or sitcoms about guys talking to their buddies is mostly fiction.
Okay now that I’ve revealed a little truth to you, how about you tell me what your thoughts are.
Have you suddenly found yourself chasing a man who was ignoring you?
Do you feel like a feline? 😀
How many men do you believe ignored you and you had no clue it was happening at all?