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When Is It Safe To Assume A Guy Is Interested or Likes You And Why

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Hey Mr Pete, i have been attending this camp during the summer (still have) and there is this guy i like an, we have each others numbers and we text and talk (in person )and have convos the phone sometimes, he has asked me to hang out with him but ive been really busy … his personality is quiet but he will talk if you say something to him but i wonder do he likes me?? Or at least intrested.?? please help.. i dont know what to say to him beacuse i dont know how he feels … please help thank you

Hey Miss Summer Camp Drama,

You sound young so here’s a piece of advice about men hopefully you will be able to use forever.

Girls are cool and all πŸ™‚ but most guys hang out with “other” dudes.

Sure we’ll have women friends and do things with them BUT, and please never forget this – Guys who text you, talk to you in person, talk on the phone, AND ask you to hang out are telling you one thing…


Let me turn around this to me and we’ll assume this girl I know is shy and friendly, texting me, talking to me, even asks me to hang out with her…

You know what I assume – or what I’ve been taught to do – or better yet what I trained myself to believe… SHE WANTS ME. πŸ˜€

What if I were to always believe the opposite?

… No one is attracted to me.

What if I was always looking for more signals or signs?

… I’d spend most of my time looking and not acting or leading. I’d get stuck in my head waiting for something to happen instead of being in the moment or making something happen.

What if I were to assume she just wants to be friends?

… Guess I’ll just be “friendly” back and hope she changes her mind.

So yes. It’s true – if you can believe this, not every woman is going to want me. Sometimes I’ll get it wrong. Sometimes I’ll even make a fool for it.

Yet thinking the opposite has proven to me, and lots of other guys and girls just like you…

It’s better to be positively wrong some of the time then it is to be negatively right most of the time.

Here’s something so profound and it’s going to blow your mind… please question it but never forget it because it’s very powerful.

If the signs a guy IS interested in you are NOT talking to you, texting you, seeing you in person, asking you to hang out, or even being just remotely friendly and all guys are NOT created equal…

Then precisely what signal would prove to you ( without a doubt ) a guy has some kind of feelings for you?

“So just sit back, enjoy the ride, and realize that the right man will WANT to commit to you by his own volition. You don’t have to DO anything to make it happen. Keeping a Man Interested in You and What To Do With The Right One

They’re not going to try to kiss you too early – with good reason of course.

They’re not going to tell you they’re in love with you early – because they barely know you.

They’re not going to grab you hand and demand your attention – well because most guys don’t have the balls to do that. πŸ™‚

They’re not going to mention quickly had badly they want to get in your pants because – whereas some guys do and they might be better off getting that out-of-the-way early, but most guys are nice and have a little more class or less crass than that.

You mentioned that you don’t know what to say to him because you’re not sure how he feels…

I would consider what I’ve written you today to help you decide how you want to handle this problem and any future problems you might have in figuring out what a guy is thinking.

Assume you ARE able to attract not just him but lots of guys – and as long as they’re being active with you and not treating you exactly like one of their guy friends – stop looking for the signs…

Be positively wrong some of the time because you’ll find by doing that – it may not work perfect – but it’s better than better negatively wrong most of the time.

As I tell my guys – Keep moving forward at a reasonable ( not forced ) pace until otherwise directed to stop.

Thanks for writing in and I do hope this solves some of you Summer Camp Drama, Miss πŸ™‚


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27 comments… add one
  • Helen

    Hi Peter,
    You should be flattered. ? I sent him a text yesterday and another today. I’m hoping he’ll answer back but of course as they say in Latin, Futurus dictum esse a sententia populi re implicare est. This translates to the future is dependent upon the decisions of the people involved. As a side note and as hopefully a bonus question, when would he just ignore me because I was contacting him too much?
    Sorry to bother you with yet another question. Thank you so much for your time and patience, as well as for the invaluable insight this has given me into a man’s brain. Your probably sick of hearing from me by now but I have found your advice to be invaluable.
    Thanks for being my guy friend,

  • Mel

    Hi, so I met a guy while traveling at first I thought nothing of it but started to like him as we hung out. One night we danced the whole night and ended up kissing and watching the stars until four in the morning. After that we had some really good meaningful conversations and I really grew attracted to him. I was going through some personal struggles and was worried to fall for him since I was leaving and felt weird about us because it was at his work and I didn’t want it to be awkward. So we became distant but he would always come up to talk to me and hang out. There would be random times we’d see each other in bars and I would just want to talk to him by other guys would approach me and I could see it bothered him. I didn’t like it either but he didn’t make a move or say anything. Two days before I left he just ignore me and we didn’t even say bye. It really hurt me. I felt I didn’t want to have regrets so I sent him a message saying how I felt and that I wanted to stay in touch. He said he wants to stay in touch too but it didn’t seem heartfelt. I asked him why things got strange toward the end and he never responded. I honestly thought he liked me too and felt the same attraction and now he is out of my life totally I feel and I don’t get it. Is it that easy for guys just to forget about someone?

    • Peter White

      Hi Mel,

      No it is NEVER easy for a guy to just forget about someone. Doesn’t mean they’ll follow through with it or do something about it though. Men don’t always act on their feelings. People don’t always act on their feelings. Action requires something else.

      However it does not ever mean a guy forgets.


      • Mel

        Thanks Pete for answering to me it’s strange if you did care for someone why ignore them and not even say bye. People I barely know went out of their way to say bye but he didn’t. I guess it is what it is, but I still care about him unfortunately.

        • You’re welcome Mel. Just remember people don’t always act with their best interest or others. They do things which are beyond the scope of the person just doing the watching. Meaning, we’re all locked in our own mind and make decisions and action based on that mind and no one is privy to that information.

          • Mel

            That’s so true! I think the romantic in me hopes he would bypass all of that and we can be together regardless and that that stuff didn’t matter because the connection I felt was so strong. Of course, it’s not realistic and you’re right I don’t always act according to my own feelings either and to expect him to is unfair and it is a lot more complicated than I realize. Who knows why or what he’s thinking or feeling, but I feel some sadness that we are not in touch and wish it was different, but I have to respect that is his choice and for whatever reason that is how it is. Aj the drama of life!

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