well i wanted a guys point of view on this, please tell me what does this mean?
There was a guy with whom i chatted once on fb, and then we didnt chat for like 3 weeks… and it was my birthday 2 days back so he wished me.his wish was like he wasnt expecting a response or like he was just expecting a simple “thank u”
but i said thank u and i asked him how he was doing. But he didnt respond to my text. i felt bad that why would he do that while nothing has happened. I saw him near my home as he lives near my place and he was just looking at me like nothing happened. Is he doing it purposely?
He is not busy, he got the text and he wud reply but chose not to because of i dont knw wht reason. But he looks at me. Why does he look when he didnt respond to my text. doesnt he want to talk. Or he looks at me for fun.
Please help me with your views
First – for now – forget the stares – it’s what “some” of us do and will only confuse your situation. Men stare because they like what they see.
Secondly. Some guys have an idea in their head to wait a certain amount of time to reply. This “could” be the case. Something you can read more about here Why A Guy Might Play Hard To Get
If he’s doing that then, it only means he’s interested in you.
Next up – when it comes to Facebook some men are not that affluent with it and wish women happy birthday just because it popped up. Like some knee-jerk reaction.
Although this is rare it does happen and it would explain why he chose not to answer back.
Another reason is how you responded to his wish…
Asking a guy you haven’t heard from in a while, “How are you doing?” says to some men that they’re not really that important to you.
This could easily be the case here.
You talk for a short time and the contact stops. He either loses interest or you do, or neither one of you do anything to engage further and the contact stops abruptly.
Whatever happened is beyond me but IF HE believed you were not that interested in him in the first place, then he might avoid contact until he’s given a reason to do it. Such as your birthday.
If he didn’t get some kind of over-the-top signal that you were interested than he might sneak away and avoid the conversation after.
( Again based on the fact he was interested in the first place because if he wasn’t, none of this may apply. )
A few “over-the-top” signals which tells a guy you’re interested in him are:
“Thank you – where have you been?”
“Well well the mystery man speaks again – Hello!!! and thank you. 🙂 “
Granted there are many more ways and it’s not always your fault. Meaning some guys just don’t get it and I’d hate to fault them for it entirely.
Keep in mind lots of men will do anything to avoid becoming friends with women they actually like AND if they feel like that’s all they’re getting – you can expect them to either lose interest and not contact you back or pretend to not care.
So as a future warning or advise on something like this…
If a guy senses you’re not really that interested because he’s looking for a “different” response from you and doesn’t get it, something which hints how you feel about him, as sad as it sounds… you might not get much of a response if any at all.
If I’m able to look at this more subjectively, or from what’s between my legs 🙂 or basically here’s is what a guy might be thinking at this point:
“I talked to this girl on Facebook. She seemed cool and all but we only had one conversation.
But then she didn’t bother to contact me again….
I realized, after checking her out a few times that her birthday was coming up and decided to wish her a happy one. You know just in case she forgot about me or something and she acted like she didn’t even care. Said thank you and asked how I was doing…
I guess she’s not interested so rather than just end up with another Facebook friend… or make her believe I don’t have a life… Maybe I’ll wait before I get back to her. Or maybe I won’t bother anymore… 🙁 “
Jasmine – your situation also depends a lot on your first interaction and how he took it – Did he want something more? How you two began talking? What kind of conversation or chat you first had? How it ended.
And as always of course – How good is he with understanding women and how confident he is with women in general which is something I always refer to.
I do hope I haven’t confused you even more.
I understand how many women come here asking “why guys stare” and I do stand by my beliefs that men stare at women they find attractive… period.
After that a lot of what he does after is based on what type of guy he is and how good he is at reading women or like in my case, assuming you’re ALL attracted to me until you give me reason to believe otherwise. 😀
Thanks for writing in Jasmine and if you have any follow-up questions I’ll do my best to respond to them below,
All the best,
P.s. Happy Late Birthday 😀