I‘ve chased many women in my life and it got me literally nowhere…
We’re in for long one but look under the surface because I believe there’s a ton of information, a different look into understanding men you may have never read or thought about…
It always seemed like when they figured out I was into them – or were being chased – or more appropriately, found out how easy it would be to get or have me, well that’s when she’d lose any interest at all.
Before then, the phone calls were eagerly answered. The response was quickly message after a text. The late night drunk calls were sent to me,
“Just because I wanted to hear your voice.”
And let me tell you lots of guys everywhere have experienced the same effect.
Now granted these lessons are learned early in life and may not hold completely true in adulthood but not because of what you might believe.
We watch and take it to be true when we see the guy who gets any woman he wants – kind of doesn’t want it. It’s no big deal to him.
Girls will always gather around and not always patiently wait until he’s single again and perhaps chooses her next.
Regardless of which guy it is… the ones you want or the ones you don’t want, the younger guy learns it’s probably just best to at least play hard to get because THAT guy has dated every attractive available girl and he seems to do it.
As we mature into our own and perhaps develop out attractive masculine side with age – most of us suddenly allow ourselves to become hard to get.
That’s a key difference in men.
Some play hard to get.
Some ARE hard to get.
You don’t normally want the guy who is playing hard to get but at least, if you’re feeling it a little, then you know it’s a good sign he’s interested in you, otherwise he wouldn’t be using,
“The oldest trick in the book”
The guy who IS hard to get – the one you’re “just maybe” not at all convinced he’s into you because his interest is so confusing and often misleading, you’re not sure if he’s “playing” that game
or if he really is that way.
You tell yourself you know he likes you and you can’t understand if it’s a game he’s playing, then why is he bothering but you have not truly convinced yourself… The questions always remain.
The boldest statement you’ve ever heard…
The MALE SLUT technique works on OTHER women.
He sleeps with every women who gives it up – but for me, he’s “plays” hard to get.
He’s always flirting with other girls, it seems like he does it with me too, so why is he playing hard to get with me?
Sometimes, it’s because he IS hard to get.
He lets you believe he’s sleeping around or giving more to the “other” women but that’s just his charm.
In fact, some of us clever guys learn early that if we flirt with every woman regardless of who she is, how old she is, whether she’s married or not, it makes us look like we’re “true ladies men” and we’ve got ALL these women on a string.
Granted without the charm or skill or wit or ability to not reveal certain facts we come off as foolish try-hards willing to land any woman who’d open up her legs to us.
You assume we’re either bad or good players whose confidence is somewhere in our pants.
For the rest of us – we pass on the teachings of BEING hard to get. We say,
“ALLOW her to work for your attention or interest just enough because by doing so we’re creating a natural demand AND increasing our value to you.”
The absolute truth of this all is – men believe it because they see it happen – because they’ve experienced it firsthand – Once you feel like you or women generally could have us at a moments notice (early on) your interest tends to fade away.
Now normally the type of guy who lives by that completely AND he’s not playing hard to get, maybe he’s just dabbling it in a little. You know by not calling or texting for a few days or setting up another date too quickly…
Well most of the time he’s not hard to get and that’s the problem. That’s what destroys the attraction. The chemistry bubble bursts because he doesn’t create a natural mystery which invites you closer to him.
He TRIES to make something happen which you would think comes naturally to lots of guy, but it doesn’t.
The guy who IS hard to get does not have to play or follow stupid rules or wait to call or text suggested in some dating book somewhere.
If there was ever a moral of these statements or something to learn and understand about men it is this:
Whether a guy is playing hard to get or is in fact hard to get is a game NO man can keep up IF he wants something more.
Sooner or later he must allow himself to be “gotten” in one way or another.
The other point may just be to explain why a guy would play hard to get, when you’re sure he likes you…
Well that could simply be based on many of our experiences… when we chase, show too much too early, quite often it’s not done right and destroys the attraction almost immediately.
At least in those cases it’s not that he’s playing a game or wants to play you – he’s just in that group of guys who just doesn’t get you and is only doing what he saw might have worked which is unfortunately taken out of context and does little for his dating life with you.
This is not the end of this topic – there has to be more and when it all comes to me one fateful night, I promise I won’t make that information NOT hard to get…
Until then at least smile, as I mentioned slightly above – whether he’s playing or not – let’s be honest with ourselves here, you already knows he’s interested or wouldn’t bother trying, and I know for a fact…
Easy guys are well, not much fun at all. 😀
The best of us want a woman who challenges us on many levels and although we may never fully know how to challenge back without it getting mixed up with all the “playing hard” we’re assuming you want a challenge too,
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