Let’s talk about the maturity of men and what it means to you.
Is it different than what a guy might believe?
Is it something you look for in a man or maybe something you assume a grown adult should possess? ( Until he proves otherwise. )
Does a mature man automatically give him the ability to attract you? Or does he need something else like leadership skills, social ability, the traits more commonly associated in the Alpha Male.
Here are my thoughts…
A mature man is secure in himself. He’s independent. Maybe not completely goal orientated but he does at least have some form of ambition in his life.
He’s easily respected. He takes responsibility for his actions.
AND he will consider giving up something for the greater cause of family, friends, country, or the human race as a whole.
But he’s also selfish in a way, isn’t he?
His lack of neediness might have you assuming he doesn’t NEED you at all.
Almost as if nothing bothers him at all.
When times seem desperate in a relationship it’s almost like he couldn’t care less to keep you around.
His calm cool collected manners might have you believing your emotions are not affecting him at all, thus making him seem emotionally greedy and selfish.
Borderline passive aggressive attitude igniting your anger to no end.
Ahhh the double edged sword of maturity…
The man who can cut through all the bullshit in between and capture your amazement when he gets it right.
Yet also the rock when you just want him to show his emotional side just once.
Like when you’re ready to rip your hair out or pound your fist against his chest because his “mature & masculine Ego” won’t allow him to open up… even for you!
The one woman he CLAIMS to love.
Do me a favor and think about all the men you’ve ever dated, slept with, dreamed about, fantasized over, and yes even masturbated over.
Was their maturity really a big factor in how you felt about him or was there something else you couldn’t quite “put your finger on.” ( Pun definitely intended.)
You might not think this has anything to do you unless you find yourself only hooking up with guys who seem to have missed growing up.
You might not think it has anything to do you unless you’re single, young, and only find yourself meeting college guys at bars and parties chugging beers with their friends until they puke on themselves.
You might not think maturity has any bearing on the type of men you’re attracted to unless you prefer to date older men who “know” how to treat a female the right way.
You might think I’m a little crazy because this is “Why Do Guys…?” and NOT “How to help you attract the total alpha package.”
And you know what… you might be right.
But I can be cocky bastard and I’m going to play the Mister Know-It-All role right now 🙂
I’m going to suggest this..
The type of man who you find yourself falling for who may have prompted you to search for an answer today, leaving your eyes fixated on my words this very minute…
Well it CAN and WILL have a huge impact on the answers you seek about practically every man who walks this lovely planet of ours.
Like why do guys act so immature around their friends but put on their “stern” face around you. A perfectly legitimate question, right?
Or why do guys “pretend” they got their shit together until you realize, after giving up six months or two years for… Don’t even have a clue who they really are or want to be.
While you’re left to think about it all…. you want to know why I decided to post this up today? You DO have every right to question anything I say or do. I make no reservations about that.
My guys also need to understand you and what being mature really means to you.
Is it actual enough alone to spark your attraction?
Is it only about your willingness to enter a relationship?
As in you’d be more likely to have casual sex with an immature man, but would NEVER give yourself entirely to him IF he lacked maturity.
Please take your time but I encourage you to answer some of these important questions men MUST know in order to understand you better and hopefully better communicate their real selves.
Why do guys is NOT just about the why for plain old facts. It’s about UNDERSTANDING EACH OTHER so we can better the COMMUNICATION skills between men and women.
Men and women communicate less clearly when their definitions are not shared… What is your definition of maturity.