Oh yes they do. 🙂
But… there’s always one of these isn’t there? You get a quick answer that seems all good on the outside and then we lay on the cold hard facts about men missing women.
I’ll put this one right out there – If a man does NOT feel attracted to you he won’t care if you miss him.
He’ll probably shrug it off, or downplay it because one of man’s greatest fear is turning on a woman he is not into. You know those guys who won’t leave you alone? Always trying to talk to you, the ones who creep you out the most, well us men feel the same way when we’ve “accidentally led a woman on.”
And now the WARNING:
It’s need to be genuine for a man to believe you actually do miss him. (I suppose for this to work. 😉 )
If you say it all the time it loses its impact.
If you don’t back it up by making an effort to see him, the never-ending miss cycle will push him away because he will not trust your sincerity. Men NEED to trust you more than you might have ever been led to believe before.
Probably because you’ve only heard women talk about how they don’t truth their man. Or they want a guy they can trust.
When a man opens up to you physically and even slightly emotionally they are trusting you with information and emotions which could effectively make him feel or be seen less than a man. If have you the power to emasculate him, tear down his ego, or “air out his dirty laundry” to the world his trust in you must be secure.
=>ALL men need to feel safe. Maybe not physically but definitely emotionally.
Part of the reason why I feel we like to know you miss us is because you’re assuring us that special trust.
Imagine a man saying or thinking this and you’ll see how important it is to a guy to hear how much you miss him…
“I have to let you go for a while. We’ll be apart for a time. You’re carrying my heart and soul with you. You know my secrets well. Please remind me from time to time you’re still carrying around my precious heart and no one will ever be allowed to take it from you.”
Next let’s consider the words, “Baby… I’ve missed you so much.” and what real effect it has on him.
The Mushy Stuff:
I want a woman in my life to miss me because it tells me she is thinking about me. I’m a part of her life. Not that she couldn’t function without me but the connection we’ve made enhances her happiness – and that also makes me happy.
The Sexual Piece:
Every man at some point in his life knows when a woman he is in a relationship with , (under certain circumstances) uses those words… it almost always is followed by a hug, a few kisses, maybe some more kisses, and then yes, incredible sex!
Men have a part inside them which needs to be fully connected to the woman he is in love with and to satisfy the sincerity of that connection, must experience an action related to it. That simply means you can tell him until you’re blue in the face how much you miss him but if you don’t back it up, he won’t “feel” the connection.
I committed to a girl once who lived several hours away. She struggled with revealing her feeling through words. But one day she had me spray a stuffed animal, I’m sorry drown that little doggy in my cologne so she could smell me anytime she wanted.
It was more than just a romantic gesture but an action which gave me no doubt she felt connected to me. And how much she missed me.
Now instead of leaving it there she took it one step further and bought a small comfy pillow which she sprayed her perfume on it. Knowing she wanted me to be able to smell her whenever I missed her increased the strength of our connection.
I could go a little deeper here, depending on your age group, the type of guy you’re dealing with, the obsessive compulsive aspects, the neediness and security issues, and so on… but let’s keep it as simple as possible.
*Men – who feel attracted to you, or have made a physical and emotional connection with you, or who are in a long-term relationship with you – like (and love) to hear how much he is missed.
It’s a sign of affection. A clear acknowledgement that there has been an intimate bond formed. An indication of your love.
A real support that no matter how far apart you find yourselves – you will always hold his secrets in with absolute trust.
And as always with men – showing him how much you miss is more effective than just saying it once in a while.