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Do Men Like To Know You Miss Them?

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Oh yes they do like to know they are missed by you IF and ONLY IF there is already something going on.

Telling or showing a guy you miss him will rarely ever bring him closer to you unless he has no idea about HOW you feel about him.

The advice today is to not use the “I miss you.” words unless you’re sure about how he feels. You might be able to use it to get a reaction from him – as in an attempt to see if he cares about you but there are better ways to do that so be careful with doing that.

A Man wants to know without a doubt, that special woman in their life is thinking about him.  He wants to know you’re a part of his life.

Nothing makes a man more happy than knowing he’s missed physically, mentally, or emotionally.

Okay… before you send him lots of texts or phone calls you must understand something about men.

ACTIONS speak louder than words when it comes to communicating to him how you feel IF he’s to get it.

You can tell a guy until you’re blue in the face about how bad you miss him and he’ll hear it – mostly – BUT it won’t have the same impact as showing him.

Men have a part inside them which needs to be fully connected to the woman he is in love with and to satisfy the sincerity of that connection, must experience an action related to it.

If you don’t back it up, he won’t “feel” the deeper more important connection.

After all – think about it – anyone can say anything to you but how do you know it’s even close to being real – PROOF. Proof in these cases often requires ACTION.

I was committed to a girl once who lived several hours away. She struggled with revealing her feeling through words which is fine for a guy.

One day she had me spray a stuffed animal, well actually drown that little doggy in my cologne so she could smell me anytime she wanted.

It was more than just a cute romantic gesture but an ACTION which gave me no doubt she felt connected to me.

And how much she missed me.

She was showing me (beyond words) that when I wasn’t there she needed a reminder, something to make her smile, something she connected me with which left me with a proven impression that she missed me.

Sure – she could’ve left a text or a quick message or phone call to tell me – that’s nice too BUT her romantic mean so much more.

That’s your first lesson today about understanding men.

Your second lesson as it relates to missing a guy and letting him know…

If you say it all the time it loses its impact.

Just like the “love you” at the end of a phone call. It becomes habitual and loses its real meaning quickly if it’s done all the time.

So use it sparingly.

Say it once in a while when appropriate and throw in some ACTION to back it up.

That way he’ll really get it.

Which leads to the next point of all this…

Backing it up.

For that to happen you must make a real effort to see him and not leave it all up to him.

You don’t have to do it all the time. Maintain some balance.

But if you’re constantly telling him you miss him and you’re not doing anything REAL to close the gap (something within your power) he will eventually lose TRUST in your sincerity.

He might even stop believing that you actually do miss him. Which is something I know you don’t want to ever happen.

Men NEED to trust you more than you might have ever been led to believe  and that’s probably because most advice out there is about trusting the guy and not the woman.

It works both ways.

When a man opens up to you physically and emotionally they are trusting you with information and emotions which could effectively make him feel or be seen less than a man.

You have the power to emasculate him, tear down his ego, or “air out his dirty laundry” to the world.

He’s entrusting you with someone he holds dear.

This also means when you’re letting him know you miss him – you’re also reassuring him that his secrets are safe.

Which is certainly one of the many reasons why he need to hear, see, and believe you do in fact miss him when he’s gone.

The many reasons why he likes to know you miss him.

It’s a CLEAR sign of affection.

A direct acknowledgement that there has been an intimate bond formed between you and him.

An indication of your love.

It’s EVIDENCE or PROOF that no matter how far apart you find yourselves – you will always hold his secrets in with absolute trust.

He feels needed in some way. Of course this is not always a good thing but for today’s post – it’s okay.

Thanks for stopping by today and I do hope I’ve proved to you that the man in your life wants and needs to know you miss him when you’re apart.

Obviously the reasons you’re apart and time you can not see each other is beyond my scope – but I DO hope by reading this today you’re secure in the knowledge that men DO like to know you’re missing.

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If you’re looking for ways to get him to miss YOU – then these well-written articles will show you how to make that happen. I’ve posted them up at The Approach:

“If you’re in a relationship or just dating a guy, making him miss you and get excited to see you can be done easily. Get him back to you before he loses all his interest. The time spent away from each other can be useful. Info, dressing, holding, a life, positive. silence, finishing strong are 7 ways to make him miss you badly.”

How To Make Him Miss You Badly


“A man needs to miss you but how do you get it to happen without playing games. Try these helpful things and see how much he wants to see you again. Give him space. Be more social. Invest in your life. Tease him. Have fun. Show him your adventurous side. Wear a sexy scent. Leave some mystery and be’ll sure to miss you.”

How to Make Him Miss You Like Crazy

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  • Claire

    Hey Pete,

    I hope you get to reply to this sometime.
    Where do I even begin…
    Well I’ve known this guy for awhile, we move around the same circles but actually have never physically met. We just follow eachother on all social media platforms. Anyway I study abroad but went back home during Christmas. I think he heard I was back and asked me for my number on FB and asked if we could meet up. Sadly by the time he had done that I was already back to school. We started talking alot, skyping almost every day. It was kinda hard because we knew we wouldn’t be seeing each-other in the near future but we were looking at all this from the “in the next 2 years” angle.
    He was so serious with me and he’d go into depth on the future and all that and he truly wanted marriage. (may I add that he’s from an aristocratic family and it’s the “norm” that he needs to be married soon) So when he approached me, he approached me in a very very serious manner.
    I wasn’t really into him… I hadn’t dated in 5yrs and just didn’t know how to act so I’d always shove everything off. Till I became dependent on talking to him and then I *think* I might have grown some feelings for him. Anyway the moment I told him I kinda liked him was the moment everything changed and it just seemed like the ball was now on his court.

    I’m sadly a very prideful person so I suggested we stop talking (so I could have the upper hand). He told me he couldn’t stop talking to me but that if I stop talking to him he’d have no choice than to back away.
    I just feel like I did so many things to mess this all up, all the things I said to him like how if he was in a different family I would probably give him a try. (I didn’t want to be involved in a family like his with so much power)

    Now we no longer talk, I’m not even sure what happened. But I want to tell him I miss him…. because I do so much… idk if that’s wise because I still want him to feel like the alpha male and I still want him to do the “chasing”

    It took all this falling apart for me to actually appreciate him and now I don’t know what to do. What if I tell him I miss him and the conversation doesn’t go as expected. Should I suggest we skype instead and tell him then? Or just text him?
    I want to leave all this with the upper hand rather than being one of those girls desperate to have him….

  • Roxanne

    Hei Pete
    I really need you help..I meet my true love two years ago and everything was so special and perfect between us that we decide to get married and starts our wedding plans and everything…all of this till this boy meet a bad entourage and he start to change his normal point of view and that make me doubt and wonder if he is really the one and..we start to argue a lot and so on.Now we re break up since almost two months and i miss him with all my heart.I know that he loved me a lot but i was so confused that since we break up he didn’t text me or anything.A couple of days I call him because i couldn’t resist and he answer really angry and ask me if something serious happen because he is watching a movie and don’t wanna talk.I told him that i wanna see him and he say that he is busy.That make me feel really sad and confused because i call him after all his friends tell me how much he miss me and things like this.The next day after the phone call a friend of him ask me out and i refused and that boy tell me to come because he is with my ex…and i think that my ex put him to do that..but i don’t understand why.I want him back..but I don t know what to do.Or I don’t know how to forget about him..I m really sad and I don t know what do to.If you have some advices I ll be more than greatful.

  • cathy

    I’m in this exclusive relationship with a man who is very attentive and loving yo me. However 10 months into our relationship he had some conversations with girls on tinder. And yes….I found out by looking at his phone. A fact I am not proud of . He said he needed confirmation or an ego stroke . What is he not getting from our relationship that would lead him to seek out confirmation from strangers?

  • Wallflower

    I have been dating this man for five months and a couple days ago he moved to another continent (only for the summer though) we have been texting every day even tho the time difference makes it hard. I told him that I can’t stop thinking of him and that I miss him terribly and he said I should show him. How? Like what does he mean? Words obviously aren’t enough for him. Any ideas? He’s 38 by the way and I’m 21

  • CC

    Hi Pete. I don’t know what to believe. My story:
    Collegues both single and with incredibly chemistry for 1,5 years now.
    First date 9 months ago. incredible but only after 2 months first hookup. Casual, incidental, not planned. Long story short many promises, declarations of love but never 2second date en he even disappeared on me in dec for 2 weeks after not showing up for date.
    fast forward to april. After flirting an incredible night together (not plannend). His explanation for disappearing he was scared and not ready for relationship. Started dating, he followed through and kept promises this time. But kept saying I sould me careful with him, he doesn’t trust himself etc. i am to blame now.. I still acted needy and insecure. And as in selfulfilling prophesy he disappeared, again.. After him saying i texted to often and being insecure. I told him i liked him but was scared..
    Now no contact for 2weeks.. What to do.. Will he come back? Tell him i miss him after month? Is he just not that into me. Or did he use me, again?

    • Let cut right to it CC…

      Guys who run because they are scared and not ready for a relationship BUT refuse to tell you why, instead just disappear without a word are NOT ready for a relationship of any kind.

      Truthfully, scared to start a new job in a new town with no one is valid. Scared to sky dive, cliff climb, or any dangerous feat is valid. Even a little scared to just get out and meet people is kind of valid when you think about the large social world we live in…

      BUT a guy who avoids the truth with you, using the “I’m scared” or “I’m going to hurt you” or “Please don’t trust me.” or “Be careful with me”. is using tactics you should stay far from. Even if they don’t realize they’re doing it.

      Very generally it means, “I’m not capable of sustaining a monogamous relationship at all.”

      Now if he suggested that honestly from the beginning or in the very least made it known he was only interested in casually and openly dating for a while, while seeing other people, I could see that. He’s being honest and upfront and you could decide one way or another if it was worth trying. (While you dated other men too.) That’s reasonable.

      I’ve just seen way too many men use the “I’m sacred” excuse to turn something into casual sex without strings attached or a friend with benefits that they can string along for as long as they want.

      Now sure, maybe you did act needy. I have no way of knowing that.

      BUT remember HE was bringing up relationships and all and of course you’re going to believe or put yourself in a relationship sort of mind with him.

      Will he come back… probably. As long you let him. As long as you actually trust what he’s saying is the truth.

      Just remember, being scared of just getting deeply involved with a woman is a sure sign he’s not ready and never will be UNTIL he takes care of that first. Typically it’s immaturity, Mommy or family problems, women issues, likes being single and wants to stay that way, and more…

      Sure some women have a way of becoming the one girl a guy changes for but I’m willing to bet that is more rare and less likely to happen.

      Chemistry is one thing. Commitment and being capable of sustaining a relationship, whether it fails or not takes a different sort of guy and if I were you, I’d keep searching for someone who is a little less scared, more aware, and capable of honesty from the very beginning.

      Hope my candidness helps you out and I’m wishing you all the best of luck,


  • Zeli

    There’s this guy from my church I met him in last June but we are got to know each other since November it was the camp time and we happen to be in same group so we that’s how we started talking to each other and during that time he told me I am beautiful like almost 3 times back to back and I do notice him looking at me and it’s kind of cute the way he acts around me but m still confused if he likes me more then a friend or just flirting around cuz he does make all the girls smile and he jokes around and compliments them but I haven’t ever seen him share the same comfort level as with me nor have I heard him tell other girls that they are beautiful or cute.. but me he calls me cute too and he acts too excited around me like we argue alott but it still brings a smile on our faces both of us argue like anything and I find him cute too but m confused -_- he hasn’t yet asked my number.. we meet only on Sundays and sometimes I do avoid him but he always approaches me even when I try to avoid him so its like yea he is trying.. but STILL I AM CONFUSED cause he is that popular guy whom all girls come to and be giving him attention but I don’t give him that much attention so he only comes to me 😛 but once our conversation starts it’s crazy we argue like no one’s around and he laughs on anything I say or the silly stuff too that day he screamed on the road when I was leaving he shouted very loudly saying I MISS YOU so I replied him by yelling back miss you too and since then I didn’t speak to him due to some busy schedule.. he is very cute but m scared I don’t wanna end up being hurt so I don’t talk to him much.. help me tell me is he even into me or no??

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