≡ Menu
Why Do Guys…?

Do Men Like To Know You Miss Them?

in Long Distance Apart, What Men Like To Know
Woman Missing Man Tell Him Show Apart Distance

Oh yes they do like to know they are missed by you IF and ONLY IF there is already something going on.

Telling or showing a guy you miss him will rarely ever bring him closer to you unless he has no idea about HOW you feel about him.

The advice today is to not use the “I miss you.” words unless you’re sure about how he feels. You might be able to use it to get a reaction from him – as in an attempt to see if he cares about you but there are better ways to do that so be careful with doing that.

A Man wants to know without a doubt, that special woman in their life is thinking about him.  He wants to know you’re a part of his life.

Nothing makes a man more happy than knowing he’s missed physically, mentally, or emotionally.

Okay… before you send him lots of texts or phone calls you must understand something about men.

ACTIONS speak louder than words when it comes to communicating to him how you feel IF he’s to get it.

You can tell a guy until you’re blue in the face about how bad you miss him and he’ll hear it – mostly – BUT it won’t have the same impact as showing him.

Men have a part inside them which needs to be fully connected to the woman he is in love with and to satisfy the sincerity of that connection, must experience an action related to it.

If you don’t back it up, he won’t “feel” the deeper more important connection.

After all – think about it – anyone can say anything to you but how do you know it’s even close to being real – PROOF. Proof in these cases often requires ACTION.

I was committed to a girl once who lived several hours away. She struggled with revealing her feeling through words which is fine for a guy.

One day she had me spray a stuffed animal, well actually drown that little doggy in my cologne so she could smell me anytime she wanted.

It was more than just a cute romantic gesture but an ACTION which gave me no doubt she felt connected to me.

And how much she missed me.

She was showing me (beyond words) that when I wasn’t there she needed a reminder, something to make her smile, something she connected me with which left me with a proven impression that she missed me.

Sure – she could’ve left a text or a quick message or phone call to tell me – that’s nice too BUT her romantic mean so much more.

That’s your first lesson today about understanding men.

Your second lesson as it relates to missing a guy and letting him know…

If you say it all the time it loses its impact.

Just like the “love you” at the end of a phone call. It becomes habitual and loses its real meaning quickly if it’s done all the time.

So use it sparingly.

Say it once in a while when appropriate and throw in some ACTION to back it up.

That way he’ll really get it.

Which leads to the next point of all this…

Backing it up.

For that to happen you must make a real effort to see him and not leave it all up to him.

You don’t have to do it all the time. Maintain some balance.

But if you’re constantly telling him you miss him and you’re not doing anything REAL to close the gap (something within your power) he will eventually lose TRUST in your sincerity.

He might even stop believing that you actually do miss him. Which is something I know you don’t want to ever happen.

Men NEED to trust you more than you might have ever been led to believe  and that’s probably because most advice out there is about trusting the guy and not the woman.

It works both ways.

When a man opens up to you physically and emotionally they are trusting you with information and emotions which could effectively make him feel or be seen less than a man.

You have the power to emasculate him, tear down his ego, or “air out his dirty laundry” to the world.

He’s entrusting you with someone he holds dear.

This also means when you’re letting him know you miss him – you’re also reassuring him that his secrets are safe.

Which is certainly one of the many reasons why he need to hear, see, and believe you do in fact miss him when he’s gone.

The many reasons why he likes to know you miss him.

It’s a CLEAR sign of affection.

A direct acknowledgement that there has been an intimate bond formed between you and him.

An indication of your love.

It’s EVIDENCE or PROOF that no matter how far apart you find yourselves – you will always hold his secrets in with absolute trust.

He feels needed in some way. Of course this is not always a good thing but for today’s post – it’s okay.

Thanks for stopping by today and I do hope I’ve proved to you that the man in your life wants and needs to know you miss him when you’re apart.

Obviously the reasons you’re apart and time you can not see each other is beyond my scope – but I DO hope by reading this today you’re secure in the knowledge that men DO like to know you’re missing.

Make sure you sign up below for a better understanding of men, how we work, why we act the way we do, what we love, how to love us – just basically everything anything you’ve always wanted to know about guys.

If you’re looking for ways to get him to miss YOU – then these well-written articles will show you how to make that happen. I’ve posted them up at The Approach:

“If you’re in a relationship or just dating a guy, making him miss you and get excited to see you can be done easily. Get him back to you before he loses all his interest. The time spent away from each other can be useful. Info, dressing, holding, a life, positive. silence, finishing strong are 7 ways to make him miss you badly.”

How To Make Him Miss You Badly


“A man needs to miss you but how do you get it to happen without playing games. Try these helpful things and see how much he wants to see you again. Give him space. Be more social. Invest in your life. Tease him. Have fun. Show him your adventurous side. Wear a sexy scent. Leave some mystery and be’ll sure to miss you.”

How to Make Him Miss You Like Crazy

About the author: Peter White… Showing men and women ways to attract each other naturally by helping you to understand each other. Over ten years experience which has shown me how to see things clearly and get to the root cause of most dating and relationships problems. Hope you learn and enjoy your why do guys experience.

Sign up for your free copy of my 80 page book.

“The Silent Man – Why men go silent, ignore you, or fail to share their feelings.”

  • The 6 main reasons men will go silent and ignore you. Once you know these you’ll never have to ask why is he not talking to you ever again.
  • 49 personal situations that reveal a guy’s point of view about why he has stopped contacting you.
  • You’ll found out if it’s HIM or YOU so you’ll know exactly what to do next to open him up.
  • Change how you see men, how they see you, & how your communication differences might be stopping you from connecting to men.

*Click on the picture below to read some of it online. The rest is ONLY available to subscribers of the why do guys newsletter.

Your personal info is always safe and never sold to anyone at anytime. No spam is ever sent. Unsubscribe easily at any time you feel you don’t need it anymore.
Stay in touch and learn about men by joining my newsletter below. Join other women like you discuss men by joining the new Why Do Guys Facebook Group. You can also Like or follow the Facebook Fan Page. And lastly Join me on Twitter.
91 comments… add one
  • It’s a nice piece and I have thoroughly enjoyed reading it Peter. It has been a while since I got involved with someone and now that I am, (just about two months now) I find myself wondering if I am doing it right. Sometimes I think that staying away from relationships as a very withdrawn personality makes me feel uncertain about how to handle the complexities of emotions that come with being in a relationship.
    But so far it’s been going well. I find in Him the kind of attachment I had looked forward to seeing in a guy but keep asking myself is he that into me?
    Communication between us has been great so far…but there are times I just kind of have apprehensions may be because I have not heard “the three words” from him yet.

  • Jaymi

    Ok, well that’s great and all and i have not problem expressing myself when I miss someone. The problem is there are some men who won’t say it, no matter what. You know they do….they text three, four times a day, call each night, etc…but when you say you miss them over text, some joke is cracked, or some response without actually saying it back. What’s that all about?

    • Peter White

      Ahhh Jaymi, great point.

      I won’t get too deep here but I’m sure there are lots of different reasons why guys act this way.

      1. Men are afraid of showing too much real emotion with women.
      2. Since he’s texting or talking to you so much, he quite honestly, doesn’t feel far enough away from you to miss you.
      3. Sometimes guys believe the minute they show this much attention to a woman, she’ll lose the attraction for him.

      At some point you must understand that when a guy as acting this AND he’s in constant contact with you by any means possible – it’s almost always because he’s afraid he’s going to miss you. He might even be worried you’ll find someone else.

      I know, it’s a strange way of thinking about it but it just shows how much he does care when he’s afraid he’s going to miss you.


  • Ann

    You are right..
    I feel that too… Its been a while i never said miss him even thought we are seeing each other everyday, someday i tell him that i miss him.. He just froze and smile.. I dont know what thats mean… Is it good or he just dont trust me thar ido really miss him..

    I miss him not because miss mean i never seen him for while.. I miss him because i miss how we used to do… Everything.. Idont know how to put in words but when i told him “i miss you” just my body and soul go with it fullest and i cry at night that im afraid he wont feel the same…

    I knew he make time to me… But im quite worry he doin it because he pitied me, or just feel takong responsible tome after he said he love me…. But actions tells everything… I feel he not attracted to me anymore… And im theone who missed him maybe…

  • fhel

    nice one peter thanks!
    May i ask you.
    this guy keep on asking me if i miss him.
    So i told him i dont miss him,then i said i will tell him next time if i miss him. hahahahaha
    and then one night he said to me, “dont fall inlove with me” and then he laughed.
    What does he mean. So i said “who told you i will fall for you” and then he said “Okay then not!”
    we just laughed. but deep inside i felt something like duh! I think im starting to like him! So starting from now on i’m not going to continue what i feel. We’re friends by the way.
    What can you say about this Peter? Thanks!

    • Peter White

      You’re welcome!

      He was flirting with you (sort of way).

      He was trying to gauge a reaction from you to see if you actually are feeling something for him.

      This depends on the guy. If he’s normally good or confident with women he’ll use it to flirt with you. To misdirect you. To get you thinking about him and/or prove to you how confident he really is around women.

      Other guys who (may not be good with women) tend to use it to as I stated above, to notice your reaction or get you to admit you have feelings for them. Since you’re already friends I’m assuming it’s most likely this one. He wants to know how you “really” feel about him.

      That’s what I have to say about it.


  • May

    Okay, so I met this guy on a dating site and we connected and we met for coffee, connected in person and went out again the next day. I jokingly told him the first time we met that if he didn’t leave then he wouldn’t miss me (we had already made plans to meet again). Now he won’t stop asking me if I miss him and I don’t know what to do, we have known each other barely a week. I don’t know if he is continuing the joke or actually asking and I don’t know how to approach it to ask and I may have accidently led him on by going along with it the firsy time he asked me. Any ideas?

    • Peter White

      Hey May,

      Chances are that yes, he’s continuing the joke. I wouldn’t worry too much about it. After all you started it. 🙂

      If it continues then it might become apparent that just doesn’t “get it”. You could just laugh it off until he gets the picture. Eventually the “joke” should run its course unless he’s really off his rocker.

      When a guy takes flirting too seriously it’s not usually a good sign but can be dealt with by simply not responding to it. Again, laugh it off a little but don’t go into the subject any further.

      My guess is, since you agreed to date him, and agreed to a second one, that you are interested in him. The “leading him on” thing is already past. Right?

      Hope he quickly gets the points and moves on to more advanced flirting on his own and spares you the predictable thing. :0

      All the best,

    • Peter White

      I’d say he’s doing both May. He’s continuing the joke AND he’s trying to see if you like him enough to miss him. Chances are he’s not good at coming up with this stuff on his own so he followed your lead.

      I wouldn’t say you led him on, that was his thing and not yours. It’s obvious to me what you were doing but lots of guys just don’t get it.


  • Casey

    My ex and I have been on and off with communication for many years. We’re both in relationships but I miss him so much it hurts. So my question: do men like hearing from an ex that she misses him, even if he is in a fulfilling relationship?

  • J

    I met this man at a conference in ethiopia and we just bonded. We had one night together. Back home, we kept texting, calling and skyping each other for months. We laughed and worked together remotely for a while. He lives in nigeria and i in south Africa. Not exactly easy to fly every weekend! One day i told him i wanted more. He said he was soul searching, couldnt commit because of the distance … we still talk over the phone like if nothing happened. Not as often. I miss him so much. I want to tell him. Should i?

  • Tracy

    I met this guy at a wedding friends of the Bride and groom like my self. He persued me mainly for sex i stayed with him ya mda yada for after he gave me a tshirt to wear made me take it home so He had and excuse to see me again and wouldnt let me get away with not giving up my phone number. I was flattered. He just got out of a 6 year rela and I a year engagement. So neither one of us was looking for a relationship. A month or so goes by we have talked everyday had a couple misunderstandings and got through fin, i began to feel lead on, leading me on was his attempt to simply respect me. I walked away as I was no longer comfortable with him sleeping with others tho he said he wasnt but still would like to reserve the right to. He claimed we werent dating which I found confusing. And when i clarified he said he wasn’t ready for comittment. And i understand. And its fine np but why give me a tooth brush at your house and introduce me to your dad and all your friends who he clearly bragged about me too. Fassforward another month we talk every few days maybe max 4 days and therefore kept in touch. He has recently shown a greater interest in me and I think its due to building trust. He is well aware I am not interested in sharing anyone and I don’t sleep around. Despite our fling. Recently I told him I missed him and hoped he was having a great day. Which is the most I have shared with him emotionally since walking away before. He responded with a kiss emoji and that i am welcome at his place anytime when i have free time. He also wrote on my fb for the first time saying he would join me for a new show I was watching that he has seen but would watch again if i ever wanted company. He has never really done that publically before. He knows where I stand. So could he be coming around or is he going to try and just see if I have changed my mind about sleeping together… what is something kind I can say if he tried to make a move if I do cgeck out his new place. Also he made comments about where I found my new appartment in regards to it being a bit far away…like far away from what? Eveyone i live and my work are close by. So he means him…? My two cents is…i think he thiught he found someine special in me but his friends I feel wanted him to remain single thwy seemed to block him a bit…he has a tendency to listen blindly to them it seems and they him. In regards to women. Since he moved he hasnt been as close to his best friend due to distance…i have been wrong before so what do you think?? Lol

  • Noelle

    The more I read these sites the more I know they are just a waste of time.

    Bottom line: Every human wants to be loved. Men and Women are humans. Mind blown.

  • Amy Bee

    I stopped reading when you used “immaculate” instead of “emasculate”. Hope being corrected by a woman didn’t take away from your stereotypical male ego.

    • Peter White

      It’s going to take much more than that to offend me despite your obvious prejudgment of my “stereotypical” male ego.

      Who doesn’t like “free” editing. 😀 Right?

      Tell you what, when you start your blog or point me to the hundreds or thousands of pages you’ve written, and point out all the hard work you’ve done (aside from leaving a four second comment only to judge a man quickly which only makes me (pre) judge you as (probably) just hating guys :p .. I will happily repay you one edit which will make us even.


Leave a Comment