I bet you're a "master text-er." You can whip out your phone faster than any of your guy friends and you know how to use it.
If only your "love life" worked as efficiently as your text messages you wouldn't have to be searching for an answer today.
You might have your phone under control but those men, you know the ones who elude you at every turn, like they're actually trying to piss you off or play some silly dating game.
They have a serious problem with a seemingly simple task of just texting you back.
It annoys you so much you feel like ripping your hair out because you just don't understand...
WHY!
Give me a few minutes of your time today and I promise to get to the bottom of why a guy doesn't text you back and...
You will also get two simple texts to send a guy which will reveal if he's worth your time and if he's interested in you.
Let's get real about this problem.
Men are not the best with their phone skills when it comes to an attractive woman such as yourself. Keep that in mind and expect anything and everything from him with regards to texting.
It's no secret that lots of men are terrible "texters." In fact I've sold so many "texting guides for men" without even trying that there must be something going on with their terrible texting habits.
Okay, let's play fair - women just like you buy them too, but that's neither here nor there.
Here is where I'm going to show you a practically guaranteed method to get him to text you back quicker with two easy texts.
(Go ahead and let me know how it worked for you below... the bad and the good.)
SEND THIS:
I was just thinking about you. 🙂
If you don't get a response within five minutes...
SEND THIS:
HA! And now you have the pleasure of thinking about me. 😉
DO NOT send another text until you hear back from him.
If he's not into you you're going to find out quickly.
How he responds says everything about how much he's attracted to you and what type of guy he really is.
If he doesn't respond and you're completely positive (without a doubt) there's not a good reason, then he is just not that interested in you.
I know it sucks but hey, two texts to see if a guy is into you is not really an investment which is going to break your emotional bank, is it?
I'll explain why it works.
Men can not resist wondering if a potential girlfriend is thinking about them.
He'll get that "cocky" look in his eye when it's happening and it drives him crazy when he has to guess. He now knows you're thinking about him and when you "suggest" he'll be thinking about you, he will have no choice but to do just that...
Think about you in a way which is close to how he FEELS about you.
Because when a man can not get an image of a woman out of their mind he finds himself desiring her more and more.
Here's the cool part of about this simple text routine.
You'll know quickly what TYPE of man you're dealing with. He'll either crumble or step up to the plate of your flirty text.
In other words - he will either shut up or put up.
And the really cool part is that you're not forcing the issue at all.
It doesn't come off as needy or desperate which makes him want to reply to you even more.
You're making a quick statement which doesn't even require a response which is what you want because he'll text back IF he's into you and based on what he texts back - will reveal how much and in which way he is interested in you.
Now that you know what to text him PLEASE, before you send the routine - there are some very important warnings you must be aware of:
- Don't over use it on one guy or you'll kill its effect. It's a one and done kind of thing unless you change it.
- Change it slightly to fit your personal situation. Constantly develop it and mix in some flirty humor.
- Understand there are reasons beyond a man's control which make it impossible to respond immediately. Be patient.
- If you insist on texting him again before he responds, wait at least 24 hours and then text this, "I think that picture I sent you yesterday is going to get me in trouble. :p ". I'm telling you this one works amazingly well, but it's sexual overtone is not for everyone.
- If you are not having fun with it you're doing something wrong. Comment below what happened and I'll see what I can do for you.
- Sending a sexy picture of you will get a response but depending on his age he will show it to his friends so expect that to happen. Younger men in particular. Sending pictures do work but they are more effective in other ways.
You have the texting routine, some of the reasons why it works and how it does it's magic; you also have a stamped-out list of why a guy will not or can not text you back...
Lastly...
HOW do you know how he feels or if he's interested in you just by what or if he texts you back.
The obvious first:
If you don't hear anything back AFTER the two texts, and a reasonable amount of time passes - it will generally mean he's either not THAT interested (in that way) OR he's with someone else romantically. Either way it's a clear sign to not text him again.
If he plays into your flirty text then that's a good sign he's attracted to you.
Interest is something else.
The difference being, attraction is what we feel towards women, interest is what we feel when we want to explore those feelings more with you.
If he responds back in a less flirty kind of weird boring way - this means one of two things:
He doesn't know how to flirt or text flirt (which is the less probably reason) OR he's not attracted to you or interested in exploring the romantic side with you.
Sure you can try again but it's not advisable because there are many other opportunities with other men.
Why waste your time, energy, and amazing texting skills on a guy who is either not into you or doesn't even know how to text flirt with a woman he likes.
Us guys, okay well it's a human thing but, when someone texts us something like what I've asked you to send, we can not help but to interpret what it means based on HOW we're feeling about the person who is sending it to us. It's human nature to be curious.
Think about it.
The message isn't really sexual at all.
Sure it's a little flirty but sexual, I think not.
The interpretation then becomes more of a personal thing to the person receiving it.
Imagine if someone you've known for years as (just a friend) sends you it. Wouldn't you think it was a little creepy? Wouldn't it be way out of character?
Downright weird and certainly random.
It wouldn't feel sexual at all because it's interpreted by you as coming from someone who is... just a friend.
But when it comes to a relationship which is not known or clearly defined, meaning he could be into you or not, attracted to you or not, (the text message) is ambiguous in nature.
It could be interpreted either way.
Which is why it works and how it WILL work for you.
The guy being sent the message interprets it based on how he feels about you or how he sees you - romantically, attracted, as a friend, a potential date, etc...
Lastly...
I have a post in the works to help you get a guy to respond to your text message under most circumstances but honestly, I have the technique down - just not the actual "texts" or "words" to send so who knows how long it will take me to research that problem.
In the meantime - if you're having texting problems this will take care of them all.
The program centers around grabbing and keeping a man's attention by using pre-made text messages built around getting him to think about you.
Sort of in the same way which I've proposed above in my little two-text routine. You see, as a guy, the more we think about a woman when she's not around - the higher the chance of us becoming more attracted and sometimes obsessed with her - which can way too easily lead to feelings of love.
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Thank you for all your support and I do hope ALL you need is my quick "two text message" to get him to FINALLY reveal how he feels about you so you can spend more time enjoying life with him and less time - figuring him out.
i met this guy on a dating site a month ago. we’re doing great in our conversation, he flirts back always but something changed when we stopped talking for a week(cut off wifi connection). well before, he always say he’s attracted to me and that he wants me to be with him. he always says that but right now, he’s like being distant towards me? unlike before, he’s the one who’s always approaching or starting a conversation for a day but now, it’s always me who finds a way to have a conversation with him. tho he still tells me he likes me… and one time he told me he loves me. do u think he’s sincere or he’s just bored and likes the attention that i give to him? he always replies after 10-15 mins and i hate waiting. it’s frustrating because i like him a lot. and i told him that. is it because he doesnt find me mysterious anymore? i want to know ur opinion about this
So I texted the first message and exactly 5 minutes while typing the next message, he responded “Oh yeah? 😛” so what does it mean? I met him online, everytime i asked him if he likes me he always said yes. But his action was kinda different, im the one who always initiate to text and he replied just short, and sometimes just liking and hearting my text or giff. 😔
Hey Liz – PLEASE, never ask a guy if he likes you. It’s something I tell guys to do to, so I’ll ask the same of you:
https://www.dialteg.com/nice-guys-finish-first-when/20-nice-guy-tips/12-do-you-like-me/
The problem here is that you’re chasing him, he knows it, and it’s not increasing his attraction or getting him to step up and actually do something about it with you.
Men will “put up” with a woman who is doing this, they will enjoy the boost, but they RARELY will ever do more, and worse yet – will constantly search for a woman THEY can chase because that’s what guy really want to do – within reason of course.
Read these please:
https://www.whydoguys.com/are-you-stopping-him-from-falling-for-you-let-him-chase-you/
https://www.whydoguys.com/are-you-chasing-him-dont-even-know-it-by-showing-too-much-interest/
It’s time to either figure out how to change the tables and him chasing you, OR to just be done with it and take it as a well-needed lesson for the next guy in your life.
All the best.
Hi Peter,
Thank you so much for this article! There is a guy I have been texting for about a month now and I wasn’t sure how he felt. He is recently single, we started talking after his breakup. When I sent the first text he replied immediately with, “yeah?” I am still unsure what that response means in terms of attraction and/or interest. Maybe you can shed some light? Thanks again! 🙂
Hi April and thank you – happy to write them for you.
I’m not sure if you sent the second one but it’s a very important piece to understand how he feels about you. The second gives us a conclusion and most of the time, it’s how he responds to that way which makes his interest easier to see.
He wrote back “Yeah?” because he was waiting for you to text him something else. So did you? and how what did he text back?
So I’ve been social media friends with this guy for about 2 years, we have never met in person but I’ve always been Interested in him. So one night I took my shot and messaged him, I told him “I needed advice about a guy i wanted to get to know better but i wasn’t sure if I should tell the guy.” He responded and did give some kind advice and lastly he asked if the guy was Korean, I thought his question was kind of direct and strange. I’m African american and this guy is in fact Korean, so when he directly asked if he’s the same nationality as himself, it made me think he might already know I like him. So some days afterward, this guy started sending me heart emojis on all my selfies and telling me my hair is pretty. We would text every other day, but we live in different countries so there is big time difference, so that makes it a little challenging to communicate regularly but still we do. When we text, it’s pretty quick responses and it’s always exciting conversation, hes really funny and positive about life! However about 2 weeks ago, it all changed. While doing facials with my female friends one night, he suggested to video chat, but my friends had no makeup on and would have killed me if I put them on video, so I politely told him that I couldn’t that my friends would be mad cause they had bare faces, sorry can we later? And he responded that it was only a joke and laughed it off. Well after that, he would take whole days to respond to my messages and sometimes he wouldnt respond at all and when we did text they werent as exciting and quick response times anymore.. to be honest I felt crushed and confused, I dont know what I did wrong. The job he works constructions jobs and has always been super busy but before he made time for me, and now he doesnt but he apologizes several days later saying work was super busy and hes sorry for not replying, I honestly dont know what to do because I still really like him. I want to tell him how I feel but it seems like he doesnt care.. Can you tell me what all this means?
Hello Marie and thanks you asking – I’ll try to succinct, gentle, and honest as possible for you.
Number one: Please – I realize I don’t know your dating opportunities, but if you plan on meeting and dating men through the internet, never let it go for this long without meeting them. If a meeting can not or will not happen, you need to step away and look elsewhere quickly.
Number two: What you took with him, through the message you sent, was NOT a shot – it was a premeditated test that most intelligent see through, and the rest, well you’ll probably notice them almost immediately acting weird and less honest/upfront with you, because that’s the tone you set in your message.
IF a guy is not moving forward with you, whether he lives a million miles or way or not, he’s either incapable, unwilling, or more – or making the move yourself will only destroy any future “real” relationship you might have with him. He’s a man. He need to ACT like one. Your job is not to take on the role meant for him.
Number three: Like in number two, he knew you were being “nicely” deceitful. He might’ve even seen it as being cute and coy, and found it slightly attractive. But again – this dishonesty, only needs to him believing you’re not upfront or clear, or like to test men. So – when the time came up to chat face to face and you refused, he associated this dishonesty with a pattern you’ve already set, therefore believing it was just another rouse on your part to play with him.
Whether you meant it or not means nothing because it’s not what you say or do, it’s HOW the other person takes it. Something I lightly cover on my page:
How To Meet & Attract The Best Man For You – He’s Waiting For You!.
Number four: You’ve already “told” him how you felt when you asked him the question about this supposed other guy. But since you didn’t follow through with it, and he assumed you were not being truthful when you didn’t chat with him on demand (granted he’s being a whiny little ass about it) this is why he’s now playing “keep away”. Which is a childish game, but nonetheless, a statement as he feels he’s lost control to someone he’s not met, he appears to play games, who is not working out because of the distance, etc…
Number five: The ONLY solution I can see it complete and total honesty which doesn’t include telling him how you feel about it. Do not go there. Tell him some things I’ve shared with you today, about how all this went down and definitely the reality behind the distance and the facts about whether you’ll actually meet and “see” what happens.
It’s not a guarantee, but it’s certainly the right step.
Beyond all this: It’s a learning curve. Long-distance internet relationship rarely if EVER work out unless a quick solution (meeting up) is worked out before it goes too far.
Never forget this: I met my wife who lived half way around the world so I’ve been there. I’ve also failed falling for internet women many times in my life. I’ve learned many lessons and proof of what needs to be done.
Within a VERY short time, I made a statement along with a commitment, I said: “Let’s meet now or else call it quits.”
The rest is history and a good one. 🙂
He does (most likely) care – but what is written above should give you a simple explanation of what is going on in his mind, and the best way to get past or through all this for you.
Best of luck… your guy friend,
Pete
Hi Peter,
I don’t usually comment but after reading this article, I was compelled to share my two cents.
Being a guy, I can so relate to this. Once the message is sent, it is better to wait for his/her reply to get the results you want & that text will reveal if he or her is interested in you or not. It’s that simple.
Thank You again Peter. Loved it. Keep Writing!
Thank you Justin and I will keep writing.
Are men “terrible at texting”? Or are they smart enough not to waste their time typing stupid messages to stupid women who love to play games and cause drama? There is nothing more annoying than a woman texting you all the time. Here’s a clue – if he doesn’t respond, he DOESN’T LIKE YOU. You need to forget about him and move on. He already has.
So I texted the first message just as in the article exactly 5 minutes later (before I could send the second text) he responded with “I like that” so what would that typically mean? (For the record this is someone who we met online and have had relations 4 times)
Ash,
It means he likes that you were upfront enough to tell him that you’re thinking about it. AND now (as in the second message you didn’t get a chance to send) that he’s thinking about you.
When a guy likes that you’re thinking about him, it’s PROOF to him, that you’re feeling something towards him. Which in lots of cases means he’ll move forward in the way he feels fit to do.
Thanks for asking and leaving it here,
Pete
I texted him and he replied I know, so what does that mean?
Hi Amanda,
It could mean a couple of things:
One – he’s a big Star Wars fan. If you’re not aware of it, there’s a very classic scene where Princess Leah says “I love you” to Han Solo, and sticking within his character of being a cocky guy, he replies back, “I know.”
I won’t get into all the “attractive man” stuff here, but it’s a response which is generally considered among the “community” as classic because it tends to draw a woman in and/or make her like him even more.
So… it’s probably his version.
Meaning – rather than give it all away, which unattractive (personality wise) often do – he’s trying to engage you more in a fun, flirty, kind of cockiness attitude way – and so either, has to do less and get you to chase him, OR avoiding a mistake many guys make of making it too easy on you.
OR…
Two: He’s just not that into you.
The solution:
Play the part back with him and give him the chance to take things further…
IF he keeps it up and doesn’t understand it’s a conversational spice and NOT the real dish – he’s playing a game – ditch him. He just doesn’t get it.
IF he gives you a little back, and progresses forward, then step back a little, and let him realize, you’re not going to roll over that easy – IF he wants you, then he must step up to the challenge and actually BE Han Solo, and not some clone who thinks he can play a words game to have you.
All the best and thank you for asking – hope it goes great for you.
Ok so I sent it to the guy I knew from my workplace.( We flirt a lot, his body language, his eyes tell me that he’s really like me or at least attracted to me) he replied right away with the kind of boring text. So I guess it’s wasting of time to text him again. But how should I act toward him in real life? Should I put him in the friend zone / work related only?
First of all, I might need to read the actual text he sent back to you.
Second – act like it never happened. You sent a text, he replied. If nothing came from it, then it’s not likely to build into something else because it sounds like you randomly texted him something he wasn’t ready for. I’d have to know what your texting habits were before you sent it.
Third – I do not advise workplace romances. Too much junk and overhead to deal with on both sides. Dating can be tough enough as it is and to add a layer of work is not something you might want to try. Look outside of work to build a dating life and find a relationship – if the work thing happens, it happens. Why bother making things more difficult on you.
Thanks for asking and feel free to comment back what you texted him.
I done it! It was really easy to send as well, I didn’t feel like I was being needy or anything. After sending both texts he replied
”You were? I definitely do, you’re so sweet x”
What does this show?
Great to hear it was easy to send. Well, he sent a hug and said he “definitely” thinks about you, so it’s a good sign.