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How A Man Falls In Love – Learn The Secrets To His Addiction To You

Man Falling In Love

Have I really figured out what makes a guy fall in love and what MUST happen for him to feel it?

Yes I have and this is EXCLUSIVE just for you. I reveal exactly what a man thinks about and his addiction for you is created within him.

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The situation is typical.

Imagine a guy at work who sees either a new woman or first notices her and this is how his thought process goes plus what happens to him.

These are the thoughts of a typical TYPE TWO guy (doesn’t get women) when he meets a woman he’s into, they become “friends” and she ends up sleeping with a TYPE ONE guy, she falls in love and then tells him about it.

Here's the link to get the book where I can give you what you need to know about the two types.

The "man thoughts" below are a bit dramatic and it may seem far-fetched but trust me – with or without her sleeping with the other guy – it’s more common than you might ever believe.

Make sure you read it all and the next post because it’s going somewhere special and you’ll never even see it coming:

“Woah look at her! She’s hot. Wow and a perfect ass. Shit, I can’t stop staring at her butt. Wait! She’s turning to look me.

She smiled…did she catch me…I wonder what it’s like to have a girlfriend like that? Oh…here it comes. Here’s comes “Johnny.” Bet she likes him.

Now two more guys are talking to her. I bet she could have all of them if she wanted.

And yep, of COURSE she’s flirting with “Johnny.” She’s playing right into his act. Why do Chics  fall so easily for the one guy who is the obvious player.

But look at her…damn!

She’s looking at me again…WHY!!! After all, she’s flirting with every guy. They all want her. Why would she want anything to do with me?

(…I wonder what she feels like. The shape of her body. They eyes looking back at me…)

Here she comes…yes! No. What do I do? I know I’ll play it all cool.

Ahhh she likes it. I think she’s hitting on me. I’m NOT going to flirt back like those other guys. They’re pathetic and creepy. I’m going pretend I don’t want her at all. She’ll like that.

But here comes the other guys. Now they want to talk to me about her. Discussing every part of her body and what they would to her,  what I know one of them will get to do. Probably not me. I’ll just listen to them talk.

That way I won’t be one of them…she’ll like that even though she’s not here to even see it. Then again – what’s the point anyways.

Finally – We have some alone time. Just me and her. I can finally show her how I’m better. How I won’t objectify her body. How I can like her for who she is and not just for her body. I’m not going to let THIS one slip away.

But I have to act fast. I don’t want “Johnny’s Seconds.”

I CAN’T BELIEVE I just thought that. I called her freaking “seconds.” Now I FEEL LIKE A PIECE OF SHIT!

I know… I’ll make it up to her by acting extra nice. I’ll do something for her. I learn everything I can about her. That way I’ll know exactly what she’s looking for and what he wants.

Those other guys don’t know a thing about her and here I am – learning about her dreams and aspirations. Haha! They’re clueless. I’m definitely in."

(Several months or weeks later)

"I can not believe how close we’ve gotten. This is awesome. She actually comes to me now. She tells me everything…

Excuse me…

You did WHAT? You slept with Johnny!!!!

I’m sorry. I know he’s bad. I knew he was a player.

Oh but he’s not…he’s really a nice guy. He cares about you?

I don’t know why he does those things…WHAT ABOUT ME!!!!! YOU FREAKING WON’T DATE ME?

Oh he’s only affectionate when you’re alone? BUT YOU WON’T EVEN TOUCH ME? I WOULDN’T LET YOU GO FOR ANYTHING.

You’re only looking for a good guy but you always end up with the jerks who don’t seem to love you back as much?

But I love you. Be my girlfriend. Please. You know how I feel ’bout you. No one knows you better than me? I want more than just a friendship. You’re incredible. I want you. I’ll treat you like you deserve to be treated. I haven’t slept with a thousand girls.

I don’t enjoy making you cry…

I JUST WANT TO MAKE YOU HAPPY!!!!!"

Still with me…

COOL!

Some of you might have read the post his thoughts was originally posted on and we’re going to continue from there because I left out some CRITICAL information and you’re going to get it all because you’re here with me now.

Here’s the post if you’d like to leave a comment or read the beginning:

Reading His Mind, Why Do Some Guys Try Way Too Hard to Get You?

Today’s inside look into a guy’s mind is a DANGEROUS one.

It can be quite revealing and even a little scary when you’re shown the actual thoughts that go on inside a man’s mind as it relates to you.

From a man’s perspective, my own and the men who think it all out like this – it can become so emasculating, a man is apt to retreat to his own thoughts and never reveal them to anyone.

Hence the quietness you might experience from him at times.

Self-Promo ALERT: If you're getting a lot of quietness from a guy in your life or you keep getting close to men who won't open up to you, my book reveals everything about men like that and of course:

Why Men Go Silent, Ignore You, Refuse or Won’t Share Their Feelings

Back to our regularly scheduled post...

Some guys will pretend it doesn’t happen. Some guys will act out based on it.

Others will go so deep that they rarely see a way out.

But that’s not the dangerous part. Maybe for him it is, but not for you.

THIS is why it’s so dangerous to hear these things.

Going inside a man’s mind might have you believe that you can now connect with him better and that’s true – BUT you’ll only connect with his mind – and if you want to make a great friend, someone to confide with – there you go.

I just don't think you just here because you want to just make friends with guys so make sure you learn the RIGHT way to connect with a guy.

Here's what I showed you before, if you're struggling to make a deep attractive connection with guys, then read it so you know HOW it's supposed to be done:

The Right & Wrong Ways To Try and Connect With A Man

Now....

As in the case above they became friends and that’s not what he wanted.

What if the roles were reversed – what if you wanted him but you ended up with the OTHER guy or you spent way too much time thinking you’re in his FRIENDS zone – THEN you can see how important all this is to get right.

To truly connect with a man on an INTIMATE level a few things must be in place.

He must be made to feel open enough with you to share them in a different way.

That man above held back for his own reasons – other guys will too and some of those other guys you’ll find yourself falling for are unable to open up – especially if you’re only trying to get inside his mind.

You must open him up by sharing your feelings too – the right way.

The attractive way.

The woman above shared all her feelings to a guy she felt nothing for but if she did it that way to a guy she DID want, I guarantee she would’ve pushed him far away. Something you can easily see as you’re looking from the outside in.

You don’t tell a guy you want how you slept with another guy who may or may not be his buddy, right?

That’s the obvious stuff.

What’s more harmful is all the sharing you might be doing and not realizing it (for one reason because you’re on the inside) which ends up having the same effect on a guy.

You might also be sharing things the WRONG way which is equally as harmful.

So if you’ve been sharing away, clear about your needs to a guy, giving it all away, being what you feel is open and honest AND yet you still find yourself pushing what seems to be right guy away – it’s because you’re not doing in a way which brings him closer.

It’s not your fault.

It feels right, doesn’t it. It “should” be right.

Where’s all the fairness here?

You should be able to be open to a guy without having to worry about scaring him away. Well we would hope it would all work that way but it just doesn’t, and getting caught up in all the “should” of it is not the solution.

Questioning that won’t bring you any closer to the answer.

The problem is that you’re sharing it all from YOUR female perspective and not according to what attracts a male.

And trust EVERY GUY does the very same thing to you too. Except from their male perspectives as in the guy above.

For you to better understand ALL men – read the inner dialogue again and answer these questions to yourself:

What comes to your mind?

How are you relating to it?

What does it mean to you?

What do you think he is really saying?

NOW – erase it all from your brain!

You mustn’t confuse the important elements of this inner dialogue. You must NOT relate to them as facts and logic.

You must go beyond all the logic of it all and get the FEELINGS from which it is derived from and how they come to the surface and how it all relates to… building a connection that turns into a commitment.

Read it a third time imagine what he is FEELING and where they’re coming from and look beyond the words.

Because THAT is HOW you can and will connect with a man on an INTIMATE level.

No – it’s not easy so don’t get down on yourself if you’re not getting it right away. It’s normal for it to take a few tries.

This is how I see it from a male perspective related to as many feeling as I can get out:

He felt all this AND more:

A compulsion to stare. Like he couldn’t help himself.

He experienced “future” feelings as he thought about what it would be like to be with his attraction.

He felt angry, jealous, helpless, and even a little hopelessness.

He doubted himself. He felt unsure. He felt at some point that he was not good enough for her.

He felt imaginative as he tried to see her in his mind’s eyes being intimate with her which means he felt a sensation of intimacy too.

He then felt more unsure – confused and not confident in what to do about all these feelings.

He, at some point, decided to only let on that he was “cool”, relaxed, in control, and comfortable as he tried to erase the nervousness he was then feelings… anxious and nervous.

He then experienced fear and worried as he believed he could easily be misjudged and screw it up. He was concerned she would see him as something he “feels” he is not – just like every other guy.

He then felt angry at himself for believing he had demeaned her, likened her to as just another body, or felt like he was treating her like a trophy – a non-female but a prize.

He lost a small feeling of respect for himself at which point he decided to make up for it – he would become even more respectful to her. More mindful at what SHE wanted or would like.

This even happened when she was not around as noted when he began to feel guilty when talking to his friends; and the guilt tried to stop him from saying anything about her or agreeing to with what they were saying.

As the guilt progressed more bad thoughts crept in his head. Weird feelings. Feelings he thought he should not have which caused him later to be EXTRA nice to her and make a judgement to learn all he could about her.

While in that process he felt and became more curious. He started taking and making mental notes to give her what she please or what he believes would make her feel something back or at least not make him out again, to BE like every other guy.

He wanted to feel SPECIAL to her.

During this stage – as time went on – his confidence became FALSE or not real because he believed he was acting “better” than the other guys thus giving him a better chance of being with her.

While engaging her in this “new” manner a feeling of more comfort around her grew. He felt CLOSER to her. They shared private thoughts which in turn made him feel more CONNECTED to her.

Relating that to everything he was feeling – this connection was not in his mind – it was in his heart.

So be believed and FELT which is very important.

All these feelings he experienced and more:

Helpless, despair, hopeless, confused, angry, hurt, etc.. led him to start questioning anything and everything about what was happening to him which led him to an inevitable conclusion about this woman (mind you one he has not been intimate in any way with her).

He equated it all with an exclamation, in fact more of a declaration…

LOVE.

BE MY GIRLFRIEND.

A commitment BEFORE a relationship.

Wanting to make her happy.

Wanting to make sure she never cries by doing whatever he could to make it all good for her.

A belief backed by feelings she DESERVES it and only the BEST and he wanted to give it all to her.

He even went so far as comparing himself to not sleeping with other woman (claiming he’s not that type of guy) as proof he wouldn’t ever dream of cheating on her.

He was – for all intensive purpose…

Feeling in LOVE and COMMITTED and she did absolutely NOTHING to get him there.

In fact she did what you would expect would push him away but it didn’t because he was already there and once he’s there – going back is not an option for most men. They may act differently after but the feelings and the process they went through to get them there takes a very long time to unwind IF that even ever happens.

Men hold on to feelings for a very long time.

In that very long discussion about a guy’s emotional process he experiences – somewhere in the all that “junk” is a big secret to getting a man to fall in love with you or any woman who triggers the right stuff, at the right time, and most importantly – in the right way.

Somewhere you’ll also see his NEEDS. Not all of them but most of what a man NEEDS to be emotional charged and to fall in love.

The full explanation of his inner thoughts as they relate to his needs will be covered in the next post so be sure to open it up and give it a read.

I realize that I’ve left the door way open here.

You might feel a little confused.

You might also feel like it’s all a bit too much work.

HOW do you get a guy you actually DO want to cycle through all those emotions and feelings and then equate them to love and commitment and then have him relate or connect it to you?

I’ll admit THAT is the tougher part.

First you must be in touch with YOURSELF and your emotions, your feelings, your needs.

Then you must learn how to express them to him in a way which brings him closer, opens him up, and allows the process happen all by itself. Done right, under most typical situations – it will happen naturally.

A man left to his own thoughts and feelings WILL get there.

I understand you might want the answers right now or (yesterday already) then you have a few more options from the very same people who introduced me to this connection stuff.

I worked out the feelings part above – THEY can show you how to use it to connect with a man better than I can ( at the moment).

Have The Relationship You Want - Learn Why Men Fall Head Over Heels For Some Women And Not Others

Rori gives you step-by-step instructions into his heart by showing how to connect with him – there – and not through his mind, body, or soul.

She shows you how to do it in a way which allows you to open and express who you really are what you really want.

The link above will give you all the information you need. It you want some free advice from the creator you can sign up to Rori Raye’s Newsletter right here.

What you read above – yes all the way to the top is the fun part. Well I hope it was for you.

Here’s the boring stuff.

This is all from my own mind.

I’ve been doing this for years. Each and practically everyday I write, dig deep, and discover things about men and women.

I then compare my findings to those who have taught me along the way, what they produce and sell, and I make a decision.

If what I have to offer is an entirely new concept, I either throw in my book, give it away on my newsletter, and occasionally it disappears never to be heard from again.

As I went through this INNER thoughts of a guy something new came up which was quite exciting for me. A light bulb went off in my head so I dug deep and wrote it down.

It’s going to show up next.

However – connecting to a man’s heart is NOT my personal stuff. I did NOT come up with it and therefore – I decided to send you to those who did introduce it to me and already have it all prepared and ready to be used by you.

And yes – unless you ask or request a refund which you are entitled to for a limited time (see their policies for those details) – I do eventually earn a commission from the sale only.

Keep all that in mind as you process everything.

Hey I told you that was the boring part.

Okay...

Enough said today. You have a lot of stuff to process and work through. Don't be afraid to read it a few times. I'm not always great at getting my points across so it's probably not you.

I've written a second part to this post you'll be getting soon as I relate it all to what a guy NEEDS to feel IF you're to connect with him on an emotional level - make sure you open it up.

I'll see you there.

 

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This article was posted in How Men Feel Attraction & How it’s Created – Physically & Emotionally, Love – Real or Fake? Definitions & How To Know If He Loves You Or Not, Read His Mind – What Men Are Really Thinking & How To See His Thoughts

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