You know how and why a guy falls in love with you and so you act (or react) in a way which you believe makes it more likely to make it happen.
No one can blame or fault you for it.
Maybe a few men have fallen in love with you and you put it all together in your mind.
You acted or did certain things - he fell for you or chased you until you gave in - it only makes logical sense that the two are connected, right?
Whatever you did, it worked and so you went with it.
Except you keep running into the same problem.
THAT guy who is in love with you - you're not really into him that much. Maybe you gave in one or twice because you felt a little something for him and he sweet to you, kind, a little loving AND he courted you; he made you feel GOOD!
But the inevitable outcome was the same as it was before:
Sometime in the future - maybe after a few dates or even after an eight month long relationship, it all fell apart OR you realized he's just not the guy for you.
You feel like a hunk of junk breaking it off but however it happens - good, bad, or worse - it's over and you're left to start again. Really, who actually enjoys the break-up talk?
AND here comes a guy you feel INSTANTLY attracted to and your feelings skyrocket for him - so much it's almost unbearable at times.
Based on your past experiences and the men who loved you before, you think it's all good. You can just do what you did before and soon he'll be acting like the last guy or the one before him.
BUT it doesn't work.
This new one confuses you. He doesn't chase you. He's not acting like those "other" guys.
And it freaks you out - so much you start doing things you've never done before - things you've told your girlfriends not to do with a guy because you could see it happening - but in your mind it feels like you have no choice and you're in it so deep, you don't even realize you're going there.
You're now stuck going round and round in your head TRYING or forcing it to happen and while every endeavor seems like you're getting closer to him - in a flash he pulls away even further.
The harder you try to grasp him the further you push him away.
Rori Raye says one a big problem here is that you think you know what a man wants but it's actually those very same things that push a man away.
You believe you know what causes a man to fall in love but the often sad reality is, most of the time those beliefs or the things you try to pull a man closer or to make him fall in love with you - do the opposite and cause them to run away from you.
In her article: Three Ways You'll Push A Man Away - How To Inspire His Total Devotion she warns you about the wrong ways to connect with a man... if you have found yourself trying to connect with a man in any of these ways - then it's time you learn the awful truth - they don't work.
Here are those three big mistakes you're making while trying to connect with a man.
Or the three ways you should NEVER try to connect with a man IF you want something more with him.
(Sometimes based on the past guys who have fallen in love with you before.)
Connecting with his mind or logical side makes sense, men are logical, compartmentalized, lack emotions, or whatever and so going through his male brain naturally should work - but it doesn't because:
Impressing him, having a great conversation, him enjoying spending time with you, and while you're connecting with each other on a few things it's not enough to create chemistry or to get him to FEEL something more for you than he would a close friend.
So you can't go through his mind.
Maybe you'll get to him sexually. Men are definitely into sex. They're very visually orientated so going through his body will certainly in the very least get your "foot" in the door.
But all that gets you is a sex buddy. You quickly found out he isn't into sharing something real with you. He fights you or pulls away just when it seems like he's finally ready to become your boyfriend or to make a REAL commitment to you.
So... you can't go through his body.
(At least not fully. It's a small part but NEVER enough and doing so once again only will eventually make it all fall apart because you can't take it anymore or he grows tired of it OR he finds someone else to fulfill what he's really looking for from a woman.)
How about connecting with him in the spiritual sense. That HAS to work, right?
You find you share lots of the same beliefs and values, you worship the same things, you're creating a bond based on shared passions so you must be creating an emotional bond - you both believe in commitments, you're both looking for it - this MUST be the answer...
Nope - sorry - you're doing something great BUT you'll quickly see all you're really doing is creating a deep friendship with him that doesn't go anywhere further.
And the harder you try to turn that friendship into something more - the distance between you grows because he's just not feeling "that" way towards.
So you can't go down the spiritual road either.
Sure it's great to find those things in common - they're important to both of you BUT that's not where the REAL CONNECTION starts - friendships, however close they become rarely if ever turn into a long-lasting relationship built on LOVE.
You might be wondering - what's left?
HOW do you connect with a man when you're not supposed to go through his mind, body, or soul?
The only way is left is through his HEART.
Yes - I know - I hear you - HOW does that work?
Well the concept is simple by design:
First you must connect with YOUR heart - you must be in touch with your feelings.
No real men will ever feel safe to open up to you and express how he truly feels if you're not there.
The "secret" or "trick" to make that happen is learning exactly how to express your feelings in words and ways that brings him closer and connects with his heart.
There are unfortunately more ways to do that the wrong way than there are right ways making it so utterly confusing - it's not something I would try on your own without learning it first from Rori which is shown to you in her famous Ebook:
You'll find that in each article Rori has allowed me to post which are linked below, she will always put YOU and your feelings first. She will also help you discover them and dig in deep so you can fully experience them which in turn makes it easier for you to express to any guy.
Again - I can not emphasize this enough: You must not try to express your feelings to a guy and connect to his heart in this way unless you know exactly how it's done because it must be done in a way which brings him closer.
BUT you can learn all of that and so much more because it's all in her Ebook:
If you're not ready yet to learn how to do it all - maybe you're not sure if it's something you need or want - maybe you want a better idea of what the techniques and skills you'll be using will involve - which is totally understandable...
I have two very good answers for you:
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