Have you ever noticed that some women - just have it? When it comes to guys it's like they don't even try that hard but something about her makes them want to be with her, talk to her, get to know her better, and they very quickly become one of her many "admirers".
You're about to learn what makes men fall for her so easily. You won't be getting ALL my secrets but you'll certainly find out what separates them from other ladies, why, and how they do it either naturally or through a defined purpose.
I'll begin by getting this out of the way...
Physical attractiveness is already a well-known way to draw men in. It's however NOT a guarantee of a relationship with the one of your choice. You can not expect to attract a man physically and have it go somewhere you want which is actually a good thing because...
You do NOT have to be the model type with a perfect body to have many men admirers.
It CAN help bring them to you but it does not determine the type or qualities of the man. Your looks will only get you so far.
Sex appeal however IS important because in most relationships SEX is an important. It's a way of sharing intimacy, enjoying a physical bond, and opening up to each other in ways that go beyond family and friends.
Sex appeal is about how you walk, how you hold yourself, how you flirt, and just like it says - how you appeal to a man's sexual desires but it goes a little deeper and I believe if you follow along in the next section - you'll be well on your way to becoming a sexy woman - regardless of your attractiveness but certainly related to your appearance.
Aside from your walk, your appearance (not looks), how much you flirt, there are many ways to become sexually appealing to men - especially in a way which makes them want to do more than just sleep with you.
This is HOW it's done:
Notice how some women "pretend" to like or actually are interested in every guy they meet.
If you're in the habit of making guys work way too hard for your attention - or if you act as if you don't even like them - your admirers will be far and few in between.
Sure - men like a challenge - they do need to be encouraged to be pursue you - but this is not the best way to get that part done.
When you meet a guy - quickly find something you DO like about them and go from there. Admit that most people are not bad - everybody does something good, everybody has a few great qualities - find out what they are quickly and use it.
Use it to...
Connect with men on a very personal level.
This part makes it VERY easy for guys to fall for you.
Become a great reader of what a guy is looking for and play into each one so a guy feels special in a different but good way.
Ask lots of personal questions about him - show a deeper interest in his life, his passions, his goals, what he wants out of life, but please do so in fun flirty kind of way.
Don't just talk about yourself even if he's asking it. Think and say,
"What about YOU?"
I know - again it sounds like I'm asking you to not challenge a guy and it's true - for a man to fully appreciate a woman and value her - he WANTS to work for her - he's not looking for an easy lay to settle down with - he doesn't want an EASY woman...
BUT there are many ways to challenge a guy and the one area you do NOT want to have it happen is covered above:
Men fall easily for woman who make it EASY for him to talk to her and get along with AND who show INTEREST in him. (Hopefully the genuine sort.)
Make the men you interact with FEEL like you GET them - that you UNDERSTAND them.
Once you show some interest - once you find something (anything) you like about a guy - once you begin to connect with him on a personal level...
Start ACTING like you (unlike the women in his past or present) GET him - that you UNDERSTAND him - in a very unique way that those other women always seem to miss about him.
Nothing can attract a man easier than by making him feel respected by and making him feel special.
If "respect" wasn't such a big deal to men - this "What Men Secretly Want - The Respect Principle Video Link" would not have been sold to so many women who used it on men and got results.
How you're in tune with his uniqueness - how you believe he's not just some stereotypical guy - and when you don't understand something about him or the why - you ASK him to help you see what he sees so you can both connect with each other on a deeper more binding level.
Keep in mind most men don't get women - they're what I call type two guys - and they know this fact about themselves. I reveal something very important as it relates to what you're reading today on how to make it all happen (guys falling for you) by assuring this one thing happens inside their heart.
If you want that secret - sign in and go to page 29 where it's revealed in "Understanding Men Made Simple". Once you know you'll know exactly how to make ANY man feel like you understand him.
Do NOT act "hard to get" --- BE HARD TO GET as it relates to HIM going to the next step with you.
Now that you've given a little...
You're actually showing interest and liking something about the guy...
You're connecting with him a personal level that goes beyond surface talk and mundane boring subjects a guy doesn't like to talk about anyways... (with a woman)...
You're showing him you think he's special and unique - you get him - you understand him - you're not just treating him like a "standard" template of a guy... things always lead to, "What about YOU?"...
Avoid all the acting - avoid all the game playing - don't follow the rules - make your own set of rules...
And just BE hard to get and you will challenge him the right amount and in the right way that goes beyond just another sexual conquest.
I know, you're asking HOW is that done?
Well that answer I've found can be a little complicated and you'll hear lots of great advice on it too which do work as in:
- Looking after yourself.
- Having yourself to rely on.
- Living your life or "getting" a life outside of men.
- Acting like you don't need him but you want him.
- Don’t let him have “ALL” of you.
- Inspiring him to action.
- Pulling back when needed.
- Letting him do his thing.
- Unpredictability as in being playful, and creating intrigue.
- Having an attitude that rejects certain behaviors.
- NOT Betting your love life on his potential.
- Create the right amount of space.
- Letting him chase you the right way.
Those were ALL borrowed from some great articles which you'll find the authors and links below on the credit section. I could've included more but I didn't because...
Do you want the simplest and easiest way to CHALLENGE a man forever and always?
Doing this will assure everything covered in this post today works as planned for you...
Learn to LOVE YOURSELF unconditionally!
I'm totally serious because when you do that and CAN find a way to maintain this love of yourself:
- You will NEVER accept anything less from someone else.
- You will INSPIRE a love of a man towards you.
- You will only accept or fall for men who will feel the same love you feel for yourself.
- You will won't treat yourself in any way undeserving - making it difficult for others to do the same to you.
Since I'm not a complete expert in this field the quote below sums it up in a much better way:
"Loving yourself means you don’t hide who you really are. You share your feelings – even the messy ones – and own up the truth of your life and your mistakes.
You don’t need to prove anything to anyone, because you know the only opinion that matters about your self-worth is your own.
You don’t accept bad treatment, or social pressure, or feel compelled to do things you don’t want to do just because you are “supposed to.”
You can fully accept and enjoy being loved by someone else. You aren’t doubtful of their feelings. You never worry if their love will end, or if you aren’t good enough, or unworthy.
You aren’t afraid of getting hurt. You don’t push love away, or run away, or subconsciously create reasons why your relationship will let you down."
When you can do that TRUST you will challenge ANY great man you meet - no games or tricks needed.
Time for the quick wrap up...
Having lots of men admirers and getting men to fall for you easily is NOT about your physical attractiveness and using that alone is no guarantee you will attract a relationship or a life-long partner.
Sure having sex appeal certainly helps and that can be done through your appearance (not your attractiveness), how you move, and how you flirt with guys. Sex IS part of the puzzle but being sexy to guys is NEVER just about how attractive you are and if you look closely - you'll find lots of non-model type women that HAVE IT and use it to their advantage in creating options for themselves.
To increase your options AND your sex appeal do these things with the men you meet:
Become (hopefully) genuinely interested in him. You can fake it if you want but it's best just to find something you like about him and go with that for now.
Connect with him on a very personal level. Learn how to read men and what they're looking for in a woman.
Don't just talk about yourself or even expect him to ask about you - make sure you always finish or start with, "What about YOU?"
Men fall easily for woman who make it EASY for him to talk to her and get along with AND who show INTEREST in him.
Let him see and believe that you GET him and UNDERSTAND him. Treat him like he's a unique guy and that's he different than all the rest - most men are - you just have to look for it and you'll see it. (Especially if you follow the last few because it becomes much easier.
Do NOT treat him like a "standard" man and he will treat YOU like you're better than all the rest - he WILL reciprocate the same towards you.
Once again - remember MOST of the time you'll be interacting with type two guys so learn my clever technique on page 29 in my book you can have free just by signing up below.
All that above will still assure you're a challenge and will inspire him to act IF you work on the last one the best you can:
Learn to Love Yourself Unconditionally.
I've seen lots of women fake everything that was covered - except the last one - loving yourself AND it worked for them. Most men don't even care that she's fawning her interest because at least she's trying and she's not trying to use her body to get him.
BUT you don't have to fake it.
You can make this a wonderful part of yourself. It's simply a wonderful way to connect with men on a level which is unique, different, inviting, inspiring, and when you put it all together...
Makes you a VERY SEXY woman and WILL get you lots of male admirers and more.
Articles from above. Names link to the writer only.
- How To Be The Girl That Guys Want To Date - Written by Mirabelle Summers from Get A Great Guy Guide.
- 4 Traits Women Have That Men Routinely Fall In Love With - By Slade Shaw from Why Men Pull Away.
- 10 Tips On How To Make A Man Fall Madly In Love & Desire You More - Slade Shaw.
- Are You Stopping Him From Falling For You? Let Him Chase You! - Written by Rori Rare and author of Have The Relationship You Want.
- What Men Secretly Want - The Respect Principle Video Link - Information video with words from James Bauer.
- From Hearts In Harmony - Learning To Love Yourself - Information on product produced by Katie and Guy Hendricks Ph.D.
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