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What Type Of Guy Hates Being Ignored and Why?

Man Blank Stare Hate Being Ignored

I'm going to start with this some words about men I normally don't like to say: ONLY insecure - approval seeking guys - who feel forgotten or succumb to believe they're helpless to change their stay or status in life absolutely HATE being ignored.

You'll find the entire list of character traits listed below on the types of men who doesn't respond well to being ignored.

The rest will either see it for what it is: a passive aggressive game to illicit a certain response OR they won't even know they're being ignored or care negating the game entirely.

So why do THOSE  other guys hate being ignored?

A lack of attention when they desperately need it. Give them a little and take it away and you can literally watch them squirm as they plan their next move to stop it.

Insecurity - no one likes to feel insecure and tell if I'm wrong, but feeling jealous is not the most fun feeling in the world. Show another guy more attention and start ignoring the first guy and you'll quickly see his anger grow.  He'll desperately try to hold it back but eventually it will send him over the top and he'll do some crazy stuff to assure he's HEARD once and for all.

Immaturity - Most mature stable adult men can handle being ignored and will often not let it affect them too much. They respond one way or another to it but rarely is it with anger or desperation.

The more mature man deals with being ignored and can see it quite differently. He may simply see it as you wanting space or just living your life independently. You not paying attention to him is rarely taken personal at all.

The immature guy - even one who appears mature might be sent over the edge when a woman he loves, is into, or anyone begins to ignore him IF he has hidden issues with not being seen or heard or paid attention to at a time he needs it the most.

The truly immature guy is triggered to ACT OUT when he's being ignored because he's, well immature and hasn't learned how to deal with his emotions in a more adult manner.

An overly self-conscious man will also not handle being ignored in a positive way but his reaction can be much different - You see, for him everything is taken personal as if it pertains to him. When something happens, lots of things beyond being ignored, he believes HE is the cause.

The too self-conscious man tends to think a little too much and connects things in his brain which (most of the time) should NOT be connected AND he typically finds fault within himself as to why it happened.

Take this situation for example: You're seeing a self-conscious man and you said you were going to text him at a certain time but you got busy, the time passed by, and you missed the sending the message.

In HIS world he will first dismiss it but then as time goes by he begins to overthink and over-analyze the situation. He starts to wonder. Did he do something wrong? Was it something he said? Do you still like him? Worse yet, if he's also a little immature and insecure he can find himself thinking there MUST be another man - that's WHY you didn't text him.

Depending on the rest of his traits he'll either act out on it through jealousy,  anger or both OR withdraw and become overly quiet when you get back to him. You could even truthfully explain why you didn't contact him but deep in his mind - the connection is already there and he's less likely to be it to be true.

His silence will get worse as he continues to internalize the events that took place until it ALL comes out either in a very strange way or further withdrawing in a highly passive aggressive nature.

I understand this can be a very confusing often complex problem so I'll break down the traits of a guy who DOES hate being ignored:

  • Insecure.
  • Little belief in himself.
  • Low self-esteem.
  • Overly self-conscious.
  • Over thinker.
  • Analyzes things too much.
  • Connects external events that may or may not be connected to him personally.
  • Attention seeker.
  • Passive aggressive by nature.
  • Takes things or life and what happens to him way too personal.
  • The jealous type.
  • Immature or hasn't fully grasped how to handle his stronger emotions.
  • Feels somewhat helpless to make positive changes in his life.
  • Unsure or convinced on how someone feels about him.
  • Feels like he has little or no control over his life.

I'm sure there's more but that's enough for now.

You can now clearly see there's a distinct pattern of a guy who will absolutely HATE being ignored.

You can also see how in the so-called games of "dating" and "relationships" the IGNORE card is often used because it can illicit a response that PROVES something very important to a man or woman.

It's typically used as a means to measure a man's interest of feelings towards a woman.

In other words - ignore a man and if he acts out or even withdraws further it could mean he cares because as stated in another post... Ignoring someone who couldn't care less does NOTHING. (Here's the link to it when you want to read it: Will It Drive Him Crazy If You Ignore Him? The Problem of Ignoring Men.)

Making this GAME an often used one for quick results.

It's also (although terrible) way of determining a man's character IF and when it's done purposely or not.

In an ideal world you should NEVER have to resort to ignoring a man just to determine a man's character but it does happen and will continue to happen despite it being a game.

Normally it's accidental. One does not INTEND to ignore someone else. Circumstance and situation often plays the major role here.

My obvious advisement is against all game playing even if it's effective because they often lead to something far worse.

There are much more beneficial and ATTRACTIVE ways to determine a man's character quickly.

You should not NEVER have  to ignore a guy and a guy should not have to ignore you purposely to get a reaction, see if interest is there or not, or figure out someone's character with this test.

Here's the biggest reason why:

What if you DO ignore a guy who is far from what is listed above ONLY to find out he's a mature and secure man who isn't reacting in a way which either determines like, interest, or love OR shows any sign that he even noticed?

You will - without a doubt - push him away and he will NEVER come back.

Mature men HATE game playing of any sort just as much as you do and once found out... it's GAME OVER.

While I'm (very slowly because I have too many projects on my agenda now) working on releasing a short book to determine a man's interest or his intentions with you - you might want some quick answers to STOP you from using the IGNORE game to figure a guy out...

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PLUS you'll be able to tell rather quickly if he's playing or ignoring you because of some tricks he hiding up his sleeve.

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  • suzy

    hey peter
    plz help me wid dis.
    There was a guy who was hitting on me,but i ignored him and his stares….after 2 months i decided meeting him and he started clarifying himself that he was just joking with me….why would he change like this?was it because i ignored his interest?
    And now whenever we talk….he clears himself everytime, he thinks that i think he is a bad person.Why does he assume that i feel he is a bad guy?or is it because we know each other now so he is keeping his self respect?
    Plz help urgently….eagerly waiting for ur response

  • Peter White

    Hey Suzy,

    It sounds like he felt guilty for hitting on you and played it off as a joke because you called him out on it.

    When you were ignoring him and he was trying to get your attention in sort of a childish way, well when he finally got it ( the attention ) you suddenly became real and not just another face to stare or gawk at.

    This realness probably caused the guilty feeling to emerge PLUS at this point, he’s thinking he has a chance and now he’s trying NOT to ruin it with you.

    This would cause him to “clear himself” or tell you what a “bad person” he is… Hoping you’ll see past his “immature” attempt to gain your attention.

    Guys do this stuff all the time when they are not sure how to approach a woman or get her attention. This is shown by his actions from first – not approaching you properly probably because of a lack of confidence with you or women – and then secondly, downplaying his attitude or confidence in himself.

    I would expect more of this unless he gets it all in check AND I would expect when things get a little more complicated between you and him, or the next step comes up, or another guy enters, he will continue to prove to you what a bad guy he thinks he is…

    Just something to be warned about.

    Hope that helps you out Suzy and all the best to you and your “bad guy”. 🙂

    Pete

  • suzy

    thanks 🙂
    and what if a guy acts hot and sometimes cold towards a girl?example sometimes he looks at her face to face and sometimes he doesnt even look at her..
    Does it mean he may have felt bad abt somethng?or is he not intersted?

    • Peter White

      Oh Suzy, you’re such a woman… 🙂

      Sometimes guys are cold and sometimes they’re hot. Sometimes they take a shower just after they wake up… sometimes they don’t.

      My point is that all this trying to read his signals as it pertains to you will only confuse you more.

      The best way to handle it is to first and foremost enjoy the present or hot interactions the best you can by staying in that moment.

      We have a rule we give to guys who constantly find themselves trying to read her signals too… they want to know, “Does it mean she likes me?”

      We tell them this highly profound statement:

      “I’m going to give you a stupid-proof formula for knowing whether or not a woman is interested in you.

      Here it is:

      You engage her.

      She engages you back.

      Yes, that’s it. Please stop the applause long enough that I can finish. You can clap later.”

      http://www.dialteg.com/experts/david-deangelo/how-tell-she-interested-signals/

      I believe the same rules apply to women – except believe it or not – with us guys – we’re really just not that complicated. 🙂

      Pete

  • suzy

    i’d like to ask one more thing,
    if he liked me would he mention something abt his future wife?
    Like here is an example:
    he drinks alcohol and i tell him to leave it so he is like i will leave after i marry.
    It looks like he is showing me in every way that he isnt interested.please explain

    • Peter White

      No Suzy – That just means he’s using alcohol to numb himself because without a wife – or girlfriend – or partner – he’s not as happy as he thinks he might be, with one.

      Lots of people use alcohol or drugs to avoid or numb their reality.

  • suzy

    i didn’t understand this,
    u said”just something to be warned about”in the first questions…..plz explain

    • Peter White

      I wrote, “I would expect more of this unless he gets it all in check AND I would expect when things get a little more complicated between you and him, or the next step comes up, or another guy enters, he will continue to prove to you what a bad guy he thinks he is… Just something to be warned about.”

      I am warning you about his propensity for jealousy and his need to prove to you what a bad guy he thinks he is… by acting badly because it may be his only means of communication right now, that’s all.

  • grace

    hi
    there was a guy i knew on fb, he was from another country…. we used to just chat on fb.i liked him and told him tht i liked him but he didnt feel that way for me.I felt bad when i came to know that he didnt like me back.i told him to unfriend me as i cud not do tht because i liked him alot.we argued over the unfriending thing and neither did i unfriend him nor did he.he was telling me that i should do it if i wanted to.
    I wanted to know why didnt he do it?we argued, he got angry, but didnt unfriend me.
    Is it because he doesnt mind having people he doesnt talk to in his list..or?
    Will be Grateful for ur response 🙂

    • Peter White

      Honestly Grace – he’s likes the Ego trip. Some guys keep around girls that like or love them just to make themselves feel better or in the worse case scenario – use you to make other women jealous.

      Without knowing him I can’t say that’s for sure but that is my gut response to your problem.

      Hope that helps you out and please un-friend him – it’s probably the best thing to do,

      Pete

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