His Silence Is Driving You Crazy…So Why Would A Guy Ignore You?

Man Alone Quite Silent Ignoring You

Don't you hate it when the passive aggressive man gets under your skin?

How about when you really do like him but for some reason his silence drives you crazy?

It could be the one thing you don't like about him.

Whether his mysterious silence tugs on your natural curiosity or pisses you off because it all seems so pointless, you can not help to wonder...

WHY! Why would a guy ignore you?

We all can agree male - female interaction is almost always often situation based.

Meaning, when your husband is ignoring you or withdrawing, that is very different than some (now) not-so-friendly guy at work who one day just stops talking to you.

Both are as equally different than your new boyfriend going silent at certain times and other times talking your ear off.

How about when you're out trying your best to meet a single guy but the ones you really want don't even notice you.

Almost like they are "ignoring" you too.

Of course let's not forget about the guy who's into you one minute then ignores you completely to flirt with your friends or when he's with his buddies it's like you DON'T EVEN EXIST!

It's clear a man's silence (whatever his reasons are)  can leave you confused, sometimes hurt, and when he's ignoring you even a little pissed off so let's dig a little deeper into why it happens.

Men don't go silent unless there's a real reason to do so.

However with that said - as it's covered in my book, the reasons were created long ago which are covered in the "silence is safety" section:

You can read all about it and pick it up right here:

Why Men Go Silent, Ignore You, Refuse or Won’t Share Their Feelings

But... and this is a big but - you should know now (because I'm telling you)  some men go silent or only appear to ignore you because they literally have nothing to say AND they're actually quite comfortable in the silence.

Here's the first reason and it's first because this silence - ignoring problem is more prominent when you're in a relationship with a guy:

He might ignore you because he knows it pisses you off.

This is otherwise known as passive aggressive behavior and it usually happens when there's a major breakdown of communication in the relationship.

He could feel misunderstood, unheard, ineffective, and he doesn't know how to bring his feelings out in the open to you OR he's been made to feel like you won't listen anyways.

Yes - it's a childish thing to do, but age doesn't always guarantee mature actions especially when someone feels helpless to make a change in their life.

If this is the situation you find yourself in, read through some of these articles so you can stop this type of (lack of action) from ruining your relationship even further:

Katie and Gay Hendricks – Relationship & Communication Experts

And definitely read through my personal advice section on communication which is right here: How You Can Communicate To Others More Effectively.

Some guys just get bad advice and use it on you.

They believe you rope a woman in, ignore her, and she'll want you more. So in this case it means he likes you but really doesn't understand how things are "supposed" to work with women.

Keeping in mind that tactic actually does work for lots of men - at least in getting your attention or curiosity. So to some guys if it's worked before, they'll continue the same tactics on every woman until they find one it works on.

"They act aloof and disinterested around a woman they like – when in FACT, they’re just intimidated by her beauty, charm, or intelligence."

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Here's a reason NO woman ever wants to hear but it must be said:

He's not interested in you at all.

He believes the best way to make you go away is to ignore you. He doesn't want to hurt your feelings and/or he's not at all good with confrontation. (Probably both.)

This usually happens when a woman gets too aggressive, needy, or pushes a guy into a corner. He wants you to go away but doesn't have the know-how, balls, confidence, and sometimes tact to tell you.

He'll be pleasant and nice but you'll find he'll ignore you every chance he gets. To him it's just easier that way.

Another very valid reason you could be ignored...

Because he's not very good with women.

I know - not good with women???!! I dare say it but It's absolutely true and unfortunately it's very common among men.

Some say the percentage of men who are not good with women runs about 90 to 95%. That's a pretty high number making the next part something all too likely to happen to you.

You see "this" guy gets nervous around you. He's very shy and perhaps even borderline introverted. He could be so insecure just the thought of talking to you causes a severe case of lock-jaw.

He might even fear that if he opens his mouth he could literally scare you away. His silence has little to do with you and originates from the fact he's shy and doesn't believe he knows how to talk to a woman he likes - therefore being silent just kind of happens.

At Why Do Guys and my simple approach to men, I break down men into two types so if you want to learn about this type go here:

Type 2: The guys who DON'T get you.

Next up...

Your friend, boyfriend, or some guy you're dating always seems to ignore you ONLY when he's with other people.

Guys Hanging Out Being Silent You

They could be his family and he's worried you won't approve of them and in some rare cases he's worried that they won't approve of you.

They could be his friends and he hates acting like a boyfriend in front of them because it makes him feel less manly.

I call him Mister DPD - or Mister Dual Personality Dude.

He's the guy who only ignores you when you're with other people and although it's not the worst thing in the world - it does suck when it's happening to you, but the reasons are not always severe and can be overcome with a little effective communication and a whole lot of patience IF you really like the guy.

However... be warned, men who fall under the DPD category tend to be that way in many other areas so keep your eyes out for him.

Try to understand that sometimes he means the best and it's not a big deal but other times, as in acting different around his friends, or treating your differently when he's with other people is typically a bad sign. Consider your relationship with the second guy very carefully.

This problem in isolation is not always that bad especially if you know it's happening BUT if he's ignoring you in situations like this and doesn't fulfill what listed below - then I'd say the ignoring problem is more to do with him just stringing you along or keeping you on the hook until someone he feels is better comes along:

Here's the list:

Okay, onto the next reason you might be ignored... this next one has another acronym: NDD. he also falls under the "not good with women" category.

He's too much of a nice guy and becomes easily embarrassed. He refuses to chase, hit on, or flirt with a woman.

I call him "Mister NDD or  - Nice and Differently Disabled. That was me so I know  way too much about him.

This guy is all too aware of what is happening between men and women. He sees other guys constantly hitting on you and flirting with you. He assumes those guys are only out to get in your pants and some of they actually are (as I'm sure you already knew that.) ... BUT he doesn't know that you know.

The last thing Mister NDD wants is for you to see him as one of those guys. He wants you to see him as being different. He wants you to see him as liking you for you and not just another dude trying to get in your pants.

This is his weird little way of showing you he actually LIKES YOU.

Yes, I know, by ignoring you? How? What? Why?

While those (other) guys are all up in your butt trying and trying, he's dreaming of being with you and doesn't have a clue on how to make it happen.

You will notice that he only talks to you when no one else is around. He waits for you to be alone. He plans his days or times around making sure he gets your full attention. He will also leave quickly if someone else comes around.

Sound familiar now? Hope so because believe it or not, especially among a younger school or college crowd or a guy from work, he's very common.

There are Mister NDD's everywhere if you know where to look and now that you know the signs to look for.

He doesn't enjoy talking to you.

Friendly or not. He doesn't want to lead you on.  He's ignoring you because he's just doesn't enjoy talking to you and doesn't want you to get the wrong idea.

Sure - he may be a little arrogant or full of himself but if you're here asking this question and your situation is about a guy who tends to ignore you a lot - then there's a good chance you're attracted to him and he is not feeling it for you.

Next strange but very probable reason...

He's just living his life - you're NOT being ignored.

Sometimes your paths will cross. Sometimes they won't.

Unless you really catch his eye or you're a blast to be around he won't make of an effort to spark up a conversation.

Of course this does not include waitresses, cashiers, or any friendly public "service" worker who do their job quite well. If you're ignored in that situation then it's probably because he's "out of it" totally, engrossed in a conversation with someone else, or you're unfortunately doing a terrible job and he's too nice to say anything about. But I'm positive you're not here for that reason.

You have to understand men who are or who appear to be naturally successful attracting women usually don't make women a priority.

It may appear you're being ignored when in reality you're over-thinking the situation.

I see it happen to lots of guys and with women it's no different. They somehow believe she(he) is doing something, anything, pondering or even fantasizing about him or her because they either caught each other's eyes or talked once.

Never assume he is doing something to you and you'll increase your chance at meeting some incredible guys.

In conclusion...

This area of silence and being ignored is very large - which is why I've been able to write so much about it which you should definitely check out over here:

Man Sitting Silent

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