Some say men are simple. How we're EASY to figure out. How we're only interested in two things - how a woman looks and having sex with her.
However if that was the case you could easily approach any man with a simplistic attitude, give him exactly what you "know" he wants, and you'll never have to worry about what he's thinking.
And you'll never have to worry about interpreting his words.
But let's face it.
You have a hard time "reading" a man's signals. You have a hard time understanding what he means.
Especially when he says he likes you but doesn't do anything about it, OR when he says he loves you but won't get into a relationship, OR when he finishes it off with "But..." and in the middle there's that pesky missing "in" around the word love.
So what about love??!!!
When you mention love or if he brings it up it must feel like he's trying to throw you off the trail on purpose making his whole goal is to keep you guessing.
Almost as if his only predictable response is to confuse you - just enough - to piss you off!!!
I'm going to give you something today very special.
A little insight into the male mind I want you to never forget because it's going to change how you interpret his words.
No more guessing.
No more games.
You'll find be able to look at your man (or your future boyfriend or husband) and know exactly what he means as it relates to this whole "love-like" dilemma and what he really means.
AND then I'll give you another opportunity to really dig into the male mind... for free - so keep your eyes out for it please.
Let's cover the basics. I'm assuming you have some sort of relationship with him whether it's casually dating or you're both committed.
- "I like you." - I'm not sure if you like me and I want to know.
- "I love you." - I care about you.
- "I'm IN love with you." - I may want a relationship.
- "I love you but I'm NOT in love with you ." - I care about you but I'm not interested in a relationship with you.
- "I love you. I'm just not in love with you but I want to stay friends." - I don't think you're relationship material but I would love to have sex with you. And I do care about you.
Let's get a little deeper because I feel to understand men better, you're definitely going to need to know a little more.
Men will often use the word like when they're unsure if YOU like them back.
They also have been known to use it when they're not feeling a deep attraction. They're unsure either of the direction they want to go, or they're just not ready to commit.
"I really do like you." - Means I'm not sure if I'm ready or I'm not sure because I want to leave my dating options open.
Men use the word love very, very sparingly so do NOT take it lightly.
In fact I would be more concerned if you meet any man who overuses this word. You see men assume when they say it to a woman he's dating she'll misinterpret it for him asking for a "commitment."
- "I do love you..." - This is what a man says when he would not wish anything bad on you. It could only be a friendly gesture or general concern over your well-being.
- "I'm in love with you... but..." - This is what a man say's to avoid a difficult moment. Most men are not taught how to step through a relationship. They "wing it." They try to "save their face" if they're rejected. They're the typical type two guys.
If you're with a guy and he said or loves you OR is acting like it but won't say it and you're frustrated because you want the truth - then I suggest you take this quick self quiz:
Men take the word love very seriously. We use it sparingly. We use it as if just uttering the words will definitely have a huge impact on the woman we're saying it too.
This is where I believe you'll notice a huge communication break down between men and women.
Men have a terrible habit of assuming every woman who admits she has feelings for him can be quite hurt easily.
He may choose NOT to mention love to spare her feelings... just in case things don't work out or he's not ready to date you exclusively.
Women DO NOT appear take the word love so seriously for themselves at least. They use it more often and some even use it flagrantly with little regard to its impact.
At least that's what guys think so it's important to know how guys interpret women too.
This lack of communication between men and women is where problems arise from on this whole “love-like” thing.
As far as this whole love and like thing when it comes to guys...
Guys use the word LOVE sparingly for lots of reasons but one of the biggest is because they're worried on how YOU will interpret it.
They believe you'll assume it means an automatic relationship.
They also assume when you say it, you're now waiting for him to commit to you AND that you're expecting him to say it back - which if the guy isn't feeling it, makes him feel very uncomfortable and will push him away.
Which leads to his "what ifs" also stopping lots of guys from saying it.
Just like you, they're actually scared of saying it because WHAT IF you don't say it back... can I say "awkward".
Since this isn't an article of why guys are scared of telling a woman early on how much they love her I'll skip it for now.
Let's stick to the topic.
Like and love to a guy are very different and I think you already knew that... however... in a very strange twist of fate they are not linked together.
A guy can love a woman and not even like her. Sure it's a "bratty little sister" thing but he can easily feel it with a woman he's sexually attracted towards also.
A guy can like a woman and not ever love her. Maybe he just likes the sex, maybe he isn't entirely sure if he's ready for anything more.
When a guy feels both then you have something special so I'd make sure you don't let him go all too easily because...
And this is a big secret too any women don't know about men... this is the absolute truth ... something you'll never want to forget...
Yes, it's true.
Men DO fall in love with a woman faster, harder, and easier... than a woman falls in love with a man.
For some, it only takes a few interactions before they're feeling it for you. Doesn't mean they will honestly admit it to you or to themselves... but it happens.
Thought I'd leave you with that little nugget on guys. Hope it doesn't confuse you too much.
My very smart buddy Carlos, who knows a tremendous amount of dirty details about men and what they really mean has a program called Passion Phrases <-- That's my affiliated link to his opening video.
He's set up a free page where you can watch AND read the first chapter, email is required and it's really cool because you're going to learn:
3 Relationship Myths About Men you NEED to know:
- A Man Needs The “RIGHT” Woman.
- A Man Needs To be “Ready” To Commit.
- If He’s in Love With Me He’s COMMITTED To Me.
All three myths are explained it detail in both the pdf report and the video.
You also get the real truth on some classic or typical man-phrases and what they really mean:
- “We should hang out soon.”
- "I'll call you..."
- "I need some space.
- "I'm confused."
- “Sorry, I didn’t see this until now…”
- “I can’t do this anymore…”
- “Let’s talk about this later.”
- “I don’t want my relationship on Facebook.”
- "I Need Time To Think…”
- “I’m Not Looking For Anything Serious Right Now…”
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In a very short conclusion...
Men can be confusing at times when you're just trying to figure out what he means by the words that come out of his mouth.
Like and love are some of the more difficult terms to interpret based on many factors which certainly includes the way in which men and women communicate differently and the way in which they're said based on their own interpretation of themselves and women.
LIKE is generally used (by type two guys) as a means to get a response from you, they're not convinced or capable of reading women all too well and are waiting for the same response.
LIKE is also used (by both types one and two) to clearly indicate where they are in the dating or relationship phase... meaning, "I'm into you just not that much...." either just yet or ever so things can go both ways.
LOVE however (unless overused or said too early which is a warning sign) is reserved for very specific cases:
"I love you." does not always means "I'm IN love with you." although you will find it may come down to how a guy speaks but don't worry about that for now.
Men take the word LOVE very seriously which is good and bad - meaning sometimes it can the spell out the end of the dating process, or the beginning of something more.