I think it's possible so when you reach the end of this post, you'll know how to increase your energy of attraction too, just by doing what more of what you love and desire the most.
The great part of these four simple things is that alike people are naturally attracted to each other, therefore you'll become more open to attracting a great guy.
Our passions and desires often get pushed aside way too much. I suppose it's understandable since they usually rank low on the list we give our survival guide.
Our basic needs get first choice of our precious time for obvious reasons.
But guess what, we're not inanimate objects.
We're living human beings, and without our passions and desires how enjoyable could life possibly be.
So why do so many of us disregard our real passions as being unimportant to our survival?
Based on my own experiences they often involve a fear of failure, a lowered self-esteem, not feeling like it's deserved, and ridicule from our peers and family.
Here's a quick definition of what we need to survive: Something we can not live effectively without it.
Now, imagine being passionless. I'm not saying we do not have time for them, we are simply not born with it.
Could you survive with the mind you have without passion? Wouldn't you always feel unhappy? Wouldn't it feel as if something was missing from your life?
Now imagine yourself with no desires at all.
You want nothing because nothing makes you feel good. Nothing makes you feel better than you did.
Wouldn't you always feel numb, unresponsive to what the world has to offer? A feeling well beyond apathy.
If you desire something it's most likely because it makes you feel good when you get it.
Without these two very important mix of emotions, we can not survive effectively.
I use the word "effectively" because our tasks would still get done, somewhat, we'd live out some kind of existence, but our affect on the world would be minimal... at best.
We'd be more closer to automatons than humans.
In other words, an automaton generally only affects minimally because of its limited abilities to inspire and motivate.
Our passions inspire us.
Our desires motivate us.
And without inspiration and motivation where would love be?
What would we absolutely love doing?
And yes, WHO would we absolutely love doing?
My passions are important to me. They always have been.
When I was growing up lots of people would say how creative I was and how vast my imagination was, but I didn't, and still don't necessarily agree with them because I simply just found myself always following my passions and making them an integral piece of my survival.
However, my larger desires took a back seat because of the excuses I listed above which were often fear, feeling undeserved, and even public ridicule.
Now obviously when taken the extreme your desires can drastically affect your health. I'm not advocating giving up your health for your passion.
I'm merely asking you to put it as equally important with a healthy balance, and you will affect the people in your life more deeply and positively too.
Which just happens to be something truly attractive people do which goes beyond physical appearances.
They attract others and affect their emotions in a positive way.
Remember above, we desire something because it makes us feel better... one reason we desire to be with attractive people is because they make us feel better being with them.
As for the questions I brought up in the beginning...
What do you LOVE to do?
I will write mine for you in no particular order: Dance. Cook. Play musical instruments. Write. Talk to random people. Workout. Golf.
What are your passions and desires?
Again, here are some of mine: Living. Being happy. Sharing with others. Meeting new people. Being free to travel.
Consider my list and what can me made from it.
The passion I feel towards living inspires me to talk to random people. My desire to share with others motivates me to write.
How do we use this wonderful information to increase how attractive we are?
How do we follow our hearts and desires to increase the attraction others will feel towards us?
#1. Find something you have avoided doing because you feared failing at it, and go do it.
Start off small and simple.
This will make you more attractive because:
The more fears you have the more timid you'll act but each time you overcome a small fear, you gain more natural self-confidence.
Your body language responds by being more free.
You become more approachable.
You can approach more strangers.
Fears will limit how your body acts during stressful times and eliminating many of them keeps you lose, at ease, therefore drawing others into your calming state.
#2. You deserve to feel good no matter how many mistakes you've made in the past.
Take responsibility for your actions, old and new.
Suffer the consequences and put them away.
Don't leave tons of loose ends of failed relationships and rid that long list of "should haves" and "could haves" once and for all.
What you feel you deserve and your self-worth are connected.
When you believe you deserve a better life or better relationships and you set goals to achieve them, you are giving importance to your own existence.
With this importance comes high status and higher value. Which as you may have guessed by now, makes you more attractive.
I never felt I was good-looking enough to be with a beautiful women. I blamed every failed attempt on my looks, wealth, status, or height.
I tied up the loose ends with solid inner game work and confidence building techniques.
#3. Being ridiculed is an unfortunate part of life.
Others will ridicule you out of jealous and their own feeling or low self-esteem.
If you impress upon another your desires, you're likely to impress upon their feelings of imperfection too. It's unavoidable and out of your direct control.
If you let it affect you negatively, you're letting someone else control something only you have access to... which is your mind.
Remember it forever.
Everyone agrees that not caring what people think of you is one way of getting more people to like you. (A form of Indifference. )
No pressure to please and the burden associated that it imparts on another and they will enjoy being around you, and being more attractive means others will enjoy being around you.
My brother and his friends use to ridicule me all the time. I figured out years later it was because he was jealous of me. Yet I was his little brother that couldn't get a girlfriend to save his life while he had every woman he wanted. (Something which is very important to young men.)
And HE was jealous of me.
Because I did what he felt he could not... followed my dreams despite failure after failure.
I believe he suffered from a huge fear of failure, he didn't feel good enough to do better or deserve better, and the strength he saw that I had to do made him jealous.
#4. Affect more men or women by being a more affectionate person.
I'm not saying to go cuddle with an old friend but you could give more hugs for those really close friends.
Take the time to break down the barriers our bodies create around us which is called our personal space.
You would be surprised when this is done the right way how others will start to feel more connected to you.
When you love someone you are naturally more affectionate. It's sharing a closeness. You're showing you trust each other enough to go within someone else's barrier around their body.
Without enjoying your passions and desires it's really hard to get close to people.
It's also really hard to be trusted because unfortunately cold heartless people are often associated with being distant and afraid of breaking barriers.
As in: "He was the quiet guy who lived next door." ... Yep.
When I became a teenager I became even more shy and timid. I lost the ability to be affectionate with my Mother. Probably due to puberty. But since I did not overcome this 'social disability' it drastically affected my ability to be trusted.
Of course I was respected and gained trust in social settings, when it came to being intimate with a woman, she never trusted me enough to build the attraction.
Hence the instant friend zone.
Now that I've explained how we can attract more people with these four simple ways, try it yourself.
Come up with a short list of your passions, desires, and what you love doing, and write down your fears or why you refuse to follow them.
I believe you'll begin to quickly see how you can use what you love doing to to increase your attraction to anyone, which certainly includes men.
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