"Do guys ever want to just be friends? What are some signs that they don’t?"
When a guy wants to be more than just friends with you there are ALWAYS signs you can look for that reveals his true feelings BUT, as always, you must consider and know what TYPE of guy he is IF you're to find the truth.
Type one guys act differently than type two guys around most women and their actions can easily fool you into believing they see you as more than a friend or want something more from you but I'll make it VERY easy for you below.
So... the first sign you actually must look for is not a sign at all but you need to know if he's a type one or a type two. You can find a short explanation at why do guys or sign in below and read it all because it's essential to learning about men and especially in knowing if your friend wants something more with you.
MOST type one guys can and do have lots of friends that are women which can confuse you. They're comfortable around women, they like to keep lots of available or potential sexual and dating options close too.
BUT they also are more likely to make it very clear from the beginning that sure - you'd make a great friend but let's leave sex or dating on the table as a viable option.
A close assumption you can make is that if he's a type one AND you've been friends for a while AND he hasn't made any kind of advancement OR made it clear that he's physically attracted to you in some way that he does NOT want anything more with you.
Type one guy:
- You've been friends for a while.
- He made it clear from the beginning you'd make something more than just a great friend.
- He hasn't made any attempt at doing something more with you.
- He hasn't made it clear he finds you physically attracted to you in some way.
MEANS - he's doesn't and probably NEVER will consider you as something more than a friend.
Type two guys are a little tougher to find the signs because they're a little cryptic around women.
They're generally not comfortable around women they're attracted to, they put themselves in friends zones a lot hoping later to get out, AND they tend to hide their true feelings as soon as you meet them.
They also present another major problem - just because he might want more than a friendship does not ever mean he will act on those feelings.
Type ones generally take affirmative action when it comes to sex and dating.
Type twos sit and around and wait for the woman to decide where the relationship is going to go - friendship or dating.
Lots of type two guys will keep their secret crush close in their friends circle JUST IN CASE something might happen while forever doing NOTHING to advance the relationship.
With all that out there in the open here's many GUARANTEED signs or signals a TYPE TWO will give you which means he wants to be more than just friends with you.
He's making real EFFORT to be around you and more.
Wanting to talk to you is one thing. Wanting to hang around with you like he does with a good friend is another thing.
However, I’ve found almost every man who has wanted a woman as more than a friend made HER a big deal in his life and made a real effort in one way or another minus the sex angle of course.
When a man does something with you he normally doesn’t do, you can consider that a REAL effort.
Here are some clear examples of a man showing REAL EFFORT:
- He wants to go with you to a concert featuring country music but it’s not what he normally listens to or even likes.
- He is willing to change his schedule to fit around your life. He's putting the importance of your life either equal or in many type tow cases ABOVE his own.
- He tries new and exciting foods (or anything) when he is with you.
- You make him courageous in ways which goes against the typical character.
- He's always trying to show off in front of you. Men do generally like to show off in front of their friends but if a woman is involved there's something more to it when it's done.
- He calls and tells you he just wanted to hear your voice once in a while. Male friends don't normally do that with their male friends... EVER! Well unless they're gay an are in love with their friend.
ANY type of real EFFORT as practical proof he's looking for more than a friendship with you.
Anytime a type two continually and consistently goes out of his way to do things with you, for you, or to help you out is a huge sign he sees you as more than a friend, wants to date you, and has strong sexual feelings for you.
He's get jealous and/or angry a little too much around you AND he's always trying to hide or keep you from seeing those emotions.
but Women may get or act jealous around their friends who they feel have something more like a guy that they either want, resent, or have feelings for and sure it does happen to some male to male friendships BUT...
When a male friends is continually getting angry and acting jealous over the "other" men in your life it simply means he has STRONG FEELINGS for you.
He may try to hide these emotions from you and sometimes he'll be good at it but if you pay attention you WILL see it happening so look for it.
He'll avoid talking to you about other men in your life or will get sightly angry when you bring up men who might be courting you.
He'll listen to you talk about your ex's or other guys but it's never with an open ear. He's filtering out every word that he doesn't want to hear because it's painful and hurtful to listen to you talk about "other" men you've been with or are currently seeing.
Notice the glare in his eyes. The glazed over look in the way he stares at you during these conversations. His strategic attempts to redirect the conversation to something a little less unsettling.
These are his ways of trying to hide his anger and jealousy because he wants you for himself.
Trust that if this type of guys was only interested in being friends with you - he might not want to always talk about it but he won't get butt hurt when it comes up because you're as close to a dude friend to him as it gets.
Talking about sex with you is generally off the table or not open for discussion.
Type twos guy struggle talking about sex with a woman and if he wants you as something more than a friend - it's usually never brought up or avoided at all costs with one major exception...
IF he's bringing it up often and it feels like he's fishing for a response from you OR if it feels like he's trying to lead into it by constantly bringing it up then and ONLY then you can safely assume he wants to have it with you.
However I believe most of the time it just never comes up.
He doesn't want t listen to you talk about screwing others guy or how some guy is trying to sleep with you or what you did with THAT guy last night - it pisses him off and hurts him.
Types twos are generally uncomfortable around women and when it comes to the many topics of sex - they just don't feel open and relaxed discussing it.
When you ADD having feelings for you on top of that - you'll find he won't even watch a slightly erotic movie with you and when those "parts" happen, if you pay close attention to his body language - he's squirming in his pants.
You'll also easily notice he's all too embarrassed to even bring up his sex or lack of sex life up with you.
Those three signs above WILL definitely help you figure out if a type two guy wants more than a friendship with you but...
Here's some questions to ask yourself about your relationship with him or who he is which will help you determine (without a doubt) that your friend is INTO you:
Does he make a REAL EFFORT in his life to be with you, do things with you, talk to you above and beyond what a guy will do with "other" guys?
How much REAL attention does he pay to you and your life outside of him? In other words - is he a little TOO interested in who you are and what you do when you're not together?
Does he show signs of jealousy, anger, or complete avoidance when either one of you are talking about other potential dates or lovers in your life?
How often is the topic of sex brought up and how deep are the conversations about it? Is it open for discussion, taboo, or avoided entirely based on lifestyle yet you get a feeling of sexual tension when you are close to each other?
Where is he is in life? Ready for a commitment? Starting a new life? Anxious to explore his options? Just become sexually aware?
If he's hanging with you an awful lot and he's not dating other women AND satisfies many of those last questions then ask yourself, WHY is he spending so much time with you when he should be actively searching for a partner...
Well it's because he wants YOU.
I've handpicked a few articles which are helpful to read about the friends zone: