I was driving through downtown Chicago on the interstate when I saw the sign.
"Life is short. Have an affair."
These bold words were accompanied by a suggestive image involving two good looking people. I felt a shockwave go through my nervous system at the sight of that sign.
It was like an assault on everything good, right, and noble in this world.
An attorney firm specializing in divorce! I can't express my level of disgust.
Your marriage is under constant attack by societal forces you do not control.
Do you think affairs are contagious?
I recently read an article about two couples that spent a lot of time together.
It wasn't long after the first couple stumbled that one of the partners from the second couple began "exploring their options" outside their committed relationship.
My point is this. Your marriage is under assault.
There are many ways society pushes us toward selfish thinking.
The influence is often subtle.
After all, what's wrong with Burger King's motto, "Have it your way," or the Haagen-Dazs slogan, "Pleasure is the path to joy?"
There's really nothing wrong with those logos if taken in isolation.
The problem occurs when we receive multiple messages all day long telling us our happiness can be found by putting ourselves first.
Any of you who have been married for any time at all know what happens when we put ourselves first.
It becomes nothing but a trap, or a prison sentence. Both people are in it for themselves, but stuck making decisions jointly.
There's a better way, of course, and you know what it is.
The romantic term for it is "true love." I think of true love as a choice.
It happens when two people simultaneously love somebody else more than they love themselves.
They put the other person's needs and happiness at the highest priority.
The result, marriage becomes the best thing ever!
Nothing compares with it.
It's better than a warm chocolate brownie smothered in vanilla ice cream, served on a tropical beach in Hawaii while you wait for your massage!
Loving someone else feels good! Being loved back feels amazing.
Combine the two and anything you do to achieve it will be worth it.
Of course, you know the problem with this.
Despite your best intentions, you end up not doing or saying what makes the other person feel loved completely and totally.
You recoil in shock when your effort to be "normal" is met with an angry misinterpretation of your actions, attitudes, or words. Then all hell breaks loose.
A rolling snowball effect is unleashed on your marriage as frustrations crumble all your good intentions into selfish retreat.
Sound familiar to anyone?
I wish I knew everything. I wish I was the wisest person that ever lived. Unfortunately I'm not. But I have benefited from a process of sifting.
I have sifted through the experiences and accumulated wisdom of hundreds of years-worth of relationships successes and failures.
In all that sifting, I came across a gem of particular beauty and rare value once in a while. I've been collecting those gems, and there's one I'd like to show you now.
It's called the Respect Principle and I recorded a short video to explain the concept.
Check out the video below.
It is based on the concept that men and women intend to love each other and create romantic bliss, but they sometimes lack awareness of the unique ways their partner experiences interaction with them.
For women, the biggest blind spot has to do with the weird ways men obsess about the issue of admiration and respect.
Don't get me wrong.
Respect is not everything.
But it is one issue that gives back power to women who truly desire to make their husbands feel loved.
It's the strangest thing, but survey research has revealed that the vast majority of men cannot distinguish between the ideas of being loved and being respected.
Learn how to transform the way he experiences you in my short video on this valuable gem of information here.
The Hidden "Gap" In Every Man's Mind.
You've probably seen it before.(Maybe it has even happened to you.
At first things are going great with a guy... there are the tantalizing texts and calls, flirty Facebook messages, and maybe things even get a little intimate...
Then IT happens.
It seems like suddenly something snaps in him, and he starts to withdraw... then out of nowhere he just completely loses interest in you.
Your texts and calls start to go unanswered and soon he just disappears out of your life.
To make things worse, it's usually not an isolated incident. If it happens once, most likely it's going to happen again.
What I'm talking about here is something called "The Gap" and it's perhaps the number one cause of unnecessary relationship problems.
If you're going through this or know someone who is, I highly recommend you watch this video now:
A relationship consultant accidentally stumbled upon the root cause of this "gap" and more importantly how to make sure it never happens to you again.
Once you know the powerful solution he reveals in this video, you'll suddenly be able to understand the inner thoughts of men everywhere, and how to attract, connect, and commit them... for GOOD.
It's fascinating how powerfully this "gap" affects every aspect of your relationships, and once you understand it, painful experiences like this and many others will forever be a thing of the past.
Watch this video now to discover the truth about what it takes to attract and commit an amazing man into your life: