He may be as sweet as sugar, but he's not your type. Can you ever let him down gently?
The phone is on its fourth ring. It could be your mother, or your best friend.
Or it could be him...
The man who boxed you into conversation at that party on Friday night.
Was he sweet?
Were you attracted to him?
So explain this - after you suppressed another yawn, he said,
"I'd love to see you again. Can I get your number?"
Every bone in your body whimpered,
"Me? You? No, no!" but you said, "Oh, er, Ok. My number is..."
So here you sit, glaring at the phone, a prisoner of your own social life.
For so many women, rebuffing that nice man with the sex appeal of a warthog is the social equivalent of sticking pins under your fingernails.
Why agree to see a man you don't like?
Probably because you don't want to hurt his feelings.
So is it cowardice or compassion that makes saying no so hard?
That said, faced with rejection, many men prefer a neatly wrapped white lie to blunt reality.
But isn't that deception?
Who benefits when you tell a man you don't find him attractive?
You don't want to say it and he certainly doesn't want to hear it.
So what do men want to hear, if not yes? "I have a boyfriend," takes top marks in the lie department.
"When a woman tells me she has a boyfriend I think, 'Well, if she wasn't attached she'd jump at the chance,'" says Louis, 26, a solicitor.
But what if the man in question knows you're single?
Try, "I'm sorry, I'm just so incredibly busy."
However, don't elaborate with something like,
"I have to get home to watch the paint peel."
He may volley back with,
"Well, that shouldn't take long. Let's meet for coffee later."
You could also make it your personal policy, never ever to give out your phone number.
If a man asks, respond politely with, "I'm sorry, I just don't give out my phone number."
If he persists, say, "Why don't I take your number?" You're saying you'll take it.
You're not saying you'll use it.
Above all, the key to brushing off a man nicely is just that - to be nice.
"I'm busy" can sound either sincere or agitated, depending on your tone and expression.
Following tips will certainly help you:
First, look relaxed, even if you're stunned. Smile and make eye contact.
Second, keep your voice calm and say something such as,
"Thanks, I'm flattered, but I'm just too busy. "
Don't speak too quickly or you'll look awkward.
Third, respond with a downward inflection at the end of your sentence, while making eye contact.
A dip in your voice when you say the word "busy" connotes authority and lets him know you mean it.
Your smile, however, shows him you mean it in a no-hard-feelings way.
Virtually all men agree no matter what you say and how you say it, the sooner you let him down, the better.
Rest assured, when you turn him down, he'll get over it. If he has the ego to ask you out, he has the ego to move on.
Now, go ahead and answer the phone!
How To Instantly Capture His Interest!
If you're like most women, you're frustrated with men, dating, and relationships... and for good reason.
You might be thinking things like this:
What do men want in a woman?
Why is he so hard to talk to?
What is he thinking about? (Does he really love me?)
Why did he just leave, and suddenly lose interest?
Why can't he just love me and be faithful?
Well, the answer might surprise you. It is definitely a HUGE revelation.
What started out as a lunch with a friend turned into the accidental discovery of a hidden "gap" in the mind of every man... a gap that explains what they *really* want in a woman, and why it rarely works out.
If you find yourself constantly frustrated with men, and just want a real connection with a man that loves you for you, you NEED to watch this video.
You'll discover how to close "the gap" and start to enjoy the love and connection you've always wanted.
How To Connect With Your Man Even When He Seems the Most Distant & Far Away!
If you’ve ever experienced the pain of an emotionally dead relationship or if you’ve ever had a man suddenly pull away and shut you out...
Then what you’re about to find out will completely change the way men treat you and even how YOU experience relationships.
Because at the end of the day, men secretly want just one thing.
And once you understand this one crucial craving that men have…
It will be plain as day to you why it’s the #1 reason men pull away when it’s missing from a relationship.
In fact, this one secret male obsession is the biggest key to being truly irresistible to a man... in a way that goes far beyond physical attraction.
And when you know it, you’ll never struggle to keep a man interested or connected on a deep emotional level the way most women do.
Thousands of women who discovered this one male desire have used it to turn hopeless situations into the life fulfilling relationships they always dreamed of.
The kind of loving companionship and exciting romance that you deserve.
If you want to uncover this secret male desire and find out exactly how you can use it to bring you and your man closer together than ever before…
Then click the link below and watch the free version:
You’ll be glad you did.
James Bauer is a dating and relationship expert who has coached couples to help them achieve a happier more productive marriage. He also helps women attract men with the respect principle and the hero concept.
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