Are You In A Fake Relationship? Signs To Look For If It’s Real Or Not

Fake Couple Relationship

Written by Gay Hendricks, co-author of Hearts In Harmony .

Are you in a relationship, or are you in an entanglement?

A relationship is one in which both people are free to be themselves, yet there is no shortage of intimacy. No fear that doing what you love or being who you are or taking time for yourself will drive the other person away.

In a relationship, neither person needs the other to "complete" them.

Both people are awake to themselves, their feelings and thoughts, and are open to the flow of love and attention with one another.

It's about two equals celebrating together rather than "needing" something from the other.

In short, a relationship like this is one where both people are in harmony. And that's exactly what it feels like: in tune, relaxed, and just plain fun.

Entanglements, on the other hand, look and feel very different.

Signs You're In An Entanglement.

Entanglements may look like a relationship on the surface.

You might spend a lot of time together, you've met each other's friends and family, and people refer to you as a "couple."

But you're not having a real relationship – at least not one that is characterized by love and harmony.

Here's what entanglements masquerading as real relationships look like:

You keep having the same issues.

When you find yourself having the same old argument with your partner for the umpteenth time, that's a pretty good sign you're likely in an entanglement.

If you had the same problem in your previous relationships, or keep picking partners with similar issues, that's a tip-off, too.

Patterns that repeat – especially from relationship to relationship – indicate that you have unresolved feelings from the past, creating a destructive dynamic that keeps you from enjoying harmony.

You don’t feel safe or understood.

One of the clearest signs of entanglement is that it is hard for one person to let the other person feel his or her feelings and tell the truth about them.

Entanglements feel like you have to shut down a part of yourself. If you're feeling like your partner just doesn't get you, and that you're not free to say exactly what's on your mind, you know you're not in a real relationship.

Someone always needs to be right.

In a real relationship, each person is "awake" to his or her role in a problem, and the priority for both is relationship growth. Entanglements are characterized by power struggles.

Both people are vying for the title of victim, thus making the other the perpetrator. Nobody ever wins.

It’s just so hard.

If you're feeling drained with your partner, you're likely caught up in an entanglement.

In a harmonious relationship, both people take responsibility for any issues that arise, and they come up with creative solutions that further add to the positive feelings they share.

What To Do If You're In An Entanglement.

So what if you have the terrible feeling that you're in an entanglement right now, or that you've been in entanglements before?

Relax, it's completely normal.

Most people have been in an entanglement, and a lot of them have been in many.

We all come to relationships with unresolved issues from our past, and we naturally look to our partners to make us feel good about ourselves. And so it's always a surprise when we finally think we've found love, only to experience pain and frustration.

The problem often isn't that we've chosen the wrong partner, it's that we're not looking at the root cause of our disenchantment.

We can help you find that root cause, and put an end to this painful cycle.... for good.

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Katie & Gay Hendricks

Guy Katie Hendricks

About Katie and Gay Hendricks:

Gay and Katie Hendricks have been leaders in the field of relationship transformation and body mind therapies for more than 45 years.

Gay holds a PhD from Stanford and was a professor of counseling psychology at the University of Colorado for 21 years.

Katie holds a PhD in transpersonal psychology and has been a pioneer of mind-body integration for over 40 years.

Together, they've authored 35 books, including some used as primary textbooks in universities around the world.

They've appeared on over 500 television and radio shows, including Oprah, CNN, CNBC, 48 hours and others.

They've co-facilitated countless seminars and workshops around the world for both individuals and couples looking to experience more ease and flow in their relationships.

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