We do it ALL the time…
We categorize women in several ways with regards to your looks, personality, and movements.
Ever wonder if you’re hot, sexy, or cute?
Hot – All dressed up. A little too perfect. Most men find this type of women un-approachable or “Hard to talk to!”
They say they want “hot” but most men either don’t have the confidence or that certain strength to bother.
Categorized as untouchable. Kind of like a movie star. A pleasure to look at but not real.
Cute – Shy, demure, casual and down to earth. At times playful and quirky.
Beautifully adorned with a magical glow most men get caught up in.
Often categorized as “Easy to talk to.”
Guys give the “cute” label to women very sparingly. I guess it’s just not “masculine” enough to tell a guy friend you think a woman is cute.
We believe women call us cute when they are not feeling it for us and want to spare out feelings. Basically letting us down by reassuring we’re not some ugly fool, and there’s more reasons why you would not want to be with us.
Aside from our delicate view of how we think we look.
Just another reason men rarely call a woman cute.
Sexy – Curves, attitude, and the walk.
Your definition of sexy probably varies greatly from a man’s point of view.
His definition is mostly sexual. He imagines sexy naked. He fantasizes about sexy women.
But again, rarely does he ever say it to his friends.
I hope you’re seeing a pattern here.
Men share with each other ( SPARINGLY I’LL ADD ) the details of their specific attraction.
We know what we find attractive but rarely can we ever put to words what it is.
AND our view of attractiveness is ever-changing.
When he’s feeling something more he may find you beautiful, and when he’s feeling it “hard” in his pants, suddenly you’re the sexiest woman alive.
When he’s with you and everything falls in place, suddenly you’re cuteness keeps him smiling and seeing you as the only one he’s ever met who gets him.
On the surface the important men put on looks seems trivial. Sometimes annoying. Sometimes you may even feel like he’s not attracted to you at all and wondering why he even bothers.
The truth is – men struggle putting to words exactly what they’re feeling.
They also believe calling you sexy (Grrrr!!!) when you were looking for beautiful may upset you.
Or laying in bed about to go inside you and then telling you how cute you look – may get him quickly tossed off.
The conversations they have with their fellow-men are also manicured to keep their manhood in tact.
That explains their cackling, whistling, or chatter as you pass them by.
It’s best to NOT reveal to another man something which may deem you as being less than a man – if you know what I mean.
This type of youth to adult way of interaction is also a big reason why so many guys only seem to notice your most private parts – and why some feel the need to tell you.
Just a little insight into how a man sees beauty and why so many struggle to put the perfect compliment to you – when the time is right.
Now I get to ask you…
- How do you see yourself?
- Does it match what men have said to you?
- Do you wish men could see you differently?
- Have you ever noticed men react to the image you care to place that evening or day and are so predictable that you have numbed yourself against caring?
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