Understanding Men Will Never Be Complicated Again!
Here's what anyone just like you can do, if you want to understand the supposed complexities of men...
You "could" look into the psychology and sociology behind him but then it becomes ever more complicated. You'll get more confused, find little or no real answers you can relate AND... unless you're ready to dedicate your life to studying the male brain and how it works WHY would you waste your time?
You can study the mind of a guy by going deeper and deeper until you hit the right spot. You might stumble on the answer you're looking for. That "Aha!" moment might even grant you full access to any man's mind and his heart too. (Wouldn't that be great?)
But I don't think you want to go that far - you don't want a degree on men!
You have enough great things going on in your life. Time is a strict and limited engagement of yours and you would rather not waste it.
You want simple answers that you can use right now to figure one guy out and why he's "acting" a certain way towards you OR you want answers and some form of closure on the groups of men who've been consistently frustrating you.
You're fed up and tired of it all.
You're at a point where you felt you had little or no choice but to seek out advice on what HIS problem is (or was) and it's brought you here to my little spot in the world appropriately named, "Why Do Guys...?"
That's actually a GOOD thing. Not your frustration or perhaps even outright anger towards the opposite sex because emotional uneasiness is never a pleasurable experience.
No - I'm talking about you making your way here as being one of the greatest things that has happened to your dating and relationship "life" because...
I want to show you HOW to understand ALL men.
I want to inspire and inject so much confidence in yourself and your knowledge of men that you'll spend less or no time ANYMORE asking WHY.
You'll be able to us this new free time any way you like which I do hope is used enjoying your relationships and doing the things you love to do - perhaps even with those you love the most.
Are you ready for it?
This readiness I'm asking of you is not a joke. It's not a rhetorical question. I'm not asking you to build your energy or drive. I'm not asking to peak your curiosity or even to get you all fired up to gaining a control in your life you might have been lacking in the past.
I'm asking if you're truly ready because you must be willing to go to places you've never been inside your heart and mind. You must be open to NEW ideas and concepts. You must be ready for a new mindset and to start seeing things from a perspective most will never see because they just won't let it all go.
And not lastly... Here's the part where I risk losing many of you but that's okay.
You must be ready to let out all your anger and frustration you've had about men BEFORE you will ever reach the next step or stage in your life.
If you're at all bitter - filled with blame and regrets - are more concerned with proving you're right and he's wrong - if you're in a "pouty" place thinking the world (and the men in it) have only done you wrong and because of THAT you feel you "deserve" something better JUST because you feel superior or have played nice all your life...
I can not and will not get you there or even try to make you. I won't waste any of my time "talking" you down. I won't let you take me to "that" place with you.
That is not my thing and you'll quickly find I efficiently cut out those from my life who waste my time bitching and whining about how unfair life's been towards them - because my SOLE responsibility in all this...
Is to SHOW you how to understand men.
I'm not telling you all this because I'm a mean person. You might consider that and I'm okay with whatever you believe about me.
I'm not telling you this because I intend to treat you like a child and send you to bed early because you wouldn't eat you Brussels Sprouts. (Weird reference, I know.)
I'm asking you if you're ready - truly ready - because honestly, understanding men (and I suppose life in general) starts with first understanding yourself better than ever before and figuring out men begins with a clean fresh look at what is really happening unfiltered by past bad experiences and a closed narrowed-down attitude.
Still with me? Very cool.
It may appear I've now complicated things - you know - with all the "you must understand yourself first" stuff - I understand you probably didn't come here for that purpose and you're just about ready to "click out" and search for an answer which satisfies and agrees with what you believed to be true anyways.
And that's part of the point.
I've been studying "people" for all of my life. Not from books. Real life people. One of the many things that I've consistently found that if someone isn't willing to understand themselves FIRST - when they go out looking for the real profound RIGHT answer to solve their immediate and current problem - they don't find it because...
They're not looking for an ANSWER. They're only looking for proof they are right.
They're looking for someone or something to agree with their findings.
The reality is: They're looking to FEEL better about who they are and when they surround themselves with those who will agree with their plight or supposed facts and knowledge of their experience it makes them feel better about themselves for a short time and in the process....
Delay or fail to make any significant changes in their life.
I get it - who doesn't want to FEEL better about themselves. In fact I know the answer you're looking for about men will in a way make you feel better - happier - more free- it's all good.
BUT it's still a quick fix. A short road with an often abrupt turn on the end that only loops back around as you find yourself circling round and round; I believe the term would be "same shit - different day". Does that sound at all familiar?
Okay...
You've made it this far. I'd like to say I'm proud of you but let's be real because I know myself all too well... I'm just as much or proud of myself for keeping your interest this long.
HOW will I show you how to UNDERSTAND men?
What's my specialty. My angle. My unique as I promised above SIMPLE way of getting you there.
I've studied women my whole life. I've been a male my whole life too.
If my life and my PAST relationships with women were graded - I had nothing but failing marks until around ten years ago. In other words I FINALLY passed the test and earned my non-doctorate degree in women.
Now even though I'm still not a complete man, my journey won't ever end; I've spent enough time inside my body and by closely watching others to see things most others just don't get. (Because of as I'm expecting of you, willing and ready to let go and being open to new perspectives and new mindsets.)
My point is: I KNOW what attracts you. How to create it. How to destroy it. How it happens. Why it happens. How long it lasts. I can get INSIDE your head. (Generally speaking of course.)
I know when you're wondering, thinking, and over-thinking about a guy what it's doing to you inside.
I also know that without those thoughts you're just never going to feel that much for a guy. If he's not confusing you - if he's too easy to read - if everything he does or says is predictable - whether you've connected with him or not, you will always feel something is MISSING.
As I've gone from a total loser with women, mind you not a typical loser treating women like a piece of meat but just some guy who couldn't find even a girlfriend to the man I feel I am today - I've experienced two totally different and contradicting realities.
This "second" reality has allowed me to teach guys what I know about you. I pass along the knowledge and skills to them and try to create as many REAL men as I can.
Maybe you'll benefit from that, maybe you won't.
The reality is, by doing so, will most likely push men far away from some women's reach until they too experience their new reality. Strange how life works that way sometimes. We fix one thing only to find we've broken it for someone else. Sadly true.
These two elements or realities - has me allowed to live on both sides and has brought me to the conclusion that can life-altering for you and how well you can understand men.
In the simplest terms I can think of...
There are only TWO different types of guys.
If you want to understand ALL men you must then know which type of guy he is but of course I must tell you what those type are:
Type 1: The guys who DO GET you!
Some do it or get there naturally. Some will learn it through trial and error.
Some seek advice and use it for good as through the methods I use and the person I've become myself.
Other use that same advice to "play" you.
Some have "problems" and use their natural ability to play most women.
Some don't even know they're doing it or how.
This group (so it's been formulated) consists of about 8% to 10% of men.
It's estimated within this group (based on my own observation and experience only) that 1 out of every 10 fall in the bad or utterly toxic category.
These TYPE ONE are considered the guys who actually sleep with or date the majority of ALL women.
A note which has never been proven but definitely observed and all too often hated by the next type:
Type 2: The guys who just DON'T seem to GET you!
Women and their relationships with them have come primarily by accident, sometimes a little luck, and sometime pure coincidentally.
90% plus of ALL men fall into this category.
They live in your friends zone. You will rarely (if ever) feel attracted to them.
They can be "nice guys" but they can also be the over-confident pricks who pretends they're the type one.
These guys meet a woman who likes them although they might not know why she does or even realize it's happening.
If she pursues him AND if he feels a little attracted to her - he will "settle" comfortably and just take things as they come along.
That doesn't mean this type can't or doesn't love you.
In fact he'll probably give you more love than you can handle which at times will appear needy and desperate.
But remember... these are guys who generally DO NOT get you.
This group can and will dabble in the other group. They won't know it's happening but they can invoke your attraction and interest.
After some time though they typically revert back to their naturally born type two usually marking the moment when you don't know why - but you're in love with him - but he doesn't do it for you anymore AND the relationship either drags on to boring obliviousness or an abrupt change for better or for worse.
Okay...
By now you might be wondering WHY it's so important for you to know there are only two types of men and HOW it's going to help you in ALL your relationships with men (casually dating or in an exclusive relationship).
And you should but first...
You can understand men right down to every little thing he does.
BUT you must also understand that could come with a huge price.
I will warn you - opening up a guy you could either grow closer, have the ability to draw him in and truly connect with his heart OR you could just easily DESTROY what you're feeling for him in the process.
Something I'll cover eventually in my newsletter when you join below.
Back to the major importance of knowing which type of guy you're dealing with and how it's going to help you.
Number one:
Two guys can be doing, saying, or acting in the exact same way but based on which type they fall into can and will mean two DIFFERENT things.
Not knowing which type can have you misinterpreting him in a way which will lead you astray, cause you to over-think, imagine things that aren't real as they relate to you AND worst of all - make it IMPOSSIBLE for you to connect with him.
See how easy it can to be to misinterpret him IF you don't know his type.
For example:
A common thing lots of women worry about is being played by a guy and you should be concerned about it. The effect of being played by a guy can leave you devastated, hurt, ruin many of your future interactions with good men, and leave you forever not trusting even the nicest guys making it very difficult to connect with them.
Getting played by a guy is something NO woman should ever have to go through.
Here's the thing.
What is your gut telling you about the two type of guys above as it relates to a guy being a player or playing you?
Got something in your head? Cool.
Now let's see if our views or answers match up.
Type two above - the guys who don't get you will NEVER knowingly play you.
They don't know how. They just don't have it in them to do it. AND if they even try, you'll see it happening a mile away.
This ultimately means - when you know you're dealing with this type two - you're NOT being played and can rule out a whole list of reasons why he's doing the things he's doing which are confusing you.
To type two - it's not a game and will never be one 99% of the time. (Sorry but there are always exceptions.)
On the other side - type one HAS the capacity and skills to play you. It doesn't mean it's happening BUT it IS a possibility.
Let's say you sleep with both guys a little too early and weeks later you find they're now blowing you off.
There's good possibility that type one was only looking for sex and once he got it - blew you off. He was clever enough to make it happen and therefore it's more likely you've been played or used.
Type one either played you OR if he was a stand up guy told you he wasn't interested in any more therefore he's just being honest and upfront ruling him out as a player.
However the type two - could be leaving you behind for more reasons than I can count on my fingers. Maybe he felt he got lucky and now is confused as what to do. Maybe he thought he sucked in bed and fear facing you again. Maybe he's not attracted to at all and since he sucks with women - when you agreed to sleep with him or it just "happened" he gladly accepted it because honestly - he barely if ever gets any.
And the list goes on and one.
Here's another great example.
You see two guys and you notice their body language towards you is closed off. You guess both are sending you a signal that they're not interested in you - but you're certainly interested in them.
If you were to start interacting with those guys you could find yourself in a situation where you're chasing both because one: You went into it believing or feeling they were not into you and two: because of their body language they triggered that lovely challenge instinct you have built within you.
(Yes - that's the part where knowing YOU comes into play. Since I know what attracts you, I'm also more inclined to know how and why you find yourself attracted to certain men and thus, with this information can predict how you will act around both types of guys. But I digress...)
I can within all practicality GUARANTEE you that not only will you screw it up with a TYPE ONE for many reasons which no worries, CAN be fixed, BUT also that he, after forming an opinion of you with very little interaction is NOT interested in you at all. He's probably not even physically attracted to you.
However - TYPE TWO - you just don't know and if you really want him, by you acting differently around him based on what I've said before - you lessen the chance of understanding him and attracting him too.
Type two's body language is in all likelihood that way because he has low confidence, very little self-esteem with regards to women. He could be madly in love with you, admiring you all the time, and yet closed off when you're near him because he's unsure, confused, doesn't GET you or how attraction works and based on his past experiences with women - fails so often he puts up this huge wall protecting himself from being rejected.
Same body language and/or actions means two entirely different things based on his type alone AND not knowing which type he is can alter your, I'll call it "destiny" with both of them.
It's really THAT important.
You can see how it all so clearly plays out when you have this "inside" information. How by knowing a few simple extra things when you're dealing with and understanding men can either put YOU in the driver seat or have you forever chasing which I can guarantee that CHASING a guy will NEVER land the right guy for you.
Let's back it up all the way to the beginning when you first read and was intrigued by this statement but we'll add a little something to it:
Understanding men does NOT have to be so complicated!
Please don't make it much more difficult on yourself by just taking the time to learn about his very easily determined type.
All this talk about men and I forgot to mention my name...
It's Pete. (Peter White)
I'm the guy who runs the show here at at "Why Do Guy...?" and I'm the guy who wants to help you understand men.
Don't worry, I'm not going to ask you if you're ready anymore. If you made it this far you DEFINITELY are and you're probably wondering how you can get started already.
It's simple - really easy stuff.
What you've learned today is your "starter" or introduction into the world of men.
It's the basis of what I teach. It's simple, easy to get, and you'll get the rest as we move along from letter to letter.
AND (as of today) you get my Ebook on understanding men:
"Understanding Men Made Simple - There Are Only TWO Types of Guys."
It's a 45 page book which covers all this and more:
♦ How to figure out what type of guy he is and why if you don't know it, his words and action can fool you or worse yet, you could misread every signal he gives you. You'll get the exact long-form definition of each type plus how they interact with you differently.
♦ Over 65 questions you can ask about ANY guy which reveals the perfect man. You'll be able to tell quickly if he's for real, using you, a player, a good guy, or the ultimate rare REAL man.
♦ How to apply it all in your everyday life with men, dating, and relationships.
♦ Why knowing his type helps to quiet your mind and makes you more attractive to men, keeps you from doing things that push away good men, and puts YOU in charge of your destiny with guys.
♦ You'll soon see how and why it's so difficult to find the perfect man and what that really means to you as it helps you decode his actions. But also why it doesn't have to be so tough.
♦ My EXCLUSIVE and often elusive secret to getting a guy devoted and obsessed over you. Warning: Do it wrong and it will backfire on you so make sure you know exactly how it's done.
♦ The only two things you need to concern yourself with when it comes to getting the man of your dreams along with fulfilling your desire to be in a happy, healthy, and productive relationship. And yes BOTH are completely within any woman's capabilities.
♦ Every woman "tests" men in one way or another, BUT if you don't know his type, your tests can be passed by him in a way which allows him to fool you into thinking he's more than he really is which inevitable can lead you down a long, hurtful, and painful road.
♦ What actually does separate the good guys from the bad ones, the players, the users, the abusers, and the nice guy who just doesn't understand you AND why it's important to notice the difference as early as possible.
♦ What makes a perfectly matched couple and why others are doomed to fail depending on how and why they got together.
♦ The questions you need to ask about yourself and what you're looking for, what you're compromising over in men, and how it all relates to finding the man who is perfect for you.
♦ Two simple short definitions of love men and women believe which separates them and how it's connected to understanding men and how it can be used to get a man too.
♦ How to easily change a man for the better just by making him FEEL a certain way towards you and how it works differently on the two types of guys.
I'd love to have you join me. I'd love to open up men to you in a way which you've never experienced it before.
This is what the newsletter covers and it's what you can expect from me.
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- EVERY email has a purpose - to show you how to understand men while at the same time help you understand yourself better.
You can choose to participate or you can choose to just read and take it all in hopefully putting it all to good use in your life.
The PURPOSE or goal is simple:
Open his MIND to you so to make it easier to connect with his HEART. - Open your mind so you can better connect with yourself. - How to communicate all this to him in a way which brings him CLOSER to you.
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DEAR PETE,
I AM A SINGLE MOTHER OF ONE BOY WHO HAS BEEN IN AN UNSUCCESFUL RELATIONSHIP SINCE MY YOUNG AGE
AND I AM WONDERING WHY MY PASS RELATIONSHIP WITH MY 7 YEARS BOYFRIEND DIDNT WORK OUT, BUT HE MANAGED TO PROPOSE TO A WOMAN AFTER ME. WHEREAS, THE FATHER OF MY CHILD WAS THE SAME, HE LEFT ME AND GOT MARRIED TO A WOMAN WITH TWO KIDS NOW…I WANT TO UNDERSTAND MY DOWNFALL, AS I AM A SINGLE MUM NOT INTERESTED IN MEN BUT BOTH OF MY X-FRIENDS STILL COMUNICATING EVEN THORUGH THEY ARE IN A NEW LIFE WITH ANOTER WOMAN…WHY?
Hello Martha and thank you for your question.
The good news is that you’ve found a few men who appear to be ready for a commitment to a woman. Unfortunately it wasn’t to yo, but that doesn’t mean it was meant to be or they were right for you anyways.
I hear your concerns but we’d have to backtrack and do some research into your interactions, communications, and overall history of how you live your life in order to get to the root of your issues so they can be solved. Something which can not and will not be covered in a comment.
What I can offer you is general quick advice to get you started or at least headed in the right direction.
Typically – Men are looking for certain traits, compatibility, (and sometimes lifestyle habits) from a woman before he will put her in the “relationship ready” category. They need to feel a certain way before they’re willing to move forward. If all those don’t work and come together, you’ll be left on hold or left entirely as he waits for the signs or sticks around for other reasons.
This tells me those things are not happening for you, you’re not communicating the right way which brings men emotionally closer, and/or you’re not showing them a future they feel comfortable going to.
As I said, too much to cover and too little information to go on.
I’ll pass along some light reading you must commit to which will help you better see your bigger picture. Relate what you read to your life. I’m positive you’ll begin to piece it altogether and find the exact answers and the path you NOW need to take. They are all located here at Why Do Guys.
The Secret To Building Forward Momentum In Your Romantic Relationship
When He’s Not Ready For A Relationship, This Is How You Get Him To Commit
How To Make Him Feel Safe By Overcoming Your Fears & Being Secure
10 Reasons Why Men Won’t Commit and What To Do About It
These 7 Habits Will Show You How To Keep Him Interested In You Forever
Wishing you all the best.
I am sixteen and am having a tough time
Understand why my boyfriend constantly get mad over the stupidest things. He is 19, so I expect him to be a little more mature then me and not be so petty about thing that don’t really matter. I care about him and just interest in knowing why he thinks the way he thinks. I don’t want to live my life frustrated or Arguing all the time about dum things, like my mom and dad do. I know they love each other but their arguments, most of the time are caused by Miscommunication and reading each other totally wrong. I say all that to ask you if this would be beneficial to me at this age.
Thanks you for your time.
Hello Maria,
I’m slightly conversation but definitely more realistic when it comes to a 19 year old dating a 16 year old. So keep that in mind. I don’t recommend it but understand how it happens easily and so often.
With that said…
Men typically mature slower than women. He’s at an age where lots of men get all messed up on the little things. He may or may not entirely grow out of it. His journey is beyond your control.
Both you and him are at a time where you’re just learning communicating on a relationship/sexual level so EXPECT to happen. USE it to learn. Help yourself learn and hopefully he’ll want and desire to come along with you for the ride.
I DO believe my understanding men made simple free ebook below can enlighten you in many of the ways of man. You can add the paid “men go silent” if you’d like, but that’s because I’m a believer of KNOWLEDGE. You’re NEVER to young to start and continue to learn a skill that’s essential to life happiness, right?
Just don’t spend money you don’t have… please.
Now… honestly, Although it may help you to open lines of communication with him and you’ll definitely understand him and all men better – There’s not much “how to” information included. I’m either still working on it or leaving it to the 25+ years experts I often endorse. Keep all that in mind before you decide.
Chances are, you’re both really not ready for a relationship just yet because you’re both still learning about yourself but things will change… there’s a promise. However the direction is unknown.
My best advice:
Make a rule or line for yourself and stick to it.
If it’s not working, driving you cray, messing up with your life, holding you back from growing, a constant thing you wish would just go away or stop, then END it nicely BEFORE it’s too late. Trust you may even be able to come back at a later time. So that’s all good.
When the weight becomes overbearing, it’s time to take it off your back so you can be better equipped to function in the many other parts of life we need to enjoy and get right; to assure a better today and tomorrow.
Thanks Maria and all the best to you.
Your guy friend,
Pete
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Hello, Peter!
Thank you for the information you share with all of us. It’s helpful and it can ease your mind when you’re confused.
You’re welcome Mira. Glad to hear it’s helping you out.
And thank you for stopping. Keep coming and I’ll keep writing.
Is there a way I can send you a personal message because I would like to share something with you and ask for an advice/opinion?
Thank you in advance!
My email is given on every newsletter I send, I just can not guarantee a response because I get too many letters.
Thank you so much for sharing all your experiences and giving a way to know men. It is so much helpful.
You’re welcome and thank you for sharing and letting me know. I truly appreciate it. Happy to hear it’s all been helpful to you.
cant wait to read your ebook.
Thank you Susan – hope it’s everything I wanted it to be for you.
Thank you
Thank you Julie – I see everything went okay with your purchase and sincerely hope it has helped you and given you what you expected and more.
Pete
Cheers. Thank you
You’re welcome… enjoy!
I’m intrigued and you have made a few valid points so, I’ll see…
Sounds good, let me know what you think.