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Why Some Women Have Many Admirers and Why Guys Fall For Them So Easily

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Some women have what is known as sex appeal. The way they look,  how they walk, the way they sometimes flirt... it's never one thing which gets her the attention. It's a little of everything.

Now there are women who "pretend" to like every guy they meet. I don't think it's (mostly) done on purpose. These women will tend to get a little more attention than the women who makes every guy work for something even if he doesn't want it.

They are typically better than average in the looks department but they don't have to be amazingly beautiful. In fact if they're too "hot" they could easily scare enough guys away to just "leering in the background" rather than becoming a real admirer.

These women also connect with each guy very personally making it easy for him to fall for her.

They are great readers of what a guy is looking for and they (knowingly or not) play into each one making him feel special or different in a good way.

They tend to ask a lot of personal questions about him and appear genuinely interested. Rarely do they talk non-stop about themselves although I'm sure they will answer his questions if he's so inclined to ask.

Most "real guys" prefer a challenge, right?. They desire a woman who makes him work for her a little. He'd rather work his ass off getting one special woman than settle for a few women who are "too easy" for him to get. ( Up to and including sex.)

We all might assume then these women (with so many admirers) are not being a challenge because they're giving so many guys that special attention I mentioned above but there's a difference between being "easy to talk to or get along with" and being anywhere from an easy lay to a quick girlfriend kind of woman.

This means men fall for these women very easily because of a few important reasons:

  • They connect with him very personally.
  • They seem to get him or understand him.
  • They make him feel special or unique.
  • They listen just as much as they talk.
  • They ask personal questions but never push for an answer.
  • They don't assume he has a stereotype.

(And I'm sure there's much more...)

These men also fall very easily for these women because they DO represent a challenge beyond just being social:

  • They flaunt their sexuality very carefully. Sometimes making it appear to him that she only does that for him.
  • Their walk is carefree yet determined. Sexual but not with the sole purpose of just turning a guy on.
  • They challenge him mentally but they have a goal. They have a direction which is not necessarily centered around men.
  • They in no way "act" hard to get. They accept certain guidelines in their lives and accept only the men who are NOT interested in only proving to them they above her guidelines.

I think the important thing to remember from all of this is that these women connect with guys on a personal level which makes them feel special.

Once that happens they challenge him in ways which go beyond the pursuit of her. They then challenge him to be better. It's never enough to get guys to chase or admire you. You have to energize his self-improvement trigger.

All of what I've brought up today will eventually lead to an obvious list of what is more commonly known as "Male Attraction Triggers" and boy do we have a ton of them.  Some create instant attraction. Some create a longer desire to love and want to commit. Some will only have him begging for sex and nothing more.

With the right blend I do feel ANY woman can grow her list of admirers very easily.

When you add strength, a modest self-esteem, and the confidence to back up the value you truly believe in yourself you'll eventually find so many admirers you're left with a new set of unique problems.

Like making the right choice and of course better time management skills. 🙂 Which I've found are much easier issues to deal with after.

Before I leave this all open for discussion let me clear up something:

Yes - sex appeal is VERY important. Triggering his initial attraction is how it usually starts.

But there's another stage of a man's attraction which is important if you want admirers (or guys chasing you I suppose 🙂 ) and you'll find the glimpse of how it's done above.

That is where you'll find guys stick around longer, seek you out, open up easier, and want more than just a warm body to get close to.

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  • Joy

    Wow! I’ve been trying to figure out why it is that practically every guy I talk to ends up chasing after me, even after I make it clear that I’m not looking for a relationship. At any given time I have 2-6 guys showing interest (that I know of) and after reading this, I realized that I do adapt to each person unconsciously in order to relate on a personal level. I can be quiet and philosophical, I can be nerdy, I can be outdoorsy, or I can be really funny. This makes a whole lot more sense. My question is, how do I make it stop? Or at least go down to 1-2 not 2-6?

    • Peter White

      Hey Joy.

      This is what I see and how guys respond: You’re not looking for a relationship? What’s your number? Are you busy tomorrow? 😉

      So I’d be careful about telling guys who are interested in you that type of information.

      Obviously I can’t ask you to dress down, look worse, or to stop being so awesome to guys. Meaning guys love nerdy quiet girls who can be outdoorsy and who have a real sense of humor. I also can’t ask you to stop adapting to people or seeing their point of view because I’m positive you’ll miss it and find life boring afterwards AND will probably end up with a guy you don’t get.

      This leaves us with the first part – not looking for a relationship. Guys tend to flock to women like this. They see less drama, easier casual sex, no strings attached, and even a potential “FWB”. They’ll be more likely to chase you knowing that information. I just wouldn’t go that route when you’re trying to repel certain guys. Perhaps you could try the opposite with them.

      There are also a few not-so-nice ways to get some of them off your back. Talk more about other guys you might be seeing. Talk more about what you want from a guy and what type of guys really turn you on. Either one tends to push the no-so confident men away. Talk about how picky you are with guys and how you tend to go for the bad boys. Troubled as it sounds, guys hate that and tend to despise women for it.

      Overall – you’re looking for a natural long-term love with a guy who is everything you’ve ever wanted. 🙂

      I don’t think you can make it all stop and since you’re not looking for them all to stop – just again – weed out the guys who are not willing to go the extra mile with you. Let them down by making yourself a huge challenge. Someone they couldn’t possibly have. Men are competitive in sports and such with other guys but they absolutely hate competing with other guys over a woman. Especially over one who appears she can have any guy at any time.

      In the worst scenario you can do what my ex-girlfriend used to do – wear a wedding band and show it off casually. 🙂

      Let me know how it goes for you and don’t forget to leave your number. Hahaha!!!

      All the best Joy,


      • Crystal


        You’re great!!
        I really like this and all of your comments!!!
        Thank you ❤

        • Peter White

          Thank you Crystal. 🙂

  • Sarah

    What if you are a happily married woman who is unwillingly attracting other married men or guys who are friends of your husband? The ring isn’t working. The kids aren’t working. I don’t want to be a bitch. I’m a friendly, caring, empathetic person who values male and female friendships and points of view. I don’t want to change who I am, and I really resent the fact that platonic relationships seem so difficult 🙁

    • Peter White


      Attracting men accidentally or unwillingly is going to happen. I wouldn’t let it get to you. Remain faithful and in control and understand it does take two to cheat. So if you’re not straying or cheating on your husband, then attracting men is just something that happens.

      My advice in these situations is always to be upfront and honest with your partner. Bring it up to him when it’s appropriate. His opinion of feelings on this subject is important. He can also help you work through it so you’re not letting it all build up inside you. You’d be surprised how open and honest communication (around the time it is happening) can actually help both of you grow and become a stronger couple.

      Work WITH him because remember, these situations affect both of you and your children too. There’s no reason why you should leave it to yourself to figure out a solution.

      One more thing, start searching for other happily married couples to do things with. Befriend those types of people to relieve yourself from being hit on all the time. Couples do better with other couples for this reason and more. Seek them out. Tell your husband what you’re doing and how you want him to do it too.

      Never be afraid to “unfriend” men or single men in your life who just don’t get that you’re a married woman. You are NOT being a bitch. You’re being a faithful wife who respects and loves her family. A bitch would flaunt her boobs and body around single men knowingly, leads them on, flirts with them, an then when they get all hot for her – pulls away smugly claiming, “Hey I’m married. Hands off.” That’s a real bitch. 🙂

      I think you can see the difference. 🙂

      Best to you,

  • Vanessa

    So not entirely sure where this question fits, but should a woman date a guy she doesn’t find physically attractive? I know you say men shouldn’t date women they don’t fid attractive but does that work both ways? And can the guy tell you’d really like to friendzone them?

  • julie

    help! i have been chased by so many boys and i am a kid. and one of my friends were even crazy in love with me!

  • rashida begum

    Amazing article and comments… wow…opened up my eyes.. thankyou so much. xxx

  • Tierrah Valverde

    I feel like maybe being someone easy for a man to fall I love with can be a bad thing at time how do you change things so that not every guy u talk to (relationship and friend wise) falls in love with you but without changing your self as in lose your true self in the process

    • Peter White

      Why would you change yourself for others? Why would you risk losing your identity for it? There are always better ways to get something done without having to resort to changing yourself IF you truly feel you’re a good person and you only want to change something about yourself FOR yourself and not for the sake of others.

      The ONE piece of advice I can give you (okay two pieces now that I’m thinking about it:

      1. Get yourself in a position to immediately help other women who struggle getting guys to love them. If you have a natural gift, share it with others. It will help you and them at the same time.

      2. Set aside more alone time for yourself. Not a lot. But just enough to gather your thoughts. You’ll spend a little less time around others, you’ll feel better, and you’ll not find yourself as often in a position where those friends or whomever will fall for you. I’m not saying to isolate yourself. Don’t go all dark on the world. Just give a little more YOU time. Write a book. Meditate. Play a game on your phone. Clean the house more unless you already do that enough. Don’t feel you ever have to be everywhere for everyone.

      All the best,

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