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Why Do Guys Seem Mean To Girls For No Reason? Why He Is Teasing You

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Guys enjoy teasing women when there’s a hint of flirting involved in it.

Hello Kadiatou,

There are actually many reasons why guys can be a little mean to girls.

Let’s assume we’re talking about younger guys so as they get older you might notice they can get a little nicer but it’s not always the case. A debatable percentage of men never grow up with regards to how they communicate or commit to women.

It’s called teasing.

“He’s out to stir your emotions not unlike the good “ribbing” he may give his friends. Except he’s doing it a little differently with you. At least I hope he is. 🙂 Mostly he’s looking to have some fun with you.”

Why Do Men Continue to Do Something When They Know it Bothers You.

Sometimes it’s the ONLY way they know how to flirt.

If it’s not obvious that the guy is being a rude prick then you can guess he is attracted to you.

Why it happens and where it begins is a little more complicated.

My “manly” gut tells me it’s about using the old stupid trick against what some might call a woman’s greatest weaknesses with men…

Wanting what they (think) they can’t have AND having a perceived low self-esteem.

Teasing her negatively (or being mean) might be his way of lowering your self-esteem below his and by doing so, also makes him seem more attractive and less attainable.

If you find a guy “hard to get” or believe he would never be attracted to you, it has a strange effect of driving up your attraction for him.

Another effect of being somewhat mean to women is definitely being taught to lots of guys in every attraction book written.

It triggers an emotional response which for bad, better, or worse, definitely triggers attraction of some sort.

If he can’t make you feel something “nice” for him, why not make you feel something bad for him…. right?

Encouraging your anger, confusion, or self-doubt will tend to bring you closer to feeling attracted to him than a guy just being way too nice and kissing your ass all the time.

Lastly, if there ever was a lastly when we’re talking about us guys, it’s a very strange and weird way of a dude displaying indifferent confidence.

“When there’s no real challenge to prove we are, attraction fails. Why you like those who don’t want you and not like the guys who do want you.”

Why The Guys You Like Don’t Want You But You Don’t Want The Ones Who Do.

What guy who doesn’t have the balls would dare tease a woman or be slightly mean or rude to her, right?

So, in a way he’s displaying indifference because he showing you he doesn’t care how you see him or what you think of him.

He’s displaying confidence by not being afraid to say or do what’s on his mind.

All too nice guys struggle with this and it’s a big reason why they don’t attract lots of women.

They’re niceness is not trusted or believed or seems real when they’re so deathly afraid of saying what’s on their mind… around a woman that is. At home or with their buddies, the truth ALWAYS comes out.

Guys are mostly ONLY mean to girls they’re attracted to whether or not they care to admit their feelings.

Let’s not rule out the pricks who just get off on making others feel like shit by boosting their own ego, so it’s not always attraction.

However, generally speaking, a crush is usually involved.

Sometimes you’ll have to decide whether or not the guy has a severe character flaw or is just teasing you by being mean.

The easiest way to tell is, if he’s “trying” to laugh with you then he is “teasing” you!

Over all, in case you’re wondering…

YES! Some guys DO enjoy teasing a woman while being a little rude to her IF there’s a raised level of flirting because of it.

Flirting is a mostly human connection on a level which transcends society, age, and circumstance. Why Do Men (and women) Flirt? Does it Have Anything To Do With Love?

About the author: Honest, upfront, and an ability to see past the hidden layers is my intended style at why do guys. My goal is to un-complicate men and steer you away from the guys who will only hurt you. My hope is that you learn something, anything, and my writing style is at least a little easy to understand… Thank you, Peter White

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    60 comments… add one
    • DEZ

      I think the way a guy relates to a girl, or anyone is directly related to his sense of self worth… I’ve never met a man who knew how to love himself never mind me.

    • Liliana

      I don’t know how old this is, but I’ll ask anyway. I’m a high school student and the boy who sits next to me always messes with me. He insults me, sneaks up on me and scares me, and he makes me feel bad about myself. I don’t understand why he’s doing it. And honestly, he’s scaring me.

      • Charlie

        Ok,a lot of people always say that the “mean-scary” guy is attracted to you but it does not always mean he loves you!Guys who do these mean things to girlsdo the exact opposite to love .Don’t always trust this advise…

    • Sarah

      I have a crush on this guy
      He asked me out on a date
      And he’s very confusing
      Sometimes he’s all lovey dovey and then again he’s being rude and sometimes won’t reply to my texts and when he does he’ll be like “yes ” or “no”
      Does he like me or not?

    • Anna

      It’s weird because I see these explanations everywhere but there’s nothing sexier than a man who knows how to treat a woman with respect and kindness.
      If a man teases me, I get hurt and think he’s insecure about his…manliness.
      I want a man who can protect me not a man I need to be protected from.

      Surely, I am not the only woman who find teasing (or as it often is: bullying) the biggest turnoff of all time?

      • Peter White

        You’re absolutely right Anna. There are several kinds of teasing but whenever it even comes close to “Bullying” it’s not attractive at all.

    • Jerissa

      This guy and I had a thing for eachother and now hes being mean. Something happened between us and now he’s cutting me off completely. It hurts because I love him

    • kayle

      Hi Peter I’m Kyle and it was nice to find someone who could talk about the deeper nature in men and their hidden “layers” and I just wanted to ask something, “What is the difference between a guy who is outright Bullying you versus a guy who is playing a mean asshole just to see if you react they way he wants you to because he likes you and is or attracted to you”?by bullying I mean hes doing it out of insecurity inferiority

      • Peter White

        Thank you and Hello,

        Honestly, I don’t see any difference between a guy who is bullying you and a guy who is playing a mean asshole. “Play fight flirting” is one thing but when a guy crosses the line to mean asshole, (whether he’s doing it just because he likes you and is trying to get a response from you or not) then we might as well call it bullying.

        When you think about it, both are coming from a lack of security and therefore both essentially mean the same thing.


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