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What Type Of Guy Hates Being Ignored and Why?

Man Blank Stare Hate Being Ignored

I'm going to start with this some words about men I normally don't like to say: ONLY insecure - approval seeking guys - who feel forgotten or succumb to believe they're helpless to change their stay or status in life absolutely HATE being ignored.

You'll find the entire list of character traits listed below on the types of men who doesn't respond well to being ignored.

The rest will either see it for what it is: a passive aggressive game to illicit a certain response OR they won't even know they're being ignored or care negating the game entirely.

So why do THOSE  other guys hate being ignored?

A lack of attention when they desperately need it. Give them a little and take it away and you can literally watch them squirm as they plan their next move to stop it.

Insecurity - no one likes to feel insecure and tell if I'm wrong, but feeling jealous is not the most fun feeling in the world. Show another guy more attention and start ignoring the first guy and you'll quickly see his anger grow.  He'll desperately try to hold it back but eventually it will send him over the top and he'll do some crazy stuff to assure he's HEARD once and for all.

Immaturity - Most mature stable adult men can handle being ignored and will often not let it affect them too much. They respond one way or another to it but rarely is it with anger or desperation.

The more mature man deals with being ignored and can see it quite differently. He may simply see it as you wanting space or just living your life independently. You not paying attention to him is rarely taken personal at all.

The immature guy - even one who appears mature might be sent over the edge when a woman he loves, is into, or anyone begins to ignore him IF he has hidden issues with not being seen or heard or paid attention to at a time he needs it the most.

The truly immature guy is triggered to ACT OUT when he's being ignored because he's, well immature and hasn't learned how to deal with his emotions in a more adult manner.

An overly self-conscious man will also not handle being ignored in a positive way but his reaction can be much different - You see, for him everything is taken personal as if it pertains to him. When something happens, lots of things beyond being ignored, he believes HE is the cause.

The too self-conscious man tends to think a little too much and connects things in his brain which (most of the time) should NOT be connected AND he typically finds fault within himself as to why it happened.

Take this situation for example: You're seeing a self-conscious man and you said you were going to text him at a certain time but you got busy, the time passed by, and you missed the sending the message.

In HIS world he will first dismiss it but then as time goes by he begins to overthink and over-analyze the situation. He starts to wonder. Did he do something wrong? Was it something he said? Do you still like him? Worse yet, if he's also a little immature and insecure he can find himself thinking there MUST be another man - that's WHY you didn't text him.

Depending on the rest of his traits he'll either act out on it through jealousy,  anger or both OR withdraw and become overly quiet when you get back to him. You could even truthfully explain why you didn't contact him but deep in his mind - the connection is already there and he's less likely to be it to be true.

His silence will get worse as he continues to internalize the events that took place until it ALL comes out either in a very strange way or further withdrawing in a highly passive aggressive nature.

I understand this can be a very confusing often complex problem so I'll break down the traits of a guy who DOES hate being ignored:

  • Insecure.
  • Little belief in himself.
  • Low self-esteem.
  • Overly self-conscious.
  • Over thinker.
  • Analyzes things too much.
  • Connects external events that may or may not be connected to him personally.
  • Attention seeker.
  • Passive aggressive by nature.
  • Takes things or life and what happens to him way too personal.
  • The jealous type.
  • Immature or hasn't fully grasped how to handle his stronger emotions.
  • Feels somewhat helpless to make positive changes in his life.
  • Unsure or convinced on how someone feels about him.
  • Feels like he has little or no control over his life.

I'm sure there's more but that's enough for now.

You can now clearly see there's a distinct pattern of a guy who will absolutely HATE being ignored.

You can also see how in the so-called games of "dating" and "relationships" the IGNORE card is often used because it can illicit a response that PROVES something very important to a man or woman.

It's typically used as a means to measure a man's interest of feelings towards a woman.

In other words - ignore a man and if he acts out or even withdraws further it could mean he cares because as stated in another post... Ignoring someone who couldn't care less does NOTHING. (Here's the link to it when you want to read it: Will It Drive Him Crazy If You Ignore Him? The Problem of Ignoring Men.)

Making this GAME an often used one for quick results.

It's also (although terrible) way of determining a man's character IF and when it's done purposely or not.

In an ideal world you should NEVER have to resort to ignoring a man just to determine a man's character but it does happen and will continue to happen despite it being a game.

Normally it's accidental. One does not INTEND to ignore someone else. Circumstance and situation often plays the major role here.

My obvious advisement is against all game playing even if it's effective because they often lead to something far worse.

There are much more beneficial and ATTRACTIVE ways to determine a man's character quickly.

You should not NEVER have  to ignore a guy and a guy should not have to ignore you purposely to get a reaction, see if interest is there or not, or figure out someone's character with this test.

Here's the biggest reason why:

What if you DO ignore a guy who is far from what is listed above ONLY to find out he's a mature and secure man who isn't reacting in a way which either determines like, interest, or love OR shows any sign that he even noticed?

You will - without a doubt - push him away and he will NEVER come back.

Mature men HATE game playing of any sort just as much as you do and once found out... it's GAME OVER.

While I'm (very slowly because I have too many projects on my agenda now) working on releasing a short book to determine a man's interest or his intentions with you - you might want some quick answers to STOP you from using the IGNORE game to figure a guy out...

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PLUS you'll be able to tell rather quickly if he's playing or ignoring you because of some tricks he hiding up his sleeve.

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28 comments… add one
  • Rami Abou Hamdan

    When a woman Ignores you , you have to ignore her back and you shall not care at all about her anymore because most of the women whom ignores their loved ones are trying to leave you . Therefore , ignore her in same way and never get angry . If she stops that habit , then start to care as much as she cares .
    However , if you have proved that there another guy in her life , she is not worth your love at all because she is so low and cheap .

  • Bamidele

    Hi peter
    Am in a relationship with a guy just going to a month ,but I find it difficult to trust him, (not bcus av bin deceived all my lyf, cus pple of such find it hard 2 blif a guy)although he do assure me of his love aand stuffs lyk dt bt i stil av a mixed feeling abt him bt tinkx abt it he’s not really my type of guy cus am dz kind of introverted person nd atimes i feel maybe he he just passx time with me cus he already told me he can’t marry a xristian 4 a wife, he a muslim, i d opp…even weneva we chat or he calls me d conversation is usually very boring and somtims cold bt still he tells me stuffs lyk u’re d best version of lady av eva met… is it dt he just want to get even with me or wt and atimes i feel lyk he has a muslim lady smwhr he love something lyk dt…. i do stress him out atimes and also do ignore him cus i blif if truely he’s into me he’ll lean 4ward wen i pull bk bt it’s lyk am still nt gettx it. of course i do want to operate with him on a deeper level bt i don’t want 2 chase him… nid sm clarificatns… hope to hear from u soon, thanks

  • bella

    Hi 🙂 peter
    What does it mean when an old guy best friend who used to be really close to me and caring ,out of nowhere starts acting cold and pretends he doesnt care ? Like he sometimes gives me his full attention and then out of the blue completely ignores me :/ and he used to tell me a lot of sweet things now our conversations are three words long 🙁 ….

    • Hi Bella,

      My guy instinct tells me he was in love with you and is now retreated because he doens’t like the friends zone. It depresses him and makes him feel worse just being around you.

      That’s my gut and from my heart because I’ve done it to a few old women friends myself… back in the day. 🙂

      Hopefully my guy is right on this one 🙂


  • ediri esiekpe

    There’s this particular guy I’ve been getting to know for a while. We always joke smile and tease one another. I find him staring at me when i look back as well. But one day i wasn’t just myself, i was emotionless and angry . The guy attempted to say i to me and i ignored him. Now i feel kinda bad and stuck and dont know what to do ?

    • Peter White

      Give him time to get over it in case he took it the wrong way or personal.

      The “right” guys know how to deal with the emotional ups and downs of others including women and do their best to not take it personal. Hopefully this guy is that person. If not, then it is HIS problem to deal with and not yours.

      The next time you see him, pretend nothing happened. Go right back to what was happening before. If he’s THAT confused, concerned, or interested, let him ask you what happened and feel free to let him know a little. Not too much. Just say you were, “Off your game that day 😉 ” and let it go.


  • Rhian

    I got an instinct he liked me, but he is in another class or section. After few years, we became classmates and I learned how to dress up, then he started to show his attention to me, like staring at me, trying to take my attention, locking an eye contact with me for several times, and would use our common friend to get a chance to have a chat with me which he could not dare with just only us talking. So I did showed him positive signs that I allowed him doing those things, but suddenly for some reasons I thought it ought to be stopped. i stated ignoring him and avoiding him in a nice way. He started to react with a questioning facial reaction with my gestures. I did made it obvious to him I was avoiding his stare, I dont wanna have eye to eye contact with him, nor have a fun conversation. He did not stopped, not until, I planned a scheme, I pretended I was chatting with someone, having fun, and I let him take a peak of it just so he will believe My scheme. it did worked I saw his eyeballs staring at the ipad. That moment immediately he never turned a glance on me which normally he does. He started ignoring and really avoiding me. He never made an eye contact with me,nor tried to look my way. Which I believe my plan worked so well, he did not know, I was chatting with my female best friend which I took the chance to make him believe it was a man. I do not know why I am… I do not know why I care when I planned it all, I dont know why does it matter to me, to e en wonder or ask, why, for what reason or reasons and purpose did he started to avoid me and ignored me? Will he forget me forever? And what should I do? Whyyyy? Thanks

  • Jared

    Only secure guys don’t like being ignored? Ok. Try texting or calling a guy you like. If he doesn’t get back to you in a week, how does that make you feel? Do you not like it? Is it just because you’re insecure?

    The truth is, if you ignore a secure guy he probably won’t go out of his way to talk to you again because he has already moved on. Why would he waste his time? He’s a secure guy with options

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