Eye contact can mean everything to guys.
It’s the prelude to a few things:
Courtship. Yep, the classic mating sequence we all share. 😉
Actually there is no “OR” –
It’s either fight:
Or it’s flee:
Hide in shame. Hide the fact we were checking you out. Whimper away and hope to do it again. Are we really that intimidated by your beauty? Perhaps sometimes, yes.
Let’s not get too technical.
I’d rather just give you some dirt.
The “weakness?” of men. 🙂
When it comes to “types of women” most average healthy men have one type which really does it for them. Since our first stage of attraction is by sight, this type stands out and we’re more likely to be making eye contact with her.
For me, it’s ALWAYS been younger blue-eyed blondes. Yeah I know, typical right? Haha! But that is just a type and if you really want to know what type of women turns me on, read something I wrote explaining my “infatuation” with beautiful women – What Does It Really Mean To Only Want To Date Beautiful Women?.
Anyways, here’s a recent “experience” I’ve been through which will reveal what this “eye contact” thing means to guys.
Let me tell you this one woman was amazing!
We made eye contact with her but kept my distance. She was busy, so was I. And no I did NOT look away first.
I looked again but this time I was drawn to her entire body. My aim was to avoid getting caught and making her feel awkward.
Yep, it’s why us guys do that sort of thing and to selflessly divulge our sexual drive associated with sight.
Later on, when the moment came, I so classically and confidently introduced myself. I can be quite smooth. 😉
I reached out my hand put it a foot from her heart, where it belongs, and she understood.
She put out her hand and we shook as we exchanged our names and how wonderful it was to meet each other.
Great story. Right? Hahaha!!!
That was it.
It wasn’t a “meet cute”. It wasn’t a prelude to a passionate night. We did not exchange contact information or even saliva.
I walked away rather slowly and continued to “do my thing”.
The secret of all this is what I was doing…
Planting a seed. ( As some have called it. )
She saw some guy. She might have felt I was checking her out. She might be thinking I’m attracted to her. She felt my presence though, I made sure that happened.
Before things got too distant and strange I made sure we met. That’s all.
She met some guy who wasn’t afraid of her beauty. A guy who wasn’t interested in seeing how quick I could sleep with her.
A guy who was confident enough to:
Make Eye contact – Fight. Yes. I approached her to open up something later.
It’s what some of us do.
It also reveals the types of men you’re going to deal with on an everyday basis.
Some flee. Cower. Run. Avoid. Procrastinate. Some fight. Chest up or whatever. Get right to the point.
Take a closer look at what I wrote you and you’ll see something very interesting.
Notice the timing.
When we were busy or she was distracted, yes I DID manage to divulge myself a little, BUT I held back from approaching her.
So what would have happened if I never got the moment to alleviate the tension eye contact can create for a couple days?
She could have easily been misled into believing or thinking – WHY? Why is he staring at ME?
It shows us how easily you can mistake something when you take it out of context.
It also tells us there’s absolutely no way of telling what type of guy you’re dealing because of circumstance. If I didn’t get the moment to approach her I could have come off as some slimy stalker, pathetic fool, or just another guy gawking at her body. Let’s face it, she had to know at some level how “hot” she was.
Okay in a way I was, “gawking” but I have no reservations about my sexual appetite. 😉 I mean she was pretty hot and I’m positive women even do the same thing – except they add, “She’s so beautiful!”
This is how us guys think.
When it comes to eye contact, if the moment doesn’t arrive, we tend to resort to the “worst possible outcome” making it much more difficult to once again, begin the courtship process.
I would say most of the time we WANT to “plant a seed” and sometimes we do, but because of circumstance, personal inhibitions, luck, and more… the seed doesn’t get watered or firmly planted.
We’re left with a staring contest… and forever unsure.
Eye contact can mean everything because of what happens after and not necessarily why it happens between a sexually aware man or woman.