This may be a far-stretched assumption on my part – but I’m guessing you want to understand men better…
Well to do that you might want to get a secret glimpse into how some of just happen to show others guys – your secrets. 😀
Here is how it all started for me.
Women were “always” and only ever my friend.
I was the guy they complained to about the “real” guys they were attracted who unfortunately more often than not, were not always what I would call – pleasant.
And let me tell you I was “nice guy” extraordinaire.
If I was attracted to you AND I could put myself in position to be around you, you could get me to do anything for you.
I was the guy who wrote poems, love songs, and dreamed about you every night in a romantic way. I imagined sweeping you off your feet and you coming to me “finally” realizing I was the perfect
guy for you.
I was living in a fantasy world where I was just hoping, just maybe, someday I would find a woman (I actually wanted) who liked me for who I was, not what I looked like, or what I did.
I always fell for the one woman who would never have me AND I was extremely good at becoming her friend. It was like all I had to do was get close to her, talk to her, and I quickly became the guy she confided everything to.
You see I learned this about me and women – since I posed no physical threat and she never found herself attracted to me, women were open to telling me everything and anything about ALL her male experiences.
Which brings up a huge problem because this is what way too many men believe:
“She’s opening up to me therefore she must like me.”
So as we’re teaching guys we must help them to understand that just because you’ve made a connection with her, does NOT mean she is attracted to you.
That simple quote above is key to understanding men and how to attract more of them:
- How and why men are afraid of their attractive urges.
- How and why men see connections differently from you.
We’ll get into those soon, be patient. and open ALL your emails.
This one’s about me. 🙂
One fateful day I fell for a woman who tried to help me. She made me do things like cut my hair, change my appearance, leave the house, experience life… I know… shame on her right? Haha!
Of course I convinced myself I could “make” her love me even though when I first professed my “love” for her she used every excuse she could find to “let me down easily.”
As you may have guessed, one evening I professed my love for her and she told me,
“You need to get out more often. Your standards are too high.”
Hey I never said SHE was the brightest person in the world. 🙂
Anyways we actually moved in with each other…. as friends. She ended up hooking up with a pretty bad dude.
It was a huge mess.
She lavished me with gifts and cool prizes.
I bathed her in support, comfort, and a stable place to keep her stuff.
Except she was rebelling against her strict parents and running from her home, and I would’ve traded any gift just to be inside her.
I just wanted a chance. I thought we belonged together.
You see, there is a large group of men, more than you and I might believe, who actually believe…
When you reject a guy – you’re choosing not to feel something.
Now I know sometimes you’re choosing to not get close or enter a relationship with a guy because he has too many issues, but you don’t choose how you feel.
It just happens.
Unfortunately, all of these guys believing you’re choosing not to like them intimately means even the smallest rejections are taken very personally.
It also means instead of focusing on chemistry, excitement, and pure attraction, they spend most of their time trying to get you to like them.
They do it by giving you gifts. Offering favors. Being overly nice. Supporting your cause. And so on…
Which is great when it’s coming from a guy you’re feeling something for but when it comes from a guy you’re not, he only makes another great friend.
Which is where I would “swoop in” and become your best friend ever.
And I was a guy so you didn’t have to deal with “her” drama.
Guy friends are easier, right? 😀
Okay so what can you take away today from all this…
Well, when you meet a guy who has no choices, he’ll believe you’re making a choice to not feel attracted to him.
He’ll hide from his attractive urges because he’s afraid they’ll hurt his chances with you.
He may believe a way to your heart is to not be a “physical threat” which means no touching, hugging, being flirty, or anything which may have you seeing him – as just another guy looking to get in your pants or under your skirt.
He will make a connection with you on a deeper level believing that will help you to choose your attraction towards him.
You see, the men who originally helped me to understand you better are not fools.
When they began to base their material on tackling these issues their sales skyrocketed and created a whole new business.
And none of that could’ve happened unless there were in fact, lots of little younger Pete’s running around.
I know, as scary as it sounds, it’s true. 😀
Let’s see where all this takes us so don’t forget to open your next email,
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