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Do Men Like To Know You Miss Them?

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Oh yes they do like to know they are missed by you IF and ONLY IF there is already something going on.

Telling or showing a guy you miss him will rarely ever bring him closer to you unless he has no idea about HOW you feel about him.

The advice today is to not use the “I miss you.” words unless you’re sure about how he feels. You might be able to use it to get a reaction from him – as in an attempt to see if he cares about you but there are better ways to do that so be careful with doing that.

A Man wants to know without a doubt, that special woman in their life is thinking about him.  He wants to know you’re a part of his life.

Nothing makes a man more happy than knowing he’s missed physically, mentally, or emotionally.

Okay… before you send him lots of texts or phone calls you must understand something about men.

ACTIONS speak louder than words when it comes to communicating to him how you feel IF he’s to get it.

You can tell a guy until you’re blue in the face about how bad you miss him and he’ll hear it – mostly – BUT it won’t have the same impact as showing him.

Men have a part inside them which needs to be fully connected to the woman he is in love with and to satisfy the sincerity of that connection, must experience an action related to it.

If you don’t back it up, he won’t “feel” the deeper more important connection.

After all – think about it – anyone can say anything to you but how do you know it’s even close to being real – PROOF. Proof in these cases often requires ACTION.

I was committed to a girl once who lived several hours away. She struggled with revealing her feeling through words which is fine for a guy.

One day she had me spray a stuffed animal, well actually drown that little doggy in my cologne so she could smell me anytime she wanted.

It was more than just a cute romantic gesture but an ACTION which gave me no doubt she felt connected to me.

And how much she missed me.

She was showing me (beyond words) that when I wasn’t there she needed a reminder, something to make her smile, something she connected me with which left me with a proven impression that she missed me.

Sure – she could’ve left a text or a quick message or phone call to tell me – that’s nice too BUT her romantic mean so much more.

That’s your first lesson today about understanding men.

Your second lesson as it relates to missing a guy and letting him know…

If you say it all the time it loses its impact.

Just like the “love you” at the end of a phone call. It becomes habitual and loses its real meaning quickly if it’s done all the time.

So use it sparingly.

Say it once in a while when appropriate and throw in some ACTION to back it up.

That way he’ll really get it.

Which leads to the next point of all this…

Backing it up.

For that to happen you must make a real effort to see him and not leave it all up to him.

You don’t have to do it all the time. Maintain some balance.

But if you’re constantly telling him you miss him and you’re not doing anything REAL to close the gap (something within your power) he will eventually lose TRUST in your sincerity.

He might even stop believing that you actually do miss him. Which is something I know you don’t want to ever happen.

Men NEED to trust you more than you might have ever been led to believe  and that’s probably because most advice out there is about trusting the guy and not the woman.

It works both ways.

When a man opens up to you physically and emotionally they are trusting you with information and emotions which could effectively make him feel or be seen less than a man.

You have the power to emasculate him, tear down his ego, or “air out his dirty laundry” to the world.

He’s entrusting you with someone he holds dear.

This also means when you’re letting him know you miss him – you’re also reassuring him that his secrets are safe.

Which is certainly one of the many reasons why he need to hear, see, and believe you do in fact miss him when he’s gone.

The many reasons why he likes to know you miss him.

It’s a CLEAR sign of affection.

A direct acknowledgement that there has been an intimate bond formed between you and him.

An indication of your love.

It’s EVIDENCE or PROOF that no matter how far apart you find yourselves – you will always hold his secrets in with absolute trust.

He feels needed in some way. Of course this is not always a good thing but for today’s post – it’s okay.

Thanks for stopping by today and I do hope I’ve proved to you that the man in your life wants and needs to know you miss him when you’re apart.

Obviously the reasons you’re apart and time you can not see each other is beyond my scope – but I DO hope by reading this today you’re secure in the knowledge that men DO like to know you’re missing.

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If you’re looking for ways to get him to miss YOU – then these well-written articles will show you how to make that happen. I’ve posted them up at The Approach:

“If you’re in a relationship or just dating a guy, making him miss you and get excited to see you can be done easily. Get him back to you before he loses all his interest. The time spent away from each other can be useful. Info, dressing, holding, a life, positive. silence, finishing strong are 7 ways to make him miss you badly.”

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“A man needs to miss you but how do you get it to happen without playing games. Try these helpful things and see how much he wants to see you again. Give him space. Be more social. Invest in your life. Tease him. Have fun. Show him your adventurous side. Wear a sexy scent. Leave some mystery and be’ll sure to miss you.”

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  • Linda

    What does it mean, and I didn’t know what to say when my fiancé returned from an 8 month cruise on an aircraft carrier and told me “he missed me but not as much as he thought he would.” He had never said anything like that in his letters. I didn’t respond as, I didn’t know how to respond. I just wish I had some insight into it.

    • Peter White


      Chances are he didn’t mean that exactly. Sure there’s a possibility he was telling you that he’s thinking about ending your relationship but I doubt it.

      In his weird (manly) way, I believe he was trying to act strong. Granted he did it wrong but it was said and there’s nothing I can do about it. So, in this case – he might’ve been just trying to act all strong and courageous. He could’ve easily meant, “I missed you a lot but I did’t let it get to me. I was strong. I fought off the loneliness. I was brave and didn’t think about anyone else or anything like that.”

      You have to remember the mindset he puts himself being on a ship for that long. Men tend to shut off – go into a different mind frame to handle the “seclusion”. They (people) will tend to block things out to survive and by doing so – come back a little different and more importantly – come back with a little less ability to communicate. Just imagine the extreme and you were left on a deserted island by yourself for years and could not speak with anyone. Chances are, when you were found, your words and communication skills would have deprecated.

      Hopefully that’s all it was. Talk to him about. See if you can get that out of him and you’ll have your answer.

      Best of luck,

  • Diana Nicol

    I met a very good-looking man who was so courteous to me during a visit to Portobello, giving me his hand whenever I had to step up or down in the haphazard levels in the main road, which totally captivated me. So I fell in love with him. He came to live with me as a lodger and I was disappointed that he never came home till c. 2 a.m. Then he disappeared without a word. Worried, I contacted ‘Missing Persons’ police dept. They did not put us in touch, and said that he’d left a message for me. Not true. I looked through all the notes and papers he’d left behind and was shocked to find that he’d had HIV tests, so obviously was a homosexual. I did not tell him I knew this, and had a poignantly sad time. What could I say without making a fool of myself.
    His gallantry at Portobellow (sorry, spell correct, at least we get a laugh here) was surely meant to seduce. It worked. Reminded me of the recent TV film Rebecca, which ended with: “Rachel my torment.”
    That describes my situation perfectly. I must be an emotional masochist.

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