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What Does a Guy Mean When He Says He Is Thinking About You?

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When a guy can not get a girl out of his mind, it means he’s more than just considering some kind of future with her.

Let’s take a look at this from the opposite perspective because it makes the answer that much clearer.

As a guy, I never ever, ever call up a guy friend of mine or text him, or for that fact even dare mention to him,

“I was thinking about you and just decided to tell you.”

With that said – When he says he is thinking about you – it means he wants to see you again…  among other things.

Like how something reminded me of you and I thought if I tell you, it’ll be a romantic gesture. It will show you I’m definitely interested.

For some guys they’re “fishing” for a certain response which would reveal how you feel.

If you answer “Awww that’s sweet.” we probably see it (unless we’re already intimate)  as being just a friend.

If you answer back with a clever flirt we assume you’re interested in being more than just a friend.

No matter how you look at this question when a guy says he is thinking about you it means he’s interested in something deeper. Of course how deep depends almost entirely on the situation.

It’s our little way of testing you, or getting you to reveal how much you miss us or would like to see again.

As a guy, under normal “dating” circumstances I don’t think about women I don’t want in some way. Maybe it’s a relationship. Maybe it’s to see you again. Maybe it’s just to pleasure myself although I probably won’t be telling you about that until there’s a deeper connection.

Men are typically action-orientated but we do think about what we’re going to do. It doesn’t mean we’ll act on it but it does mean we’re considering more. And if that includes you our thoughts can lead us  to imagine a plan for the future.

All things aside…

  • When a guy wakes up thinking about you he’s feeling more than just attraction.
  • When a guy texts you in the middle of the night to tell you what’s on his mind and it’s you, he’s looking for you to confirm the attraction.
  • When a guy can not get you out of his mind he WANTS to be with you. He may be considering a greater commitment.

Bottom Line…

When a guy feels the need to tell you he is thinking about you, it means he’s more than just “interested” in you, he also wants to know or find out if you’ve been thinking about him too.


Peter White. Just some guy every woman should get to know because, well I “think” like a guy. 🙂 Stay in touchnewsletter, Why Do Guys Facebook – Twitter @peterwhite125Thanks for stopping by and be good, be bad, just BE something.

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  • Becky


    Wondering if you could help me. Been texting a guy for a few years on and off, always making plans to meet then he would cancel last minute or just not get in touch. After 6months of this we finally met. We had an ace night and he was texting me after saying he had an ace time, and now we had finally met I wouldn’t be able to get away from him.. Jokingly flirting. We met again two days later and we kissed but nothing more. Texting me saying he couldn’t stop thinking about me and things and It was all fine. A week after that we planned to meet but he cancelled on me a couple hours before we were meant to meet. Asked my later that night to meet the next day. I had plans with my family, so I told him this. He hasn’t messaged me back since. This was two weeks ago.. It’s all a bit confusing and I don’t know what his game is. Any advice would be grateful!



    I was seeing a guy on and off for a year and a half for s** which he texted
    me one day he had decided to make me his lover.. then about two months ago
    he texted me not called.. to tell me he found GOD and that he loves me as a
    friend ..but we could no longer have s**. I was very hurt and confused ..still
    am .. because he send me a text today which I initiated by saying good morning.
    He responded he was thinking of me..also he has a son with the baby momma
    which he told me that she was not giving him any and they were always fighting.
    I really like him ALOT ..always did ..but was wondering do you think he is just
    going through some funk and needs time to figure it out ..and may try to come back to me maybe not for s** but for company ?

  • Thewriter

    A happily married man i am collaborating on a project with once sent me an email after i said happy holidays. “Ive been thinking about you.” Nothing has happened but i am always wondering what he meant. I am married too. he has two adult children. I am attracted to him but will never let anything happen.

  • lol

    Hey! Would a guy say “you’re on my mind” or “you’re driving me crazy” if he actually doesn’t mean it…? These have come with no fishing from me whatsoever…

    • Peter White

      Hey to you too! Let’s take it down a notch though. 🙂

      I don’t see many circumstances where a guy would say those things without meaning them unless it was part of a larger scheme to game you into having sex. Which by the way, would be rare.

      “you’re on my mind” can mean anything from “he likes you” to “he’s imagining you naked” to “Something just reminded me of you and I felt you should know how it made me feel… good.”

      “you’re driving me crazy” taken out of context is tough but unless you were in the middle of pissing him off or confusing him because he wasn’t sure you liked him or kept cancelling on him, I’d say it means… “You’re driving me crazy… wink wink…” or in direct man’s terms. “You get me hard. You excite me. I want you… now!”


      • Lol

        Hi Peter,

        Thanks for replying <3 very much appreciated.

        The whole "making me crazy" comment was definitely taken in a positive way…. but I suppose I wondered if guys say things like that randomly (without fishing) when it's not genuine.

        Personally, I would only say that stuff if I meant it but some people may say it so they don't run the risk of closing a door completely…

        Thanks again 😀

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